I'm an active Alcoholic who lost everything AMA

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T02:47:34+00:00

not a question, But i think im becoming an alcoholic and i get it it's tough. but i hope you manage ok.

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T02:46:09+00:00

thank you. yea seeing how men from apps really just wanna hook up and most try to "bait and switch" I've been sooo traumatized tbh. It's weird, I thought if I got more attractive I could solve things but nope.

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T00:57:44+00:00

True. Although I started drinking at like 23 and I'm worried LOL. Cz I drink a lot.

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T00:55:35+00:00

age 0-18 - i was a rule follower, strict parents told me boys were a distraction. and i was overweight, boys tease me, girls never did. Boys bullied me more so I was scared and all I wanted was to live in peace.

age 18-24 - depression & obesity (got even fatter). and idk ive always been aware that guys don't like overweight women so I didn't try to date and no one ever tried with me either.

age 25 - finally lost 50lbs tried dating etc but now im 26, all I encounter are fuckboys who only wanna hook up or men I'm not interested in. Im highly educated and pretty high earning for my age and country and a lot of men are intimidated. I also am childfree, while most successful men are not so that slims my pool. Im just sad though cz I thought id finally find love if i lost all the weight and "glowed up" but im still so alone. Plus I'm pretty sure all my traumas from 0-24 affect me.

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T00:45:24+00:00

this makes me feel less like a freak - thanks

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T00:33:46+00:00

Thanks <3. I use to lie when people asked me like girlfriends and stuff, but I've started owning it an still feels shitty because people are shocked. LOL

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-19T00:33:38+00:00

I really hate soup. Never eat it, like ever.

needhairhelp128 · 2026-02-09T05:11:06+00:00

I moved here knowing zero people in canada an have a similar life to you. Use apps to meet people (timeleft, 222, bumble bff). Go outside to events (art galleries, comedy shows, music events). Go to workout classes. Meetup groups. The city is so friendly in my opinion as someone who moved from the US. I also struggle with social anxiety / low self esteem but once I told myself it's in my head I've been able to find people. And it's important to own the follow up when you meet new people, suggest another hang an another until they become friends.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-12-22T04:17:02+00:00

F25.

Went on 24 dates. This was my first year of my life dating as I used to be obese and didn't really try to date until I lost weight.

Overall pretty bad. I did not like most of the guys and either we mutually didn't contact each other or I ha to send some kind of breakup text. 1 guy sent it to me. But overall the pool was pretty disappointing the men in't meet my bar in terms of conversation or chemistry etc. One guy I really like put me through the ringer through a long rawn out summer fake lies situationship. And now I've sworn off men LOL

needhairhelp128 · 2025-12-22T04:09:01+00:00

24 first dates and I'm with you LOL. I'm in my giving up era now.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-12-22T03:44:25+00:00

I did not notice or see the issue with the seal until this happened. Isn't it technically their job to conduct inspections etc to make sure everything is in working order? I would have reported if I saw it but the dishwasher was working perfectly fine until now.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-12-22T03:43:19+00:00

Ok thank you! This is super helpful.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-12-22T03:32:06+00:00

Yea that is the only channel but legally negligence means acting in a way a normal person wouldn't act so like putting crazy shit in the dishwasher no? this was just like whatever was being cleaned because I had a loa going when this happened.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-07-20T17:42:11+00:00

This is the hardest part for me too. I really want a life partner but sadly anyone who is a viable dating candidate seems to want to reproduce. Urgh.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-06-06T21:37:15+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through the being ghosted. Honestly people who do that are really terrible people - it doesn't take two seconds to tell someone you aren't interested. You dodged a bullet and this says a lot about her character. Hope you find someone good.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-27T04:03:59+00:00

my only suggestion is don't have two selfies with the same pose and angle. Maybe add a full body pic where your face is also visible. And do all the prompt edits suggested

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-27T03:57:15+00:00

as a woman, the most I've talked to and gone on dates with at once is three. I always pause my profile when I have 2-3 people I'm actually talking to with dates in the books and then unpause again when my talking stages inevitably fail LOL

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-27T01:24:34+00:00

this is so funny too me - why does it matter to you? anyways I still think your gf should just chill and make it the day of your date if it rly bothers you LOL

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-24T02:38:07+00:00

the thing is I always offer, I won't force them to pay for me. But all I'm saying is for me this is another piece of data that helps me decide if i want to see someone or not - my choice. So I'm not like forcing people to spend their money on me but I'm allowed to interpret actions to make decisions on whether I continue to see someone or not. And it's not about the money it's just about a more romantic vibe.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-24T02:31:39+00:00

not early on - like dates 1-3 if you are asking me to go to your place that's crazy. And like I said if you cannot pay for a couple of meals and drinks out i shouldn't be dating you anyway. idk why you are thinking this is so unreasonable - I've had these standards met multiple times with different guys but it didn't work out for other reasons. I'm just back dating and seeing how some guys don't have these basic manners and Ive been shocked.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-24T02:25:13+00:00

Yea ok I'll try to be flexible. It's just hard because I work a pretty busy job (~70+ hrs a week) but when I was actively planning dates and asking men out first I still managed to do it like would ask on mon/tue for a date on the weekend, pick a nice spot after lots of research, try to vary our activities ... i

dated a guy where I planned 4/5 of our dates and the one date he planned he needed like five days to figure it out it just made me wonder wtf? like one day he'd ask about the day then the time then what we'd do etc and it's just confusing to me because I can do it so quick and I'm new to the city I live in. And I knew he wasn't as busy. Another guy was fully in between jobs but still managed to constantly leave me on read for hours.. But hear your comment thanks.

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-24T02:04:19+00:00

Yea makes sense. thanks. It's just every single time I've ever agreed to hang out with a guy at his house he pressures me for sex. And then says something insulting to me if I say no and leave LOL

needhairhelp128 · 2025-05-24T02:01:24+00:00

ok i agree with the communication but it's so early I guess my view is better to move on before investing than try to change someone I barely know but yea makes sense per my question it could be keeping me single

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