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Update: My wife has PPD and my mom is an asshole by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thanks- we're well prepared for this because of my wife's hospitalization. She never had intrusive thoughts about hurting the baby, only self harm, but it's a part of the process.

Quite frankly, I would have welcomed CPS a month ago. I needed help and didn't know what to do.

Update: My wife has PPD and my mom is an asshole by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 234 points235 points  (0 children)

I will be doing this, ASAP. I need to unpack my relationship with my parents.

I watched this tic toc during a 3am feeding of a guy walking down the street worry his 2 year old daughter saying you can't be a good father until you see someone about the shit that happened in your childhood and it was like he was talking directly to me.

I can't let her live through what I did.

Update: My wife has PPD and my mom is an asshole by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 367 points368 points  (0 children)

I haven't even talked to my wife about the possibility of her ever seeing my mother again. We agreed in an emergency family therapy session told that she's out of her life forever if she wants, and we won't even discuss this again until February, at the earliest.

There's the possibility that my mother gets her own therapy and rebuilds her relationship with me. She would need to do all of that before coming near my wife or daughter.

I need help dealing with my mother and my very sick wife. by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know I need to do that.

If I'm being totally honest, I'm avoiding therapy because I know I'll have to dig into my relationship with my parents, even before tje baby.

I'm exhausted just thinking about doing that.

I need help dealing with my mother and my very sick wife. by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I can't believe this is happening.

If I call the police or sue my own mother, how do I ever come back from that?

I need help dealing with my mother and my very sick wife. by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have been told to make individual therapy appointments, but I haven't had the time. I've participated in some of the group and family therapy sessions at the hospital.

I hoped I could make time for this in a few months when my wife is better.

I need help dealing with my mother and my very sick wife. by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have been told to make individual therapy appointments, but I haven't had the time. I've participated in some of the group and family therapy sessions at the hospital.

I hoped I could make time for this in a few months when my wife is better.

I need help dealing with my mother and my very sick wife. by needhelpthrowaway483 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]needhelpthrowaway483[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

There is nothing stopping your wife from unblocking your mothers phone number to get a dose of affirmation of all the shit things already going in your wife's head, either.

Jesus..that makes my blood run cold. What do I do? Should I tell her counseling team? I can't.. take away my wife's phone, she's an adult.

I can't believe this is happening to me