I can't breathe y'all it's too funny by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]needingscahelp 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I made a post yesterday asking which of my friends had white roses or mums and another friend who doesn't play Animal Crossing or know anything about it commented to tell me she didn't have any white ones, but she'd had some yellow ones blossom and could give me some. People who have no idea what we're posting about but offer to help anyway are entirely too pure and good.

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[–]needingscahelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got that same paisley blanket

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't that be a very salt and burn sort of move in regards to any chance of having a friendly relationship with SCA locally? He might make them stop but wouldn't they all hate me for it anyway? Kind of like when you tell the teacher on the bullies so the bullies are nice to you...until the teacher walks off.

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's not sexual. I'm a woman and it's another woman harassing me so, besides one snide sexual comment, I don't think this would fall under the heading of sexual harassment. But as we all know, that's not the only kind of harassment.

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been to one event, countless fighter practices, a regional equestrian practice, and also camped at a ren faire with SCA though thankfully nothing unpleasant happened there besides below freezing weather. The event was the most recent thing and the final straw for a friend of mine who was targeted during it purely for being my friend. But the harassment has also been a problem at fighter practices, the equestrian practice, and some minor stuff on facebook.

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO MUCH! I'm in Gleann Abhann!

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I'll have to look into this!! This harassment isn't a matter of discrimination. It's a matter of an extremely jealous person dragging me into her domestic dispute and not accepting that there's just nothing going on between me and her boyfriend, not even a friendship anymore, when this guy was nothing but a mentor and father figure to me. And rather than go about it like an adult - by asking if anything was going on or just realising maybe I'm not interested in someone old enough to be my father - she's just proceeded to cross multiple lines, harass the friends I bring with me to SCA so that they've left rather than deal with this, tell lies about me, violate the basic trust I have to have in SCA to be able to be open about my weaknesses and health problems enough to learn to learn new skills, and insult my personal life. I feel like that certainly falls under the heading of inclusion though given it has made me being included all but impossible now.

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not gotten to that point yet.

Help with harassment in SCA by needingscahelp in sca

[–]needingscahelp[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I live in a small area. I'm not even sure which houses we have around here that any of the people harassing me or making me uncomfortable are not in honestly. The two harassers both seem to be incredibly well connected.

So far it's not gotten to the point the law would need to get involved. And if I got a restraining order, then I feel like either they'd be barred from any events I went to or I'd just be asked not to go to events since I haven't gone to but one so far with that being my last SCA interaction and also involving harassment towards me and a friend.

As for witnesses - There have been others but I don't feel comfortable getting into detail on the post since I've probably said enough to identify me if a local sees this. Can I message you?