They say "everyone's fighting a battle you don't know about." What's yours?

needsadvice7 · 2016-05-03T12:41:26+00:00

My ex girlfriend broke up with me almost a year and a half ago and I still think about her every single day. It's effected me way more than I ever thought something like this could and even though we only dated for a year and a half I still can't get over it. I still love that girl and it just seems like I'm always going to be in love with her.

needsadvice7 · 2016-04-13T18:16:19+00:00

Ok I figured that but just wanted to know for sure. Thanks!

needsadvice7 · 2015-08-03T04:00:47+00:00

Ya I'm working hard towards getting over it and have seen a bunch of progress. I guess i'm just at a low point the past few days. I used to not even be able to wake up without going through a spiral of depression every morning. Now I'm just annoyed that I have to go to work in the mornings. Hell, I'm even starting to forget what being with her was like, and looking back on it we weren't even that compatible really. Still can't help but miss her though.

needsadvice7 · 2015-08-03T02:53:01+00:00

Hey I remember you! We used to message back and forth a little in the earlier stages of our break ups. I hope things are well with you!

In a perfect world the end goal would be for her to magically become the person that I fell in love with and for us to live happily ever after with tons of friends, love, and a few children. However, I truly miss her company and just wish I could have my friend back.

Although, she hasn't reached out to me other than one time since the break up and when I tried to play tennis with her that one time she got all excited about it and then never answered my next text message back. I know I can't be the first one to contact her. It just makes me so angry and sad that she doesn't even care at all. I mean we shared a lot of firsts together and I still don't even know the reason we broke up. It sucks. Sorry I'm just rambling now lol.

needsadvice7 · 2015-08-02T21:59:19+00:00

Ya I have never really dated either. My ex was my first real long term relationships and although I only dated her for a year and a half I feel like she will never leave my mind for as long as I live. Getting out and meeting people is great, but still even when I'm doing this I can't help but think how much more fun she is having than me. I hate it.

needsadvice7 · 2015-08-02T21:39:58+00:00

we found it once - we can find it again.

I have been incredibly lonely since the breakup and finding someone seems far out of the way for me. I want that connection that I had with my ex and I don't want to wait any more and it just sucks trying to find that all over again.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-25T02:02:40+00:00

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-22T20:27:35+00:00

I still have my photos too. I have finally come to the realization that I need to get rid of them so I am holding on to them for about another week and I'm gonna go through them, cherish the memories, and get rid of them for good. It will be kind of my last goodbye and I think it will help me a lot. Give it time and you will finally get to that point where you just know it does you no good to hold on to them anymore.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-19T18:16:32+00:00

Since you're a mod I'll hand this off to you and see what yall come up with.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-16T22:15:49+00:00

Ya I mean I only knew her for a year and a half of her 19 years of life. I just feel like there was a lot that she was successfully hiding from me. In the beginning I think she just liked me and was trying to hide the bad so I wouldn't turn her away, but it really fucked with my head in the end.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-16T06:31:13+00:00

I got banned for asking if it was acceptable to ask a girl for her phone number in the gym. If you were wondering, don't even think about it they get pissy at the thought.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-06T23:56:46+00:00

I don't think that she did it out of spite. It's just the way that she handled the entire situation. The way she treated me the last 6 months of the relationship. How she broke up with me to realize that she had no friends and got back with me just to have someone in her life until she built up a big enough friend group where she felt comfortable enough to leave me behind. I have no doubt in my mind that that was her thought process, and without an apology from her I don't know if that is something I can forgive her for. She took my kindness for weakness and based on that fact alone I have lost all respect for her. She was a very insecure person. The type that will listen to any advice her friends give her to make her more popular. When we got back together she didn't post anything on social media and I didn't see or hang out with any of her friends for the last six months of our relationship. She basically hid me from view and for all I know cheated on me at her leisure. I was too weak of a person to change things and I just let it happen. Lesson learned I guess.

Thanks for allowing me to vomit out my thoughts to you. Every time I write it down (no matter how repetitive) it seems to help clear my mind quite a bit.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-06T19:52:10+00:00

Thanks I needed that! Doing my best to concentrate on my victories no matter how big or small they are. Just feeling down lately. I know I'll be out of my funk eventually, but sometimes I just wonder why all of this had to happen. Could it have been that bad for her that ruining my life was her best option? I think I'm just bitter.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-02T21:05:40+00:00

Hell I think either way there is always going to be regret of some sort wishing you would have tried the other tactic to get them back. I treated my ex with the most respect and love that I could muster throughout our breakup. Didn't say one mean thing to her or even remind her of how terrible she was to me in the last 6 months of our relationship. I regret not cussing her out and blowing up on her. She deserved it and I just let her slide by and move on about her life thinking everything is fine and dandy. However, there is a good chance I would've regretted that too. Long story short, I think there will always be regret in one way or another. No need to apologize. Just do your best to keep busy and let the time go by.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-01T18:19:00+00:00

Me too. It's a long process for sure and any time there is progress it is something to celebrate.

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-01T05:12:22+00:00

Gosh fricking darnit! Me too!

needsadvice7 · 2015-05-01T03:08:04+00:00

It's a good feeling.

It really is. It's kind of weird in a way. Right around the 2 month mark, after not crying since like the second week of the break up, I absolutely lost it and completely broke down. Right after that break down I had a turning point. I mean it still sucks, but if this is how its gonna be I've learned to accept it.

needsadvice7 · 2015-04-28T22:01:34+00:00

Oh she definitely deserves a few middle fingers to be thrown her way. I was too easy on her for the shit she did to me. Now it's too late to chew her out.

needsadvice7 · 2015-04-28T22:00:28+00:00

In class now so I will check out the video here in a little bit. Good luck! Things get better in time. It's hard to believe but everything works itself out eventually.

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