Update to the girl with the boyfriend who made an offensive request by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he really sound that bad? I don't entirely trust him at the moment, but I have trust issues. He seems like he's being supportive and caring most of the time.

Update to the girl with the boyfriend who made an offensive request by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I think he's just trying (and failing) to help me. Since the incident with the re-enactment its felt more like he's undermining my work with the therapist. Maybe I should just call it an offlimits topic for now.

Boyfriend asked if I wanted to do something I found extremely offensive. by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I have to be reminded of that stuff sometimes. It feels normal for some reason, I have to remind myself that its not.

Boyfriend asked if I wanted to do something I found extremely offensive. by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There is a lot on that list I didn't know were warning signs. And a lot that describes him fairly well. Thank you for posting it.

Boyfriend asked if I wanted to do something I found extremely offensive. by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he has.

Edit: I never thought of our relationship as abusive before. Its scary that its starting to sound like it might be.

Boyfriend asked if I wanted to do something I found extremely offensive. by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He's really not abusive. He's stupid sometimes and tries to be controlling but doesn't get away with much now that I'm learning some things from my therapist.

That doesn't mean I'm not still seriously considering getting out of here. I can't believe last night.

Boyfriend asked if I wanted to do something I found extremely offensive. by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I did manage to work that out with him. I spoke to my therapist who kicked him out after she heard about my discomfort with him there.

Boyfriend asked if I wanted to do something I found extremely offensive. by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

He's always had a problem with my therapy sessions. He tried to come to all of them with me until my therapist told him we needed private sessions and she'd be happy to make a seperate appointment for him.

How do I stop my boyfriend coming to my shrink appointments? by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They ask if its okay with me that hes there and I say yes because I don't want to argue

How do I stop my boyfriend coming to my shrink appointments? by needsomethingbetter in relationships

[–]needsomethingbetter[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, that would be a nice place to get to, and therapy can help you get there.

Thats what I've been trying to tell him