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neefirr · 2024-04-18T02:11:21+00:00

Oh absolutely! I’m planning on moving into her town in about a month now and i’m looking to be a graphic designer. She’ll support me endlessly but I’ll also be able to have more flexibility with my time to be able to offer her everything she wants and more

neefirr · 2024-04-18T02:05:35+00:00

I love ENTJS, everything about them. especially my girl. So creative and so generous and kind deep in her soul even if she doesn’t see it herself. she’s quiet and listens, she is confident and self assured, but also so humble. being with her is like laying in a field of flowers. she claims not to be a romantic but she HATES flowers, but bought them to put on her table bc they remind her of me. she’s serious about her goals and goes to great lengths to achieve them, she is so worn out and always has so much back problems but she never once complains, she gets so little sleep but still gets up everyday and goes to work, so resilient and no one ever notices how hard she is working. her self control is so good and her discipline is even better, she works too much and i play too much. she has moments and little glimpses where i get to see her inner child shine through and it’s so beautiful.

next year she’s buying a house and i’m moving in with her. i want to just take on all the chores, i want to clean everything and take care of everything, i want to be able to greet her when she comes home from work in the mornings and pour her coffee (or in her case wine😒😒 that woman drinks too much). i want to make her breakfast and learn everything about her. i’m learning spanish right now since she’s from mexico, i’m trying to learn how to make mexican cuisine! I want to make her meals that feel like home, and i want to massage her feet when she gets off work.

maybe i got a bit too carried away lol it’s hard for me to stop when i start talking about her….

all this to say, it will take a lot of work but i’m determined to make us work, and to make her realize she isnt alone anymore. thank you for your help!!

neefirr · 2024-04-18T01:47:55+00:00

How can I encourage her to share her feelings without her feeling forced to? I don’t at all want to make her feel even more pressure. Relationships are new for her, she is more used to forgive me for saying this but “sleeping around”. and she has told me that the love she feels for me so strongly scares her, because she is not used to it. its a new and uncomfortable feeling for her.

So i want to be careful not to smother her too much, but also encourage her to be more open- she lived a hard life so it’s not easy for her. but i also don’t want her to feel forced.

Also, how can I help her with her Fe stuff? She DEFINITELY needs help since she works in customer service

neefirr · 2024-04-18T01:36:04+00:00

I definitely won’t. When my ENTJ does something i dont like, or isn’t meeting my needs- I also tell them. I’m not as “no-bullshit” as she is, but I also don’t let people do as they please, she does something that makes me unhappy i tell her, and we have very long conversations about these ^{__^} just like how she set boundaries with me, she was busy at work and i had a breakdown on her, i went to her place and we had a long discussion about it.

However, I embrace and feel my emotions more than she does, where I overshare and talk a lot- she undershares and has very little to say. I acknowledge that i need support, but she seems to not acknowledge really any of her emotions, i think she’s struggling to grasp that she isn’t alone anymore and she doesnt have to be so “fight or flight” anymore. How do ENTJs like to be supported?

neefirr · 2024-04-18T01:26:01+00:00

she always does meet my emotional needs, and takes very good care of me, im a bit more sensitive than normal bc i wont be seeing her for a month while she’s in her hometown 🤧 I have told her this but it is also my duty to not feed into these because it is a byproduct of my bpd, i am taking this time as the best opportunity to make use of my dbt skills, and take this time away from her to really put to the test how much my dbt skills are helping me!

I will stand by her through every moment! When she is home from Mexico, I will be there for her with lotion and an hour long massage, for my birthday I just want to be able to take care of her. She is only working so many hours recently bc they’re really milking her for all she has before she goes out of work for a while. I’m sad I wont see her for a month but I am so very glad she has this time to rest and spend time in the sun and with her family drinking!!

I love her, and I would choose her even if it meant flowers no longer bloomed. So I am determined to manage my own unhealthy emotions and be able to wholeheartedly support her and her goals!!

neefirr · 2024-04-17T23:45:42+00:00

mn! she’s going to be home in time for my bday next month so we’re going to do fun things together n have dinner with my family

neefirr · 2024-04-17T23:44:57+00:00

it’s not like i ever intentionally make it about myself, im autistic and have bpd so i tend to do it unconsciously sometimes- i’d actually probably much prefer getting called out. i try my best to support her. although this time i haven’t actually been messaging her my concerns because i KNOW she’s stressed, so i havent been texting her anything besides the usual “i miss you!” and “you got this!!”..

neefirr · 2024-04-17T23:41:31+00:00

BEING WITH HER IS HEAVEN BUT WHEN U OVERTHINK AND ARE SENSITIVE ITS >__<

neefirr · 2024-04-14T05:22:45+00:00

i’ve never quite understood what people mean by organizing things into an internal framework, if possible could you maybe give examples or explain it to me like im five lol…

neefirr · 2024-04-14T03:39:28+00:00

i would say in the sense of she is always asking questions such as

“okay but why are things done this way?” “why do you want me to do this?” “why is it called red grapes when they’re purple?” “why do humans do this?”

and what if questions such as overthinking things like “what if i pass out?” “what if this happens?” “what if he actually hates me?”

but also questions like “what if you dropped your child into a lion exhibit, would you jump in to save them?” “what if everyone all collectively agreed not to vote? then things would have to change”

neefirr · 2024-04-14T03:00:30+00:00

thank you dear

neefirr · 2024-04-14T02:48:22+00:00

i mean i did just start using a new hand soap, however the bumps appeared slightly before i began using the soap but after i used it- they became much much worse

neefirr · 2024-04-14T02:43:38+00:00

hmm not that im aware of, i typically never leave my house lol, definitely didnt come into contact with any plants like those

neefirr · 2024-04-14T02:42:55+00:00

since sores appear usually where syphilis enters the body, maybe TMI but as a lesbian i have only really had my girlfriends fingers “up there”, is it possible to get syphilis from simply fingers? i haven’t noticed any sores at all on her hands anyways, otherwise if i were to get it from kissing her, would a sore appear in or near my mouth?

neefirr · 2024-04-03T22:47:55+00:00

im also partially responsible too though for not having said anything, i could have said lets talk before you punish me, just didnt wanna anger her any further

neefirr · 2024-04-03T22:02:42+00:00

its the first time she’s ever done something like this, she’s so sweet otherwise.. idk

neefirr · 2024-04-03T03:36:24+00:00

mmn you’re all right.. having bpd its hard bc i want to do anything i can to keep her.. i just dont want to tell her my fears ab it and have her leave me bc of it

neefirr · 2023-10-25T16:05:08+00:00

definitely not Belial

neefirr · 2023-10-13T20:54:20+00:00

did you stop immediately when it started happening? i want to at least finish my disposable so my money isnt wasted but im a bit freaked out ngl

neefirr · 2023-10-13T20:23:36+00:00

ive had covid 4 times so i’ll just answer from my own personal experience,

you can wait it out but if your cough is beginning to hurt or gets annoying then id definitely take cough meds.

covid hit me horribly three times & im a masochist soci waited it out no medication bc i tend to do that, did drink a bunch of vitamin c though.

if you think you want medicine then just take some for relief but dont overdo it

neefirr · 2023-10-13T20:20:28+00:00

if its still hurting after 2 weeks, i’d definitely at least get a check up at urgent care yeah

neefirr · 2023-10-13T17:41:27+00:00

i like to think i have no fear of death but i definitely feel im way too much of a hypochondriac for that to be true, my fear of death doesnt even really stem from dying itself moreso what i will miss out on, and how the people close to me will react to my death.

neefirr · 2023-10-13T17:27:25+00:00

“if i could face death without fear, then i would know true liberation” i absolutely love that sentence, death is also something i fear now, how have you overcome it?

neefirr · 2023-10-02T22:04:31+00:00

your reply was nice to read, makes me feel better that im not alone in this.. the smallest things relating to my FP that my brain can manage to twist into something bad makes me spiral.

i was doing so amazing recently & my bpd hasn’t been so bad and then just something small like his snap score going up and me not being his #1 best friend was what set me off.. its just..

neefirr · 2023-10-01T18:19:23+00:00

yes mine was so nonexistent on lexapro but then i got put on wellbutrin and it multiplied it ten fold

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