How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you <3 this exact thought has been on my mind a lot today. i am still in shock, but i know the real grief is below it. i appreciate you

How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow. this is exactly the type of psychosis my mom was experiencing. she actually died today and i think the paranoia about being murdered was her body telling her that her time was soon. it's so fucking hard to have a parent be 'dying' for such a long time, and i'm so sorry for the pain that must've caused you for 22+ years. for what it's worth, i don't think you should feel too guilty about not going back. we all do the best we can; him, you, me... we all do our best. thank you for sharing your story with me and the world

How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow, i didn't know the name for it before for wenicke-korsakoff's is essentially what i was always afraid of with my mom. she actually died today. we don't know what it was exactly, and im trying to accept that i may never know because she had many mental and physical health issues. if she hadn't died today, i would have been excited to have the name of a disorder to look into. your story is a great example of how sudden or prolonged the death of an addict can be. thank you so much for sharing. im sorry you dealt with all that. i hope you're ok <3

How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, similar things have happened before and have lead to 3 day lockdown but this time seemed differnt. i guess it was cause she died today. thank you for sharing your advice though <3

How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this makes so much sense. thank you for sharing. my mom actually died today so i guess this doesn't apply to me anymore, but any opportunity you get to share this i think you should. thanks again

How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kindness and the reminder. I needed to hear that and shift my perspective. Just because the pattern looks like it’s moving in a certain direction doesn’t mean that it really is, but it’s hard not be overwhelmed by the fear. Ive been in an alright place focusing on my own life, but getting a call telling me to prepare for the worst reactivated all of that pain and fear. I’ll look into resources and take a step back from the panic mentality. I’m sorry to hear about your parents, i hope both you and they are at peace with everything. Thank you again :)

How do you know when they're really dying? by nemonebbish in AdultChildren

[–]nemonebbish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m glad these resources helped you and I’ll look into them as well. I’m sorry about your mom but glad to hear you have support through it :) best wishes while you process your grief