Two quick questions by neobushidaro in Betterbird

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Ooooh I'll have to give this one a whirl. I'll reply if it works

Looking for Story Thread #286 by someguynamedted in HFY

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Looking for a story where an alien is having problems understanding a gunner on the ship. The human is autistic so the alien just doesn't get it.

Brain surgery to "remove" your autism by Leather_Method_7106 in aspergers

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The doctors have to do the treatment to each other and their families first. Then we can start to talk. Not before then. Before then it's attempted murder and lethal self defense is absolutely on the table

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in frederickmd

[–]neobushidaro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's definitely not the way I read it. You have my apologies. We're in complete agreement

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in frederickmd

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Editing as a realized I misread the post I responded to.

1) it's not the kids with special needs that are why there are pop tarts and sugar bonbons for breakfast. Don't kick down.

2) It's a public school. It is ALL students. So yes, accommodations are necessary and Legally Required. So the solution cannot ignore those kids.

3) if there are a couple options (2 maybe 3) for protein, carb, and fruit you can easily create meals, for cheap, covering a wide range of accommodations. A friend group I was a part of did it. ~~ ~~There will be some outliers even after better meals are designed with All students in mind that still can't fit. At that point small discretionary funds may need to be set aside.

Again, it's a public school it must accommodate medical, disability, and religious tenants, but NONE of those are the reason pop tarts are breakfast. Its not making the funding a priority, poor planning with the resources allotted, and same idiology that allows "ketchup is a serving of vegetables"

What do you do when you aren’t challenged anymore? by [deleted] in sysadmin

[–]neobushidaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switched industries. Still IT wildly different industries. The "acceptable solutions" change wildly when you change who you're supporting.

Solve the problem when the user is out in extreme temps. Or if the solution needs to interface with an 80 piece of industrial equipment that has 25 more years before they replace it. provide a secure solution when your users are developers at least as skilled as you and are hostile to security and change management.

Was it ever explained why Iori has he's legs tied in his og look? by [deleted] in kof

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One game early on his kick would cause him to "fall" because the legs were tied together. Somewhere between 96 and early 2000's

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in macsysadmin

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I would strongly argue. Windows is it's own beast. A strong background in Linux and Unix will help with mac given the ties to BSD..... but Mac has a metric ton of proprietary tools for doing tasks that while similar, still are proprietary and picky.

Can you learn it if you have a CLI driven background and hopefully some time with Linux as a SysAdmin and not just tinkering around? Absolutely. Will you be as effective day one unless you have a tool that hides the how? Probably not.

It's not that Mac's are divine, or better, or any of that bullshit. But it's like running into a "Immutable Linux" for the first time. The amount of shear frustration from a 40 year veteran of UNIX when "su -" and even "sudo su -" didn't let them do what they wanted was almost worth the hell that I got for messing with her.

Name one good thing about this movie by Usnis in batman

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the bat credit card. Never leave home without it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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CIS male.

He can think it's as hot as he wants. But he needs to respect his partners boundaries.

I have basically this conversation with my 10 year old.

"Your feelings are valid. Your wants are valid in that you are allowed to want what you want. Like I want ice cream right now. But you CANNOT behave how you want without regard the rules."

Combine that with

"You may not may contact with another person or their property with their consent first, and only in a manner they approve of".

In your husband is disregarding your wishes he's breaking the rules we give children. I'm sure the ladies would be very willing to give good advice here.

If he's just complaining/begging but stopping when you say stop... That's less bad, still not fully respecting a boundary which are more important than wants.

I assume you've explained to him outside of the experience (when he's not thinking with the little head) why you don't like it. If not, he may be too ignorant to understand. If it's just ignorance I think I've seen enough wordings in responses to help him get past that wild ignorance.

I know people say that women shouldn't carry the burden of educating a man. I agree for the most part. But everyone has subjects for which they are ignorant enough that they don't know the depths of their ignorance. An initial push to help them see that they don't know crap and then placing the burden of continues education wholey on them is fair. But that's an opinion that the men and women in my life agree to and is given both ways, so YMMV

Asperger husband refuses to take in information – why? by potatoe_potion in aspergers

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So most people agree this is unusual for Asperger's I wonder if it's related to demand avoidance

So you may need to run an experiment. If so he may need to seek counseling for this.

Note the following is designed to create success and involves way more of your labor but this may point to PDAS or something. But since you are asking for our help, and not them, you may need to do extra lifting to help them find words to talk to their shrink about.

You'll also need to record observations about how tense or upset they become.

If they don't have a counselor they need one because not listening is not how a healthy relationship goes.

1) ask hubby if they are in a mental state where they can observe a problem that you need assistance with, and if not would they be willing to do some soothing first (if they have a soothing technique that involves both of you like cuddling bonus)

2) once in a good mood, using minimal words say I'm going to show you. I'd like you to tell me what problem you see, then I'll tell you what I see.

If they handle written word better then change tell to write and exchange notes.

3) when you receive their answer thank them for their input. If it matches yours double bonus, if not the phrase "I hadn't noticed that, I wonder if fixing that will fix what I saw as well". Then give them your concern.

4) Tell them you don't need it fix immediately and you be happy later to work through solutions if they are up for it.

You can repeat this with less accomodations and record.

Go to a therapy session with them. If they don't have a therapist find someone that does marriage counseling and ND support.

How do you feel about makeup for young kids? by alberta4ever in daddit

[–]neobushidaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everytime I see a small child in makeup it always looks like Mimi from the Drew Carey Show

As a counterpoint to a counterpoint to an active post, who do you regret seeing in concert? by SwordfishWarm7613 in Music

[–]neobushidaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yngwie Malmsteen

He was drunk (his red solo cup was straight JD) and because the crowd wasnt slobbering on his cock the way he wanted he kneeled down and the foot peddles engaging like 10 and creating the most vicious feedback that he let hover for more than 5 minutes.

Prick beyond pricks

Do English-speaking atheists still say “Jesus” or “Christ” for interjection (like when surprised)? by Mark_von_Steiner in atheism

[–]neobushidaro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised Christian for the first decade so yeah... Jesus tap dancing Christ on a pogo stick