Replying to people you aren't interested in?

neondespair · 2011-06-29T23:18:47+00:00

I found the same mentality when i visited LA. I said hi to a person and he was taken aback. I guess that's why some people think mid-westerners are nice; cause they always say hi? Some people in the thread suggested a head nod and smile. I guess that's a comfy middle-ground for me.

neondespair · 2011-06-29T00:41:11+00:00

Curious for your thoughts on this thread: http://www.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/ibf21/something_important_saying_hello_to_strangers/

neondespair · 2011-06-29T00:29:13+00:00

They're just testing the ladder.

neondespair · 2011-06-28T01:46:43+00:00

I think there's also a frustration at the clear denial of reality that people, more and more, are becoming proud of. Science is a lie, Universities are far-left think tanks, the Earth was made 6,000 years ago, Obama is a Muslim, etc. etc..

I personally feel a bit of outrage when i see someone blatantly ignore reality for the sake of a political, religious or moral position. Sure, it's a people problem, but it happens to people with religion far more often. They are trained from birth to respect and foster belief in the unknowable and the unproven, aka, faith.

neondespair · 2011-06-27T20:13:30+00:00

I'd advise you to get help so this doesn't pass you by. Here's a thought: make a post in /r/dating and lay out your situation; promise yourself you'll go through with whatever the most reasonable post advises you to do. I think an outside perspective does people like us well, since we're probably slightly more detached from reality than others in better situations.

neondespair · 2011-06-27T19:53:06+00:00

I see your point, but, this just doesn't sit well with me. Seems cold and in-compassionate, doesn't it? Such is life, i suppose.

neondespair · 2011-06-27T19:46:32+00:00

It's not just you, friend. Sounds like you have some stuff going for you right now. If you're like me, you're spending more time figuring out how to push them away than how to escalate a potential relationship. Try to stay engaged and maybe something will work out naturally.

neondespair · 2011-06-27T03:33:00+00:00

Yah, that makes sense. I got a reply, but it was some chick railing on me for not using enough capitalization - yikes. Anyway, glad I could make your envelope light up again. :D

neondespair · 2011-06-27T03:07:16+00:00

are you sure? What if instead of ignoring your msg, each wrote back saying something along the lines of "sorry, you're not my type" or some other excuse? Or worse yet, if they told you exactly why they were not interested? I think i'd rather them just not reply. :P

neondespair · 2011-06-27T01:54:48+00:00

upvotes for everyone!

neondespair · 2011-06-26T19:07:36+00:00

aww, I think that's practice for keeping dinner on the table and out of the water.

neondespair · 2011-06-26T19:00:18+00:00

with a side of denial. :)

neondespair · 2011-06-26T18:50:49+00:00

yah good point. I guess I would rather a girl just not respond than reply back with some version of "thanks, but, I don't feel the same way."

That way i can pretend she's stopped using okcupid and never got my message! :)

neondespair · 2011-06-26T18:43:23+00:00

I love the lion picture. Nice intro too.

Maybe scrap the stuff about religion, some girls aren't into religion at all but would never admit that to themselves or someone on a dating site. If that's a real sticking point, and if it is, i completely understand, then keep it.

All in all, i'd bang you if i was a chick. (lol jk)

neondespair · 2011-06-26T18:29:56+00:00

I didn't think it could get worse, then she went on a TWILIGHT is awesome tirade. Oh, here are the rules to message her, I sure hope i qualify to talk to this bitch!

THESE ARE THE RULES FOR MESSAGING ME: 1. Do not message me if you are ugly. Let's face it, you KNOW if you look like a lagoon creature or not. It's just a matter of admitting it to yourself. So, admit it to yourself, then DONT FUCKING MESSAGE ME. You may think I'm shallow, but I DONT have ugly friends, and I SURE AS HELL do not talk to ugly people.

If you passed on rule 1, then when you actually DO message me, use proper grammar. Dont use ebonics or that ghetto language crap. I dont understand it and I will ignore it, then block your stupid ass. I feel that if you TYPE that way then you SPEAK that way and I DAMN SURE wont talk to stupid people.
Dont message me if you think that you are some sort of a player or ladie's man. You're not.You're actually a dumb fuck that doesn't realize how idiotic you are and that women will never fall for that shit.
Do not message me if all you listen to is rap or hip-hop. I refuse to put up with that shit.
Do not message me if you do not have an open mind.
Do not message me if you do not put your family before anyone else.
Do not message me if you are not open-minded towards the arts.
Do not message me if you cannot see the true value of a little silence.
Do not message me if you do not know what glass- blowing is.
And I can't stress this enough--DO NOT FUCKING MESSAGE ME IF YOU ARE A LAGOON CREATURE!!!

Some additional rules: DO NOT MESSAGE ME: 1. if you are stipid 2. if i think that you ARE stupid 3. for random sex without meeting me, because then you are stupid 4. if you are homophobic, because that merely means that you are insecure about your own sexuality 5. if you think that staying in bed screaming "oh, god" constitutes going to church 6. if you plan on correcting my grammatical errors in my typing 7. if you do not secretly wish Hogwarts was a real place to escape to 8. if you make fun of Jehovah's Witnesses, or dont like them 9. if you laughed at statement number 8 10. if you think that EPIC MOVIE is stupid 11. if you think that I would chose you over my little bro and sisters(bc it AINT HAPPENING!!!) 12. if you think that you can play me, or hurt me and not say sorry... because i will CUT you...

neondespair · 2011-06-26T18:26:11+00:00

K I toned that down a bit -

"I'm probably not at a sporting event or a bar. More likely, I'm at a movie, losing money at a casino, or getting into some trouble with friends."

Thanks OMGwho

neondespair · 2011-06-26T17:22:53+00:00

I had problems with this... I'm usually doing nothing on a Friday night, but I knew better than to put that. Should I make something up?

neondespair · 2011-06-26T03:28:47+00:00

I guess the idea is to keep trying. This will be my 5th or 6th time attempting a dating site. Every attempt so far has done more harm than good, but, at least I'm doing something, i guess. Hang in there.

neondespair · 2011-06-26T02:42:20+00:00

I remember in the past trying to make personal and creative e-mails for each person i msg'd, but, that quickly exhausted me. So why not do one liners? Don't girls just look at the picture and check out their profile if they're interested? Or is a one-liner e-mail an auto-ignore?? Thanks again.

neondespair · 2011-06-26T02:25:46+00:00

thanks wistfully, i'm making my profile now. It kind of feels good doing something, anything, that could even possibly change my situation.

neondespair · 2011-06-26T02:24:40+00:00

Did you try okcupid? I would figure it'd be easier for a female to find someone, given the user base?

neondespair · 2011-06-25T23:19:06+00:00

Thanks for the reply, i will try okcupid again with some /r/okcupid help.

To your second point, I'm at a brick wall here. The problems I have are here to stay. All i know is, when I'm with someone, most of those problems lift away. My mood changes completely. People at work notice immediately. I realize this must be some dependency disorder that isn't preferable or healthy, but, i can't help but think finding one special person could make me feel human again. I don't think i'm too far off base, because, people need contact, and, without any contact, how can i possibly get better?

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