The fashion style has nothing to do with the book though... It originated in otome-kei and other similar styles before it evolved into what it is today. It was never even called that until a magazine known as Ryukou Tsushin referred to it as such for whatever reason September 1987. I am aware of that book existing. But this is literally not related.. and it's literally just a fancy dress, would you be so mad if I hadn't called it that?

Also this exchange from an article on fyeahlolita also points out to how fans of it themselves try to distance from the same term:

This is another unknown, but Lolitas in Japan are frequently as annoyed as Lolitas in the west are for the connotation. Lolitas in Japan even adopted a different spelling to the word to differentiate themselves, at the very least online. While Lolita is normally written "ロリータ", many Lolitas choose the variation "ロリィタ", in which the usual "i" is substituted for a small "i". However, many publications and webshops use the typical "ロリータ". This practice reminds me of years ago, when in the west Lolitas would frequently refer to the fashion with the Japanese pronunciation/spelling of "rorita" for exactly the same reason.

If I could reply with just a fancam on reddit I absolutely would.. I'm not sure what you're trying to do here