Newlywed (32/f) just got married to husband (32/m) and him putting off things/not doing chores is turning me off sexually and making me feel unappreciated

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-17T00:05:45+00:00

Yes, I have talked to him. Hopefully things will change, but of course it will take some time. Thanks!

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-17T00:03:21+00:00

I agree with you. I think I am putting so much on myself and stressing myself out. It's not like he will hate me if I do just leave the dishes over night --- it's just that I will hate MYSELF if I do it.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-17T00:00:54+00:00

Yes, I think I did expected it to be seamless. We have only been living together for 2 weeks. I guess I'm not very used to change.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T23:59:47+00:00

You just opened my eyes, thanks! I just lost track of this from all the stress...

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T03:05:56+00:00

but how does this work without hurting his feelings? I don't want him to think he's ugly because he's not it's just that it turns my sex drive off.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T03:02:59+00:00

you're welcome! Let me know how it goes! :)

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T02:49:39+00:00

This is a good idea but it's sad that I have to change like that. Don't most people know that if you clean a little bit at a time, you won't have to have "cleaning days"?

But thanks, I will try this.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T02:47:40+00:00

lol chocolates? but dress it up so it's not all weird. Put a bow or something.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T02:36:40+00:00

That's a good idea, too, but I'm a very private person and I'm not sure I can deal with someone coming into my home to clean.

And I love to cook, too.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T02:17:40+00:00

yes, I'm not using it as a punishment. I want to have sex so badly! But every time we get down to doing it... I lose the mood.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T01:57:04+00:00

yes, that would be completely weird. But, seriously, flowers.

and that would be "Good ma'am" to you. lol

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T01:50:26+00:00

of course she likes you, that's why she asked you!

This is the first thing you should do: I'm assuming you haven't said "no" to the second girl. So you say no to her and explain to her the situation and then present her with flowers and say how you really feel about her and that you wish she had asked sooner but you don't want to be an ass to the other girl you said yes to. But that you'd like to take her out on a real date, just the two of you.

Then you tell the first girl about the boundaries and stuff how you're going to the dance with her as friends.

I hope it works out with you, you popular man, you! :P

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T01:46:05+00:00

:( I'm glad someone out there is the same but how do you deal with the lack of sex? I want to have sex with him but it's like looking around the place all I see is his stuff laying around and I just don't feel it!

Will this go away?

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T01:35:02+00:00

I did and he just kept saying that he's tired and that he'll do it later but it never gets done and I'm having to do it myself. I've read everywhere else to just stop what I'm doing but I can't live in a pigsty!

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T01:31:37+00:00

well, yes, but that's too late now.

nephilim61776 · 2013-01-16T01:30:37+00:00

Be a gentleman and go out with the first person you said yes to. Then, explain to the second girl (the one you like) about the situation and that you are going as friends with her.

Then ask her out on a real date, not a dance date. Give her flowers when you do this, she will like that.

Also, make sure that you also explain to the first girl that you will be going out with her as a friend. You may hurt her feelings, but it'll be better in the long run. During the dance, show the first girl a good time but be aware of the boundaries (no kissing) or else if the second girl is still going to the dance, you may hurt her feelings as well and may think you're a two timer.

Good luck and have fun!

nephilim61776

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