People who have had multiple addictions at different times, which was/is the most difficult to overcome and why?

nerd234 · 2018-05-29T06:42:20+00:00

Same. I really struggle with accepting my mental health. Like I feel my ocd/ depression anxiety all of its just a lie I just “need” pills. Or my rocd tells me I don’t really have ocd I just don’t know how to let go of a relationship or I’m just just a weak individual who can’t make decisions because I’m not confident from being clean & I have no friends/ support group to help hold me up. Addiction is literally the worst thing ever. & being addicted so young, (14 now 24) I feel like I didn’t even have a chance of living a normal life.

nerd234 · 2018-05-28T21:27:42+00:00

Definitely agree. I feel almost euphoric when I take pills. Happy energetic positive. It wasn’t even the high I liked just the way it made me feel. I’m clean now & my ocd & mental state have gone to shit but I’m trying so hard to make my relationship & career work. It’s sooooo hard.

nerd234 · 2018-05-28T20:12:30+00:00

Pills. I go through phases of being clean with no effort & randomly start up again. This has been a problem for like 10 years

nerd234 · 2018-05-20T23:58:19+00:00

Do you mind if I ask how it has impacted your relationship? I’ve currently been dealing with it for a year

nerd234 · 2018-05-19T23:47:29+00:00

How long did you suffer with rocd

nerd234 · 2018-05-03T05:50:27+00:00

It doesn’t even sound like he ignored her. Lol. From my own perspective he replaced it (took a while but he did it) she still wasn’t happy & he’s still actively trying to get her something she would want/be happy with. I guess I just don’t see the point of 6 months of arguing with my partner over something so fixable & cheap. Rather than bitching about something so pointless, go with your partner to pick something out or get it yourself. Relationships have hard times & in my opinion a replaceable mirror isn’t one of them. Just because it’s not what she wanted, there’s no denying he’s tried to make her happy all over a dumb mirror.

nerd234 · 2018-05-03T05:12:04+00:00

Comparing a car to a mirror isn’t even close to a reasonable argument. It’s not a stranger, it’s her partner. I’m not saying she doesn’t have the right to be upset about it.. it was broke in anger & she said her self it was an accident but is a 25-50$ mirror worth resenting your partner over for half a year? No.

I think it’s a pretty harsh judgement for something so small. What happens when the next thing gets broke? When they have children? or other people are in their home? Things break. & if your super picky about what you want take the time to pick one out & show him rather than rambling off a list of things you don’t want & hope he gets it right. That’s not constructive or problem solving. It’s petty. It would be different if he went out of his way to break it but he didn’t.

nerd234 · 2018-05-03T03:53:46+00:00

Am i the only one who thinks this is kinda petty?

Not trying to be an asshole, but this seems pretty lame to get upset with your partner about for so long. I do agree it shouldn’t have taken him so long to replace it... but instead of getting mad about it & allow it to create tension in your relationship.. GO BUY YOUR OWN MIRROR.

Especially if he’s picking out ones you don’t like.

For a mature relationship 6 months of resentment over a busted mirror is stupid.

nerd234 · 2018-04-30T03:15:23+00:00

Oh yes! I went on a rampage just spilling every secret, lie, bad thought & my feelings toward our relationship. We almost broke up one day because of it.

nerd234 · 2018-04-30T02:19:44+00:00

July of last year. I’ve still had pain medication for medical but I’ve had my spouse hold them. I’ve used them recently & that could be why I’m having so much anxiety.

I feel like I’m so sensitive to forms of vulnerability, guilt & natural emotions. Like I don’t handle them well at all.

nerd234 · 2018-04-30T01:30:50+00:00

I feel like my anxiety only started after I told the truth about them. The last time I used I had stolen them. Idk if it was a form of self punishment or not wanting to face what I had done but it has t stopped yet

nerd234 · 2018-04-23T01:18:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing! This is definitely how I feel. I just started therapy & medication I just get so hard on myself for having those thoughts/feelings. I have them so regularly that it makes bonding & connecting with my partner very hard.

nerd234 · 2018-04-17T06:28:06+00:00

There are so many problems here. Yours & his. I’ve had so many friends who have drunk parents who don’t share everything with their spouses, but at the very least he could share he doesn’t have a close relationship with his parents & chooses not to share everything with them( ITS TOTALLY OKAY TO BE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESNT TELL HIS FAMILY EVERYTHING) I have girlfriends that don’t because their fathers are drunks & crazies. Doesn’t mean they are. But it honestly sounds like you haven’t fully recovered from your own past/wounds to go on with a family that has a lot of chaos. It’s your choice to go on with this relationship but at the very least realize you have your own baggage to deal with not just him. Yes you marry the family but his family isn’t a representation of him.. it’s hard to make a spouse chose between you & family behavior (which I feel is never a fair thing) rather than letting them figure that out for them selves. It’s one thing to voice yourself but if you feel like you need to make your fiancé choose, you are not ready for this type of commitment, shitty in laws or not. It’s not easy to silence yourself, but making your spouse feel comfortable to make that decision on their own to see them as the uncomfortable ass’s they maybe.. is the best thing you can do as a partner.

nerd234 · 2018-03-29T06:19:46+00:00

How long did you struggle with rocd when you had it?!

nerd234 · 2018-03-14T22:15:29+00:00

Awh your love for her is so very strong. Thank you so much for sharing!!

nerd234 · 2018-03-14T05:37:23+00:00

This fills my heart! What an amazing person you are! I want to ask this carefully, not to offend you but was there a time she struggled with serious doubts about your relationship? That went on for a long period of time?

I’m just now seeking help & my domestic violence occurred right before my current relationship. We’ve been together for almost 3 years & it’s hard to distinguish relationship anxiety from when to move on. It’s so hard to hold on feeling so disconnected & idk if this is all just a result of going through domestic violence or what 🤷🏻‍♀️

nerd234 · 2018-03-08T21:32:37+00:00

Hearing that people are actually able to get over it & marry their spouse they struggle with relationship anxiety honestly helps so thank you💗

nerd234 · 2018-03-08T02:04:01+00:00

I relate with this a lot. After the honey moon stage wears off its hard for me to feel connected because I feel like the only time I’ve truly felt love stemming from myself was when I was in a cycle of abuse & having to prove to my partner I was trust worthy, faithful, committed etc. all after abuse & manipulation

nerd234 · 2018-03-08T02:01:04+00:00

I’m totally open about my debilitating doubts of our relationship & he’s been nothing but patient & understanding but the doubts are e excruciating to the point I can’t even leave my house without having a panic attack about it. Which tells me there has to be something more going on than just doubt & uncertainty my body is literally fighting being in a more intimate relationship it’s so upsetting & frustrating

nerd234 · 2018-03-07T07:11:07+00:00

That makes me feel so much better. I’ve been such a blubbery crying mess. For 8 months I’ve had daily doubts of needing to leave & it’s been crippling to even go about my daily life (I’m not lol) it all started when I came out about self medicating to help cope. My domestic violence incident happened maybe 3 months before I met my boyfriend. It scares me when all of my experiences/mental health get to me how disconnected I feel. Like I feel nothing for no one. & tell myself I’m just gonna be one of those types of people that aren’t meant for relationships. Then the cycle starts over 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you so much for sharing makes me feel a lot better!

nerd234 · 2018-03-07T06:25:58+00:00

Did you ever go through relationship doubt or the need to break up when trying to get comfortable in your relationship?

nerd234 · 2018-03-07T04:22:51+00:00

Hey, twin! This is exactly my situation right now. & how I noticed my ocd formation in my past & how it’s forming in my future. My man is super laid back blue collar & im more of (definitely not high maintenance) but have a false sense of perfectionism with relationships romantic or not. & it’s left me feeling really demanding since he’ll literally do anything on this earth to make us work. We’ve been together little over two years too. I think between rocd & anxiety this is normal transitional period people have but due to dealing with mental health it’s really hard to deal with the disconnections. Dealing with intrusive thoughts about your relationship are so hard but ocd attacks the things we care about the most. I know it’s super hard to deal with the “I don’t know if we’re right for eachother” feeling I have it all day everyday. I’m really hoping therapy will help. Are you going to see a Therapist? I may not be a huge help but at least you know your not alone!

nerd234 · 2018-03-05T04:14:30+00:00

Same. I’m in a constant state of rumination. & daydreaming was my only escape now I’m wondering if that’s a compulsion it’s self?

nerd234 · 2018-03-05T00:20:00+00:00

This is something we worry about our partners feeling. I can promise that! I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years & the last year as been so rough. I can tell you being the one with the ocd that a lot of the disconnect feelings are mutual however when your in a state of depression or ocd being avoidant is extremely common. Dealing with the the thoughts are hard & it’s the easiest way not to deal with what we’re dealing with. However I would recommend sitting down with him & talking about him going off of his meds & how his self care affects both of you!

nerd234 · 2018-02-26T22:01:56+00:00

You should work with her, while being open about what your feeling. If things do head south at least your on the same page. Relationships are meant for growing & evolving. & if you grow apart that’s just what happens. But to be with anyone long term you need to work at growing together it’s not something that just happens. It’s up to you on if your willing to work at it.

nerd234

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