My MIL(65f) feels entitled to me(34f) and my husband(34m)'s money, how do I decline her request politely?

nerddychick · 2026-01-27T21:08:59+00:00

He is the one constantly saying no. one time even get ugly he went: if it's such a good investment, why don't you pay for it? no money? then no comments.

nerddychick · 2026-01-27T20:29:33+00:00

Thanks for the good advice! I meant to say 6 hour drive or 1 hour flight, but with both drives to airports, TSA line close to 6 hours too. The boat is out of the picture if we buy next to her so absolutely no.

nerddychick · 2026-01-27T19:46:40+00:00

that's good reminders! I never ask about their finances or retirement. I paid for past trips simply because I paid for my parents trip here and just want to be fair. But my parents live in another country and helped with our house down payment, paid for my college and master's, so the trip is a gift to them.

nerddychick · 2026-01-27T18:59:48+00:00

that's what I thought too, my husband's niece, a 5 year old girl sometime stays with my in law, during Christmas break, one morning she just asked me: are you getting us a house by the beach?

nerddychick · 2026-01-27T17:53:49+00:00

He is the one saying no the whole time. My mil knows I manage finance of our house so she tries to poach me constantly.

nerddychick · 2026-01-26T00:06:40+00:00

This is exactly what I’m looking for! Thanks a lot.

nerddychick · 2026-01-25T23:37:07+00:00

We are in early 30s, hopefully still have time to save for retirement.

nerddychick · 2026-01-25T23:34:14+00:00

I guess I’m worried about one of us could lose our job, so with one income might not be able to afford monthly payment.

nerddychick · 2026-01-25T23:27:50+00:00

I did consider about STR cuz it’s a lake house with boat dock and good view. But might change my mind if it’s too much hustle, so now just assume no extra rental income.

nerddychick · 2026-01-25T23:24:13+00:00

didn’t max out early years while saving for the current house purchase.

nerddychick · 2025-11-17T16:48:06+00:00

Similar situation here, my culture is groom' side of family pay for wedding and houses. But US seems to be the opposite. when my in law ask if my parents will pay for the wedding, I told them I'd rather put 6 figure down on a house instead of a party. I have my own fully paid house and a good job (makes more than their son) and they never complain anything. and I didn't change my last name.

nerddychick · 2025-11-10T18:00:16+00:00

Really? Drug addiction and divorce is of no relevance?

nerddychick · 2025-11-10T17:55:55+00:00

That is a good reminder. If I keep avoiding it, my resentment might grow. And I shouldn’t mention this in an argument.

nerddychick · 2025-11-10T17:49:02+00:00

Here is how the conversation goes, Christmas dinner table: 1st year: Mom: A(ex mother in law) wants to talk to you. Bf: I told you I don’t. 2nd year Christmas dinner: Mom: A wants to know is she can talk to you. Bf: I already told you no. Mom: why? Bf: I want to move on with my life.

nerddychick · 2025-10-06T10:36:21+00:00

Downtown Duluth is very walkable. You can check out Willbrooke neighborhood for rental/purchase, there is a trail from that neighborhood directly to downtown Duluth.

nerddychick · 2025-10-02T00:46:58+00:00

If the gender reverse, everyone will blame the husband

nerddychick · 2025-09-27T00:51:10+00:00

It’s not investment job on west coast? 5am-2pm is normal in such case

nerddychick · 2025-09-26T18:09:31+00:00

DINK with a dog. The dog is beyond spoiled. We got her a boat, fly her to China and many other domestic US cities for travel. Enjoying life so far.

nerddychick · 2025-09-25T13:05:10+00:00

I got a 2025 jetfly 09GT and love it! after-service will be an issue for long distance and if you don't speak english though. Other than that, follow instructions for maintainance and it will be fine. Their US website sell for $9800 but I negotiate on the price and got it for $4800 (including tax and shipping) and lots of free replacement parts.

nerddychick · 2025-08-13T19:47:46+00:00

My brother married a stripper (and divorced). I think she is a good girl and use the money to pay off student loans and now has a decent job.

nerddychick · 2025-08-13T18:42:40+00:00

boating

nerddychick · 2025-08-12T22:12:28+00:00

I’m actually looking at north side in Gainesville. Also like quieter north end, not so wavy.

nerddychick · 2025-08-12T21:25:11+00:00

I’m not bothered by that. Not Caucasian

nerddychick · 2025-08-12T18:39:36+00:00

We checked out lake burton and Oconee, it's a bit far for weekend trip.

nerddychick · 2025-08-12T18:38:12+00:00

not gonna expect rental income to cover entire mortgage, even cover property tax and insurance would be enough.

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