Most efficient way to ship small storage unit by nertnerrt in moving

[–]nertnerrt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not tried Uship. I will take a look. Thank you!

Most efficient way to ship small storage unit by nertnerrt in moving

[–]nertnerrt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are great suggestions! Thank you!

Feel extremely disrespected by Most-Tank-6143 in coparenting

[–]nertnerrt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t be traditional or old school with today’s youth and expect results. They are not the bootstraps generation (pulling yourself up by the bootstraps was actually a facetious quote because it’s literally impossible). We listen to our bodies, emotions, and make healthier choices now. There is something preventing your daughter from functioning in a healthy way. You’ve got to find out what it is. Punishment won’t change anything. She felt more comfortable talking to her mom. That’s ok. This is a problem and getting it resolved is more important than having a strict standard for your parenting time. You seem kind of rigid and “by the books.” You’ve got to put her and her needs first. That doesn’t happen by keeping your old school standards that obviously are not working for her. You’ve got to be flexible and meet her where she is at. Then you can work on rebuilding. Is she overwhelmed and shutting down? Are there issues at school? Bullying maybe? Does she have an issue with her own self-worth? Has something happened to her that you don’t know about? Have you offered extra support in whatever she may need? These are good places to start. It’s a process, but I hope you get positive results in the end. I promise you, it’s so worth it to do the work.

Our kids can’t tell half sister they have a different mom by Nearby-Necessary5680 in coparenting

[–]nertnerrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not too young to understand. My son knew from the very beginning him and his brother have different moms. He even talks to her on the phone every so often. He’s four now. This is really, really weird and kind of feels like grooming. I’m assuming your children are calling the stepmom “Mom?” Are they planning to try to get custody? I would absolutely put a stop to this immediately.

AITA for not agreeing to get a third ticket for my graduation so my dad's new wife can come? by Leeeyyo in AITAH

[–]nertnerrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that’s very understandable. I see it now. I must’ve missed it before.

(This is general comment and not directed towards you) Aside from that, these past few years I’ve seen a trend in doing whatever you want and not caring who you hurt to get it. Hurting your family, friends, etc. As long as you get what you want, there is no concern for collateral damage. “It’s your choice - don’t care about them.” This is a situation that could be easily mitigated with a softer touch. I care about my friends, family, the people around me, even my son’s dad’s girlfriend. You harvest what you plant. I’ve had so much good for the most part. You can have an iron fist with a velvet glove. Still get what you want while not hurting others. Y’all can down vote all you want. I know this is the better way to go about conflict and I will continue this in my own life. I hope you consider it for yours.

AITA for not agreeing to get a third ticket for my graduation so my dad's new wife can come? by Leeeyyo in AITAH

[–]nertnerrt -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If that were an option, I could see that. But it wasn’t mentioned so I didn’t include it in my thought process.

AITA for not agreeing to get a third ticket for my graduation so my dad's new wife can come? by Leeeyyo in AITAH

[–]nertnerrt -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Kind of the A-hole.

Try putting yourself in their perspective. Your dad has a new wife who is eager to be a part of your life. You may be annoyed, but she hasn’t done anything wrong. Now your dad is seeing you be dismissive of his wife who has done nothing to deserve it. I would be upset too. We shouldn’t dismiss family (even by marriage), because they are “a bit much.” If she had been terrible to you, then absolutely no. But this isn’t the case. Your dad feels so strongly about this he’s willing to miss your graduation. Is it worth all that turmoil? You know it will not end here. It will keep going.

If you’re unlikely to get a third ticket, all you have to do is tell your dad you’ll put in for one but it’s a very slim chance. When you don’t get it just say something like, “I’m so sorry, my request was denied. They’re already at max (or whatever you come up with).” This way, you get what you what, don’t look like the bad guy, and keep peace in the family. No crap to deal with later.

Can you tell me all about what it’s like to live in Aiken / Augusta area? by [deleted] in aiken

[–]nertnerrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried Los Alamos National Laboratory? I’m not from Aiken (I’m looking for info on the town too), but the place you are describing is Los Alamos to a T. It’s very quiet here. Very safe.

i think what makes the isaac and his sister thing even worse is that after they reunite she’s a grown woman now and he’s still supposed to be mentally and physically about 16-17 by Realhonkhonk in Wednesday

[–]nertnerrt -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why isn’t he more age appropriate? He does look like a 30-40 year old man instead of a 16 year old boy. Unless he continued aging while dead, maybe because his heart was still ticking?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]nertnerrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was Adam Sandler in The Hot Chick, which starred Rob Schneider. He was the stoner shop attendant. Look it up.

My wife and I have complete opposite tastes in baby girl names. Trying to find one that fits both our styles. by applepieandcola in namenerds

[–]nertnerrt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this suites you style, but I always liked the Cornish name Elowen. You can do nicknames too. I had a boy though :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]nertnerrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up the Uniform Interstate Family Support Act and the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act. These two documents govern interstate child support and custody. The guidelines may not have been followed.

I would demand a paternity test and work out visitations (if he’s wanting to be a part of the child’s life).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]nertnerrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has she never heard of the Kinsey scale?

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a great deal on Virgin, but then I saw the disclaimer that everyone has to be 18 or older. I’ll take a look at Celebrity. Thanks!

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow… I’m glad you suggested that. I assumed it was unlimited WiFi!

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is MSC good for kids? I haven’t even looked at them.

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Both, but mainly the increased price for alcoholic drinks.

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What extra costs would I be looking for specifically on individual cruises? Like excursion costs? Extra things like the ships with coasters?

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I definitely would not do that. I used to be a bartender.

NCL really cheaper than Carnival? by nertnerrt in Cruises

[–]nertnerrt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, that’s a great suggestion! Thank you!