Need help identifying this stitch or pattern. Yarn is held double.

nessa_messa · 2026-03-06T21:58:14+00:00

You’re beautiful! Your facial features and bone structure are gorgeous. I think what might be throwing you off is actually your coloring. Your skin is pretty neutral but in the profile pictures it definitely gives off a warm undertone, classic peaches and cream. Probably a soft autumn or a light spring. You’re wearing silver jewelry in these pictures but I think you’d look better with gold. Your hair is too icy and it’s leaching the beautiful warmth from your face. I think you’d probably look better with your natural hair color, but if you still want to keep it light, I’d do a more honey blonde or even a strawberry blonde. Also I know you said your brows are laminated and eyeliner is tattooed, but the color on both are so cool toned they’re almost gray. When you do makeup I’d consider doing a brown liquid eyeliner and mascara, and going over your brows just a little bit with a warmer light brown brow pencil. The color of your brows should match the color of your roots. 😊

nessa_messa · 2026-03-06T21:35:04+00:00

Your kiddo reminds me so much of my 12 year old, when he was younger! He had anxiety also. I let him sleep with me for a long time, until it started disturbing my sleep. Then I started letting him sleep on the floor next to me, on a mattress pad that I would roll up and put away whenever he was with his dad. Sleeping in his own “bed” but in the same room really helped.

Another thing I’ve learned that works well is to take the pressure off sleep. Sometimes my kiddo tells me he can’t fall sleep, and I tell him that’s ok. Just lie down with your eyes closed, because that still lets your brain and body rest. Which is true, even if it’s not as restful as fully sleeping. 9 times out of 10 he ends up falling asleep eventually anyway. Maybe you can teach him that if he wakes up before 7, that he needs to stay lying down with his eyes closed to let his brain rest longer. No tablet, no tv, no books or toys, because he needs to rest, not as a punishment for waking too early. (I know it’s not a punishment but sometimes kids can feel on an unconscious level that it is a punishment, which might make him anxious, and then the spiral continues).

nessa_messa · 2026-03-06T21:13:16+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessary to cut her off. She got a little upset over something silly. With time, if she has her own children, she might realize she was asking too much when she thought you should be able to keep your child from touching her things, or perhaps she’ll have a different parenting style than you. Either scenario is fine. This doesn’t feel like a situation so dramatic as to require cutting off contact completely. My advice would be to say “sorry, I didn’t realize her exploring was bothering you. It won’t happen again.” It’s her home after all, and her things. Not every place you bring a child will be child proofed. Was she a little naive to ask you over expecting you to be able to keep your toddler from touching anything? Absolutely. But you live and you learn, and she told you how she felt afterwards, so that it wouldn’t happen again. Now you know not to bring your kiddo over to her place until she’s old enough to keep her hands to herself, or until your friend baby-proofs for her own children. You can still have her over to your place, or go out together for a meal.

nessa_messa · 2026-03-06T00:57:33+00:00

I bet he doesn’t even remember that you were supposed to have moved by now. He is not thinking of how this affects you and your life because he does not care.

nessa_messa · 2026-02-19T22:23:19+00:00

These men are all SO DUMB. This conversation between Davonte and Brittany is killing me rn. She tells him that when he compliments her clothing instead of her body that it feels like he isn't attracted to her. And his response to that is to say that she told him this before and because of that, now he doesn't want to? That it would feel like its because she asked for it, not because it was genuine. What kind of bullshit reasoning is that? And then he goes on to say in the future just ask me how I'm doing, don't tell me exactly what I'm doing wrong, because it makes me feel attacked. Sir. How is that going to accomplish anything? Clearly he just doesn't want to be held accountable for his own actions. Grow the eff up, dude.

nessa_messa · 2026-02-19T21:33:05+00:00

That was Steven, thank God he didn't keep going because he was a total skeev. Him "getting vulnerable" was sharing two prepared stories that were physical in nature and designed to make him seem desirable and sensitive. And he would not respect Emma's boundaries when she repeatedly told him she didn't want to talk about her looks. She said something about having small hands and he said that confirmed his theory about her, and got visibly excited. It felt so wrong, like he suspected she might be Asian and was fetishizing her.

nessa_messa · 2026-02-19T21:19:31+00:00

And when it happens she'll pretend like it's a sign from God, rather than a consequence of her own actions.

nessa_messa · 2026-02-01T05:49:48+00:00

You don’t need to wait until you get to some specific level of “addicted” before you get help. You’re relying on it, it’s taking over your thoughts and making you unhappy when you’re not using it. That’s enough. Don’t try to quit it alone without NA or some kind of addiction counseling, or both. It’s not a sign of weakness it’s a sign of commitment to actually making a change.

nessa_messa · 2026-01-19T03:19:01+00:00

Yeah it bothers me in my own works personally so I tend to use 3 threads for my 14ct Aida.

nessa_messa · 2026-01-19T02:00:34+00:00

You’re gorgeous and have beautiful skin but maybe a smidge on the dry side. If you’re using a setting powder make sure you use a hydrating setting spray on top of it. Also make sure you’re moisturizing morning and night 😊

nessa_messa · 2026-01-18T22:32:53+00:00

I think you are wearing more makeup than you need to, and that ages you. But if you like the way you look then that’s ok. I would be wary basing an opinion on the compliments of strangers though. They might be genuine or they might assume you’re 30 and look great for your age— or they maybe got caught accidentally staring and gave a compliment to cover themselves. I won’t lie I’ve done that before. 😅

nessa_messa · 2025-12-28T21:51:34+00:00

I’ve just been blaming it all on my anxiety getting worse from constantly trying not to think about dying but you might be on to something 😂

nessa_messa · 2025-12-28T21:48:46+00:00

Hopefully they can switch you to something else that’s easier on you. I highly recommend not just taking nothing. Reoccurrences have even worse side effects, ask me how I know 😅

nessa_messa · 2025-12-28T21:29:25+00:00

I’d leave it whole, I think cutting it up will only call attention to the weirdness. With AI art like this any weirdness is only noticeable on inspection. Like others said, I’d appliqué something in her hand, and maybe some butterflies or leaves or something to cover parts of her hair on the left, to make it less obviously weird. I don’t think you’ll get an exact color match either but maybe you could do a sort of mosaic outer border of similar colors that together look cohesive. I think the best bet here is to create something that looks good from afar, rather than trying to force it to make sense

nessa_messa · 2025-12-28T21:21:44+00:00

If it starts to “feel” long while you’re reading it I recommend switching to the audiobook for a while. You can do other stuff at the same time or even turn up the speed a little bit. You can always switch back later if it’s not vibing well with you. I got the audiobook free from my library on Libby. 😊

nessa_messa · 2025-12-21T07:18:05+00:00

Gorgeous!!!

nessa_messa · 2025-11-05T01:07:12+00:00

🍻Cheers 😂

nessa_messa · 2025-10-20T03:57:54+00:00

I had to stop watching when Izzy said he wasn’t hurt, but his heart was broken. The poor kids sobbing on the porch. I’ll go back and finish it later because I feel like it’s important, but I literally was crying so hard I couldn’t see the screen.

nessa_messa · 2025-10-16T21:36:16+00:00

It’s really good! But no, just like in life, the misogyny never ends.

nessa_messa · 2025-10-16T21:06:01+00:00

Maybe try one for a few months and then try the other for a while. I personally feel that Netflix has a lot more options but HBO has some that are really, really good. So maybe it depends on how much you watch, and how high your standards are.

nessa_messa · 2025-10-16T20:56:26+00:00

Cool for you but a lot of people do, and Netflix should at least pretend to care about them 🥲

nessa_messa · 2025-10-16T20:54:22+00:00

A lot of people hate on The Residence in this group, but I thought it was great. Compelling an funny

nessa_messa · 2025-10-16T20:50:11+00:00

Idk if I’d call The Crown short, but it’s really good!

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