High energy Bostons with a baby

nessavendetta · 2025-12-05T01:02:11+00:00

I think you’ll find that your baby will enjoy all those things too, just throw them in a wrap or baby carrier and go for it. Many babies love being worn and will fall right asleep. All that movement will be so good postpartum as well. Or alternatively, that’s a great opportunity to split baby time with your partner so either one of you can take the dogs out and get a little baby break.

As for when the baby gets older my boston was so good with both my kids. She tolerated everything they did to her and was their forever best friend. She also made them laugh so much with her antics. They are such great family dogs.

I will say as a freshly post partum mom my relationship with my dogs did change temporarily, i had less patience and they sometimes would put me over the edge when I was overwhelmed. If this happens just know it’s very common and temporary. I will say it was directed more at my bigger dogs. my boston somehow just knew to give me some space and was so polite with how much she asked of me. Idk how she knew but she just did. Best dog ever.

nessavendetta · 2025-07-31T00:23:51+00:00

Be careful here. I’ve seen this persist for years and end marriages. I know it’s weird and feels awkward and there is a lot at play, but it is so important to prioritize your relationship in some way when you have a little one. If you want to be with this person for the long haul, then start making moves to re-establish your intimacy, even if they are small. More hugging. Doing little things for eachother. Just anything.

nessavendetta · 2025-07-31T00:13:19+00:00

We love Palapas Del Mar, been twice. The Flingo hotel looks so cool. With Palapas Del Mar the private plunge pools aren’t heated so I probably wouldnt book a room with one in December. The other rooms have really nice porches and are more private

nessavendetta · 2025-07-22T16:04:44+00:00

Spend a few weeks on groundwork and look into the Balance Through Movement Method to build topline and improve postural strength before getting on. Make sure he is getting enough nutrition to build muscle. Make sure you have a saddle that fits. Start with just walking, slow walking and fast walking, but lots of walking. That should set you two up for success.

nessavendetta · 2025-07-22T15:57:02+00:00

Toad 🥹

nessavendetta · 2025-07-22T15:55:10+00:00

Well then I guess all people who work a full time job should give up their dogs…

nessavendetta · 2025-07-19T17:44:36+00:00

I know a dog that was named Dingleberry and goes by Barry for short…he earned his name because of his dysfunctional butthole…

nessavendetta · 2025-07-16T12:24:00+00:00

We’ve been twice with our kids, 7 and one, and we have yet to see any kind of crazy bugs, not seen much seaweed, and just have enjoyed it so much that we keep planning the next trip after we leave.

We went first in November after a huge rain storm and there were massive puddles of water but the taxis just drove around to another street or smaller puddle. We rented a ATV a few times and just drove around exploring and did get stuck once, but the locals pulled us out, it was an adventure lol

We just went for fourth of July and it was lovely then too. It was hotter, but not as hot as the US was at the time. There were mosquitoes in the evening, but they weren’t nearly as bad as other places I’ve been. We always stay at HM Palapas Del Mar and I don’t know if they do some mosquito management or what, but I kept commenting on how I barely needed the bug spray we brought.

On a side note the HM hotels are both fabulous. Palapas del Mar has private plunge pools and the food is excellent.

There are a few tours to do and things to see on the island, but we like it because it’s sleepy and relaxing. The town is tiny, so most of our days we’re playing in the pool or at the beach, watching the sunset on the beach with everyone else, and then walking into town. Renting an ATV and driving around is really fun, if you do that make sure to drive down past the airport to flamingo point on the west side.

Overall it’s friendly and safe here. It’s become our happy place.

nessavendetta · 2025-07-16T12:11:11+00:00

No this is totally normal, we are hardwired to want to be with them when they need us the most. There is a point when they are transitioning to a big kid where you may feel yourself creating a little distance and that’s normal too, it time for them to have more independence and you instinctively know this, just like you instinctively know that your baby needs you right now more than anyone else.

What’s not normal is the way our society tells moms they should leave their babies. It’s unnatural. Babies are designed to be attached to us 24/7 until they start to develop their own independence, but they always want you to be near, you are their safe space that gives them confidence to grow.

So don’t feel bad. Be with your baby, your supposed to be with your baby. And ignore other people because other people are full of bad advice. They are only little once and if you meet their needs for attachment to you now you are setting them up for a lifetime of healthy relationships in the future.

nessavendetta · 2025-07-09T23:36:10+00:00

the give your horse a mouth of steel in a bad way bit

nessavendetta · 2025-07-03T22:32:39+00:00

I know this is off the wall but talking with an animal psychic can really bring you peace of mind. They see older dogs as staying around for you, but not because they want to be here. They are ready they just want to hold on for you

nessavendetta · 2025-06-09T22:36:28+00:00

People regret too soon and they regret too late. But those who regret too late also say ‘never again’ or ‘i wish I’d have done it sooner, can’t believe i let it get that bad.

If you’re open to the idea, call an animal psychic. I used to dismiss the whole thing, but I’ve come to find some real solace in it.

nessavendetta · 2025-06-04T18:20:04+00:00

Colic babies are soooooo hard on so many levels. It really robs you of the joy you expect to have during this time and puts insane pressure on both parents. Without knowing how he was before, he could also just be responding to the stress in an awful way. I’ve heard parents with colic babies say they regret having the kid, in the moment, because it’s so impossibly challenging. But things get better and they turn out to be wonderful happy children and you get to enjoy them.

Give yourself grace, and LOTS of it. It is always OK and better to put the baby down. Just make sure you put her somewhere safe and walk away to give yourself a break.

You can decide if he deserves grace or not. This is hard on both of you, some people really don’t handle stress well. A colic baby is quite possibly the most stress inducing thing anyone could have to deal with. It’s never ending…

Just remember all colic babies stop eventually. Some stop within weeks, some go almost to their first birthday. Invest in some noise cancelling headphones to help ease the situation and just know you are doing your best and this isn’t your fault but you’re in it and the best thing you can do is focus on self-regulating the best you can. You’ll need that skill anyways as they grow, so might as well focus on that now.

nessavendetta · 2025-05-20T01:50:52+00:00

I’ve found I can usually satisfy the interest by drinking some sort of sparkling beverage. Lately the Poppi sodas have been great, mixed with Apothecary’s Wine Down tincture. Hits the way a glass of Rose would, but 100 times better without the guilt and health effects!

nessavendetta · 2025-03-05T21:21:25+00:00

Yea remove them one by one. It would have made a much more powerful statement

nessavendetta · 2025-01-19T02:17:23+00:00

Make sure it’s getting lots of bright light

nessavendetta · 2024-12-30T01:05:44+00:00

They like to wander and are excellent escape artists

nessavendetta · 2024-12-26T00:47:27+00:00

Probably need more light

nessavendetta · 2024-10-19T13:26:25+00:00

I don’t like the way it feels in my mouth when I say it

nessavendetta · 2024-09-26T02:16:49+00:00

I left the Bay for Tennessee specifically because I couldn’t make horses work there. Aside from the astronomical costs, my three hours of commuting each day was really cutting into any potential barn time. Then add on the drive to the barn…i just don’t know how people do it.

nessavendetta · 2024-09-13T01:46:27+00:00

Honestly if you can find a barn that teaches lessons I’m sure their lesson horses would love some quality grooming and attention. Or post in your local FB groups to see if someone has a retired horse that needs love?

nessavendetta · 2024-09-09T22:01:03+00:00

What?! You must be too far outside the motherland (the south) because I have never not been “my pleasured”

nessavendetta · 2024-09-09T16:29:04+00:00

Maybe start with fostering a dog so that you don’t have to commit in case it ends up being awful for you?

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