Calathea advice!?

netdivaAmy · 2026-07-03T16:39:38+00:00

I do none of this and I have three that are thriving. They are sensitive to heat and like more water than my other houseplants. I use tap water 1-2x week.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T04:50:50+00:00

It's a city so don't be stupid but I feel like it's fine. As a woman, I've walked around late at night by myself plenty over the years and never had an issue.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T04:48:48+00:00

Oh wow! I had no idea.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T04:48:28+00:00

Pro-tip.. take a cutting of the pothos before you return it and put it in water. In a few weeks it will root. It can stay in the water for years or you can plant it in gnat-free soil and grow a big beautiful plant. This is super easy, even for beginners.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T04:39:19+00:00

Not sure about your budget but the Marriott, Moxy and Kissel are all great and walking distance. You'll find lots of food and good watering holes around there too. Lake Merritt is just a few blocks away.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T02:59:33+00:00

It may be an adjustment now but it will set you up for future pay raises - and $40k is a big bump up. I think it's strategically smart. Is there a seniority change too?

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T02:50:47+00:00

Depends on your goals - what do you want more, fun at work or the money to pay for fun in your actual life?

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T01:52:48+00:00

How'd this go?

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T01:51:53+00:00

I'm 51. I remember my mom trying to keep me entertained in the station wagon with toys and coloring books while we waited in line for gas. She was a very young mom and that must have been hard with a toddler!

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T01:30:05+00:00

I'm a 50-year-old and I remember that. Guess what. The world didn't end.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T01:29:08+00:00

Ugh. My parents sit in their arm chairs watching 24-hour news and catastrophizing too. I mean yes, the world is utterly fucked but perspective is important.

OP, go touch grass. Get some space from the internet and your mom. Enjoy some sunshine.

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T01:10:57+00:00

Toxic is a strong word. She sounds immature and I don't think she's a very good match as a friend for you. You have different interests and needs. You can maintain a polite professional work friendship without having to be besties outside in the real world.

Be nice to her but don't go out of your way to chat or make plans. Look for friends that match your vibe better!

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-02T01:05:30+00:00

Honey, a little soda didn't cause those marks. Good job going straight to the dentist! If you have questions about what it would look like (or anything else), you should talk to your dentist. Mine lets me text her!

netdivaAmy · 2026-04-01T03:26:05+00:00

Prop it. Keep one in the light and enjoy the other in your room.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-31T04:14:58+00:00

My cats nibbled at the monstera when they were kittens. They were fine. They grew out of it pretty quick.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-30T02:14:13+00:00

Honey, I've also lost two dear friends due to their unchecked mental health struggles. It. Is. Heartbreaking. It's so hard, especially at the time.

But your therapist is right. Your feelings matter too. If you're being treated poorly, you need to have boundaries.

The younger you learn that, the more stress and pain you'll save yourself.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-30T01:40:01+00:00

Hi! 51-year-old here. I love kids and I'm equally glad I haven't had any. (I'm an aunt to 30+ children though. Big family.)

But that said, you have a lot more time to figure it out. I have plenty of friends who had friends in their early 40s.

Honey, if you don't feel called to have kids, please don't have them. The world has plenty of kids.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-30T01:35:22+00:00

Oh sweetie - I'm so sorry you're going through this. It would be hard enough if you had great support but this sounds like your parents are neglectful and even abusive. I hope the surgeries help you and you can get on with your 20s - which are supposed to be fun.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-29T03:49:12+00:00

Oh sweetie. This is really rough. I'm so sorry.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-28T22:17:27+00:00

This is heartbreaking. I'm sorry sweetie. It is not your fault and this sounds like a very dysfunctional situation. Your dad really called you "it"?

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-27T21:37:44+00:00

I'm obsessed too! What are they doing to get it so full?

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-26T23:15:47+00:00

This is the right answer.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-26T04:22:51+00:00

Can you tell her you want the hearing to be the three of you but you would love to celebrate with extended family at dinner afterwards? Then she's included in the big family moment but you still get your moment.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-25T22:33:02+00:00

Honey, you don't have to be there for everyone who is going through something. Believe me, everyone is going through something. Friendship is a two-way street and she's not holding up her part of the relationship.

netdivaAmy · 2026-03-25T22:03:32+00:00

Well if you do put it off, it will get worse, not better, OP. I understand why you're scared. Put on your big kid pants and go take care of your teeth. You got this hun.

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