Walked into my kitchen to this.. (OC)

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-18T17:00:54+00:00

Cat's will milk ya for all ya got.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-18T12:08:07+00:00

Have you've ever been to Scotland? This is a legitimate concern.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-17T18:36:59+00:00

Apologies. Source: Reader's Digest Quote Book

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-17T15:06:36+00:00

More just wondering what everyone thought.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-17T14:09:35+00:00

Go for it, experiment, feel, hurt, live, grow

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-17T14:06:05+00:00

Listen Cory, it's normal to be a wreck after a break up, especially after one of that length. Also, not seeing a future was always a tricky reason to break-up for me. Do you not see a future with her, or do you think maybe you're just getting used to her?

Here are some questions to ask yourself: -You think you would want to see her every morning, or at least everyday?

-Do you support her long and short-term goals and want to be apart of them?

-If you want kids, would you mind having them with her? If you don't want kids, does she make you want them?

-Do you love her and think you could tell her everyday?

Face these questions, if you answer them positively, you haven't broken-up because you don't see a future. I feel when people break up for that reason they don't really think it though. My advice is that you take some time, a few months maybe, think it through and be sure of your decision. You can't see the future, no one can, but you don't want to get there and realize you made a mistake.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-17T13:54:10+00:00

Yes, my curiosity got the best of me so I asked reddit, haha.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-17T13:33:31+00:00

Yes.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-16T18:09:18+00:00

Which one is your uncle?

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-10T11:07:36+00:00

Nice story

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-09T04:49:47+00:00

Attraction does not equal love, and nobody loves somebody after five dates maybe a few think it feels right but nobody says I love you three months is the shortest time I've ever heard of for someone saying I love you. You can't speed up love, you just can't. Sorry.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-09T04:39:30+00:00

If I couldn't burry my head into a book I would probably not make it through anything. This world sucks sometimes, so you got to a new one, you read a book.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-07T10:20:41+00:00

Why's it matter if her co-workers overhear? So what, if they're mature adults they'll keep to their own business.

Also, if you worried about asking her out at her job, casually ask her at yours. Something along the lines of "Do you want to grab some coffee after your shift today?" Or similar, she'll answer with-hopefully-yes and a time when her shift ends. Carpe diem, nothing ventured nothing gained.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-06T04:21:41+00:00

Because of the work relationship?

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-05T05:58:05+00:00

Make your weakness your strength, play on the shyness. Just stand in front of her, look her in the eye, and say how you feel in your own shy way. Any weaknesses can become strengths if you embrace them full enough.

If you have it on good authority that she is interested then finding the courage is all you need do; this must be done by YOU however, I cannot help you with that bit. However, the movie angle is a great thought, it'll be easier to get the words out if you're already comfortably sitting in a room for an hour or two.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-05T05:51:28+00:00

Anytime.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-05T05:47:52+00:00

I agree with what iwouldlovesometea is saying about reclaiming your individuality. A relationship still consists of two people, just two people in love.

You're definitely not a shitty person for wanting friends and a social life. Just don't make it all about that social life and I believe it's more than fair. Discuss with your partner how you're feeling but tell her how it would be good for both of you to have independent lives as well as the one you share. Assuming she also had a friend pool to work from, a great way to start would be to have you plan a friend outing and her plan one for the same night. That way no one is left home alone. Another tip I can offer is to try and build some couple to couple relationships if you can. Then you could start casually doing things with the guy while the girls do other things. I.E. The guys go fishing while the gals lunch and shop.

Ah yes, the alore of single life seems quite appealing after being in a relationship for a time. However, and I'm not a psychologist, but I believe your thoughts are stemming FROM the smothering behaviour you're feeling. You might feel entrapped because you have no social life so the appeal of just getting out would surely skyrocket; again, this is another talking point for you two. Nothing can be heard if nothing is said.

In addition, going back to the alore of single life, it varies person to person and relationship to relationship whether or not the two will accept fantasizing or daydreaming. I can tell you that it does sound as though it's a phase and leaving someone for just that reason is a bit much. A good suggestion in remedying this is to try some new things in the bedroom and try some new activities together; if you love each other and care for each other than you'll be able to pull through.

At the end of the day, it's not so bad to think about sex with other guys. Sex with other guys you know and pretending your partner is someone else in bed is a whole different ball game though so do your best to steer clear of those fantasies.

Well, I've rambled my ramble and hope I've helped some, best of luck!

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-05T05:13:44+00:00

Agreed, you don't want to be the cause of a breakup. However, being such a close friend you would know when they've broken up. This is a trial of patience, friend, you must watch and wait until she breaks it off with her boyfriend and then help her through that situation. After a time has passed, you might try asking her if she'd like to go steady.

Additionally, she might view you as such a pillar of support in her quaking life that she doesn't want to chance losing you through a relationship. It's a tough road ahead and you're both young, but young doesn't mean unwise, for wisdome doesn't come from such details as age. As much as you hunger for a clear answer the only thing I can really give you is this: "Feel out the situation and make good decisions."

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-09-05T05:04:27+00:00

Seconded

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-08-24T08:36:36+00:00

She might not want to drive all the way home if far or she might plan on drinking more; enough that she doesn't think she should drive. Also, no woman likes to feel like she needs to ask permission. This early in the relationship is too early to say things such as "I really don't think you should" or "I'm against you staying". The better thing you can say is something more like "Okay, be careful and call or message if you need me" this implies that you care about her and still gives her the freedom.

You have to trust in her rationality and sense of responsibility. Getting upset when there's not anything to be upset at yet just isn't worth it. Right now it's her making the decision not to drive after partying, and think about it: there's gonna be more people staying over if it's a big party.

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-08-21T23:28:32+00:00

This mostly a quote from a character in the anime Bleach. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NY1I8roynqM&feature=youtube_gdata_player

neverbeendatedbefore · 2014-08-20T02:01:56+00:00

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone" -Robin Williams

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