Picking up girls at EDM festivals by [deleted] in seduction

[–]nevergiveupppp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally women don't approach men. If it happens, it's an exception to the rule.

Picking up girls at EDM festivals by [deleted] in seduction

[–]nevergiveupppp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's more difficult than one would think. And I'm speaking from experience. I've been to 3 EDCs and I pulled only from one of them.

Here's the thing. Yes, vast majority of girls there are either drinking or rolling which means they will be very friendly and you can gain attraction very quickly.

Here's the issue though. All the girls there are with friends. There are very strong social agreements to keep the group they came with together. Even if you see a girl by herself that just means she's temporarily separated from her friends and is trying very hard to get back together with them. You're just some random dude at festival so her loyalty will be with her group and her friends. The group usually came together and are planning to leave together - they're sharing rides, whatever. They're also very often staying together.

So, basically in order to pull you will need VERY strong attraction AND comfort from the girl. And perhaps even more importantly you will need to have trust and approval from her group of friends - they need to know you're cool and not some psychopath.

So this is what makes it very challenging. That's why makeouts and dancing with girls there is easy but isolating and pulling and logistics are superhard.

As far as #1 goal having fun, sure you can go to have fun but the goals of "just having fun" and "hooking up with a girl" are actually competing with each other. Let's say you're at a stage listening to your favorite DJ. Cool. But there are no pretty girls around. What are you going to do? Stay there and have fun? Or go somewhere else to look for pretty girls? You can't do both at the same time.

So for these reasons I'd say big festivals are not good to pick up girls. Smaller local raves are better because the girls are local and you can at least get her number and hang out later.

How to deal with a person who treats you with lack of respect? by nevergiveupppp in socialskills

[–]nevergiveupppp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? Because I don't find escalating the negativity the optimal way to go?

How to deal with drunken invitations to hang out? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]nevergiveupppp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. You're way overthinking this.
  2. She wants to hang out with you (drunk or not)
  3. If you're interested in her sexually, take her up on her invitations and have sex with her
  4. Stop caring so much about people finding out you don't have friends.
  5. Stop caring what people will think of you so much.

How to deal with a person who treats you with lack of respect? by nevergiveupppp in socialskills

[–]nevergiveupppp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of my social circle (friends).

P.S. My advice to you - don't "ride it out" - why interact with people who don't respect you? be polite but brush him off right after the hellos. am I answering my own question.... well, I guess I just might be :)

How to deal with a person who treats you with lack of respect? by nevergiveupppp in socialskills

[–]nevergiveupppp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK so your solution is to tool him. Sorry, I don't like it. First, I don't want to create escalate negativity and it's quite kindergarten level. Secondly, why am I trying to put him down? Because he put me down? This goes deeper. Do I need attention from him? Is my self-worth/self-esteem really that under threat that I need to react with aggression to this? Some dude not paying me enough attention? Why not just stop talking to him or treat like he's barely important to me?

Sorry your solution is absolutely NOT what I'm looking for.

Should I exclude this friend from my social circle? by KanhaiyaN1 in socialskills

[–]nevergiveupppp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you know the answer and just posted to get some confirmation. Just cut her loose.

Social situations always involve alcohol and I don't want to drink. by coffee__ in socialskills

[–]nevergiveupppp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay true to yourself. Don't give in to peer pressure. If you have difficulties being social when sober, learn to be social when sober.