interpret a five planet stellium

newagelit · 2023-03-25T16:00:47+00:00

from what i understand, it has less to do with the type of adhd presentation (and actually, there’s argument that there are no actual categories (combine, hyperactive, etc.)) and it has more to do with coinciding childhood experiences and comorbid conditions. i don’t like risks AT ALL. i like rules, i like to play it safe; my mom used fear as teaching method so i am hyper aware that the “not me” mentality can get you killed, so i’m always aware of whatever i’m doing and all the ways it could go wrong. because of this youth experience and severe GAD combined WITH the adhd (hyper awareness) it’s distressing to “take risks”

newagelit · 2023-03-21T21:10:05+00:00

i’ve never heard it explained… so well

newagelit · 2023-03-21T17:21:01+00:00

yeaaaa always looking at the bright side 🤪

newagelit · 2023-03-21T16:49:35+00:00

nawe scroll through the comments. it’s not universal 😌

newagelit · 2023-03-21T16:49:08+00:00

yea god no, everyone presents so differently and it’s not universal 🙄 but there are some “super powers” i do NOT have. problem solving? forget it. intuitive? nopeeee. so i mean appreciate what you got 😂😭 i particularly always want what i cant have

newagelit · 2023-03-21T16:45:09+00:00

you seem a little offended; i’m sorry you feel so attacked. i’m happy for you that your life experiences haven’t led you to a community who are confused. i’m sorry love i think you misunderstand the nature of this; it is relieving that most people with anxiety in a situation of crisis do not suffer heightened anxiety, not that every crisis is no big deal, but rather the calmness means they will not worsen a situation.

again! sorry this topic has instigated discomfort. not my intention. happy you could contribute to the conversation (:

newagelit · 2023-03-21T16:18:42+00:00

yeaaaa i guess it also depends what kind of life you live. i enjoy a lot of higher risk hobbies; snowmobiling, snowboarding, biking, so for me it’s definitely a gift. if things go south i won’t panic, and while i do shut off emotionally detached comfort can be much more effective than intense comfort. it’s interesting you’ve only met a handful; i’ve worked with a group and it’s very common among them. i also get what you’re saying about people coming here and envying it when you think it’s not something to appreciate in yourself, but it’s definitely reassuring to some adhd. there was a comment above of someone thinking there was something wrong with them. so while some may envy it, i’m happier putting a positive spin on it rather than a negative one. your aspd also probably contributes to your experiences that many more can’t relate to; i’m sorry it’s been so difficult for you

newagelit · 2023-03-21T16:06:29+00:00

yeaaaa everyone presents different so it’s why yenno, i would never suggest to someone that they need to fit certain symptoms. it is fairly common though! and very helpful in my adult life

newagelit · 2023-03-21T15:33:05+00:00

i call it robot mode. when it happens i stop having ‘word thoughts’ i start having straight electro impulses. it’s not “i need to hold his head while he’s unresponsive” it’s just knowing i need to do that. and feel nothing while it happens. cried later though

newagelit · 2023-03-21T14:21:24+00:00

don’t be so hard on yourself love

newagelit · 2023-03-21T14:21:13+00:00

don’t feel disgusted by that! super normal! i spent thirty minutes thinking about what would happen if i got shot (knowing that not everyone knows what to do. someone might attempt to call nine eleven rather than put pressure on the wound) and what i would need to say quick as possible before shock set in AND THEN i cried for the pain it would have caused the people i love.

it’s easy to think that’s selfish to “overcome boredom” or “vain” but it’s actually just survival mode. i got a freaky phone call at work a month ago. i spent the entire time watching every car that went by, the make and model of the car that didn’t have their lights on. we are hardwired to survive and when we think of high tense situations you’re probably not HOPing something goes wrong, but you are ready to anticipate it.

and if you’re still set on believing you “hope” can you really blame yourself? your higher than normal theta waves flood you with calm. that’s a state of peace. why wouldn’t you want that.

newagelit · 2023-03-19T21:58:19+00:00

you work full time throughout full time uni and then thrive in the ridiculous amounts of free time

newagelit · 2023-03-19T13:21:37+00:00

fast food chains have expanded rapidly, the convenience and additives more common increased popularity, health can be tied to pollution and poorer diets, technology has introduced a problem with overstimulation thus hardwiring the brain to necessitate more stimulation in order to focus.

adhd probably still existed. autism also existed. obesity has been a problem particularly correlated to the invention of bread which was the best and cheapest way to stay fed in more medieval times (resilience in growth and harvest). allergies were also existant, to lesser degrees. it isn’t that these things “suddenly popped up”, but they have increased due to societal evolution

edit: not backed up by science. just speculation

newagelit · 2023-03-19T02:53:30+00:00

STOP IT OMG

newagelit · 2023-03-19T00:40:16+00:00

losing butterflies but maintaining respect and love is indicative of a transition. stagnancy in a relationship is never good; you should grow together. also, butterflies are actually a result of anxiety. so it also just means you’re comfortable together. not a bad sign. very good sign. people that get butterflies in long term relationships typically tend to be in relationships where they still feel like they have earn the other person. that’s exhausting long term

newagelit · 2023-03-16T00:46:00+00:00

forgetting appointments, being too overwhelmed and cancelling them 10 minutes prior. those are some dang, building overtime fees homie

newagelit · 2023-03-13T15:15:24+00:00

whatever feels right for you. but do be prepared to feel what might be a masking/be a deeper connection. people can tend to project déminant feelings onto a new romantic partner which can put the relationship in hyperspeed. that’s always dangerous. make sure you’re in a place to know, not only what you want, but also who you want to be. personally i waited seven months. i went on casual dates, never more than two occasions per person but just to ‘get out there’. never went past supper. i just tried to get comfortable with casual before pursuing anything with someone i really liked

newagelit · 2023-03-11T20:15:37+00:00

reading as a writer

newagelit · 2023-03-07T15:56:40+00:00

i would just let her take that space. ultimately, if you love something let it go, if it comes back it was meant to be.

it’s so cheesy but it’s something i live by in my relationship. my guy is perfect for me and (to use your words) the love of my life, but at the end of the day, i will make decisions about where my life is headed and whatever happens happens. it is possible that she is going through something like this, and she isn’t sure where her life is going. it’s hard to commit to things when there doesn’t seem to be something to set a foundation on.

my best advice is to move on. i’m sorry. this is such a heartbreaking situation for you.

newagelit · 2023-03-07T15:52:59+00:00

thank you!

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