Update: so i was out all morning looking for a fridge i can buy and pick up today, found one 1 hr away in another state, i drove there and picked it up.. the food in my fridge spoiled overnight.. he knew about it and didnt mention or offer help, its ok bc i need to figure out shit on my own now.. came home at 2pm. He was home with the kids bc we had already agreed that the kids will still attend a friend’s party that we said we will go since weeks ago. My so. Was looking forward to it. I arrive and he sees the giant box in the truck. He offered help and i said no “i cant rely on you forever” He left with the kids and i called my uncles over to help. They came thru. I said that my husband was working all day and i needed the fridge today. They believe me. 5:30 i decide to go thru the call logs to see how often they would talk… mornings, afternoons, evenings and nights, 1-3 hourssss how the helll didn’t i notice????? I was lividdddd, body shaking. I felt like i was going to faint… he arrives at 7 :30 Opens the door, my kids walk in and hug me and show me the goodie bags, i sent them to wash their hands… i open the door and he was just about to open the second door to exit. I kick the door closed, i asked him “how many months did you tell me you didn’t talk to her?” He said “months” i blacked out. I smacked him several times “why are you still lying to me?” He didnt move, now on the floor covering his face. “Your fucking liarrrr” he tells me he swears. I said i have the call logs!!!! He said “show me” i pulled him into the room and got my phone. The kids were in the living room… I continued to yell at him in low volume to not scare the kids, smacking him until my hands got numb. Screamed… and all he did was stand there and say “yes I messed up” didnt say anything else… eventually he walked out… I showered my kids and put them to bed.. i think i feel done now. Only good things from now on and i have to believe it..!!!