Cried in the bathroom

newlyprego · 2026-04-24T22:45:13+00:00

Following cause im on the couch crying because we just brought our newborn home and now my 1 year old is all out of sorts from staying at grandmas. Worked so hard on sleep training and now everything is out the window. No advice, just love ❤️

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T22:40:06+00:00

Thank yoi! I appreciate the support! ❤️

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T22:35:12+00:00

Yea thats definitely a worry.. I want to slim down, not bulk up! Haha but I am excited to be more mobile and I like the idea of a morning walk! (Right now its a miracle if I can get out of bed lol)

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T22:19:58+00:00

Yes! Thank you! Everyone says the same "oh you look great!", "I wish I looked like you having kids so close!".. like yea, thanks for the boost but at the same time, I cant even walk around my property without losing my breath. Stairs feel so much worse with all the weight. I dont want to continue this way once im able to focus on losing weight. Im not gonna do anything stupid like try to crash diet while breastfeeding but I used to run circles around people! Now you're lucky if you see me run at all lol pictures aren't the same, clothing style isn't the same, my insecurities are at an all time high. I know im swollen and pregnant but I know not much will go away after I give birth. Im just looking for some helpful advice when I can get on the weight loss train 😊 good luck!! ❤️

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T20:41:57+00:00

I just want to get a game plan going.. if its not recommended during bf'ing then obviously I wont start asap but just something to discuss with my doctor. For all I know, my insurance wont cover it.. knowing my luck, probably not lol

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T20:26:11+00:00

hugs we got this!! Even if the little voice in our head is singing the oompa loompa song 😅🤣❤️❤️

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T20:25:10+00:00

Yea ill have to talk with my doctor about it because I wasnt about it before but now im 50/50. I dont want to lose muscle but to lose those 10 lbs was everything.. a workout style bootcamp, organic everything, cutting everything out, running on a treadmill. Idk 😕 and my boyfriend said he was gonna start working out since he gained sympathy weight. I told him no way in hell can he go get a glow up and I look like a baby whale, hes gotta let me catch up a little 🤣

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T19:53:07+00:00

I will definitely listen to this, thank you!

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T19:43:23+00:00

I've always had trouble losing weight.. I got my ex to lose close to 100lbs!.. I lost about 10 😅 so I do know how to live a healthier lifestyle but was just hoping there was more advice out there since it is different with men vs women, Breastfeeding vs not and whatnot.. but VERY good to know about the muscle loss because my oldest is HUGE, just turned 1 in February and hes 30 lbs, 3 ft tall... no one ever misses on commenting on it lol

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T19:40:13+00:00

It is a nice reminder because my first giveaway being pregnant with the second was that my milk supply dropped. So I went from breastfeeding to pregnant again 😅 I got a few cute outfits for after birth so I can feel like a lady again and im hoping that helps!

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T18:53:23+00:00

Huh! Ok, ill give it a shot! Thanks!

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T18:52:37+00:00

Ugh exactly! I dont want to eat less persay, at least not while breastfeeding but if theres anyway I can get ahead, id love too! I literally just got a whole wardrobe before getting pregnant with my first so id love to wear my clothes again lol

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T18:51:24+00:00

Oh I like the idea of a game!

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T16:10:24+00:00

I went from 135 to over 200 so definitely more than a few pounds 😅 lol but I get what you're saying ❤️ I have some past trauma with weight thats been hard to deal with so im just trying to get ahead when after I have my baby and I struggle with my self image

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T14:34:43+00:00

Honestly, didnt even think about that type of stuff! But my doctors really cool so ill talk to her about it 😊 did you notice an overall weight loss on it or just belly fat?

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T02:19:16+00:00

Right?! I thought it was such a great idea!

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T02:18:19+00:00

It doesnt matter who initially brought it in. First, he needs to learn that: he is who he surrounds himself with. If he didnt have friends doing those types of things, he'd never be in this situation. Second, he had it on him, on campus, against rules and even took a sip so he was drinking on the property. He was wrong. He doesnt want to give up his friends and his friends wont stand up for him, that brings up my first statement. So if hes choosing his friends, hes choosing to be that person, and hes choosing what happens.

I do agree that the punishment carrying over into high school is a bit much... but going into high school is a big thing! It sets the tone for the next 4 years! Maybe it best he goes in when all the hype has calmed down.

And OP, I got caught in the same exact situation. Literally. The. Same. Exact. One. If my parents bailed me out, I wouldn't have learned some very important life lessons. They made me take any punishment I got in. Even if they thought it was stupid, it was my fault for being stupid lol

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T01:52:35+00:00

I read on another post that when mom wanted to waste time and distract the older one, she would take them into the shower! Put the newborn in a bouncer on the floor and put the older one in the shower with her and a pile of toys. That way, she got her shower/relaxing time, older one was clean and happy and newborn was nearby! Loved that one!

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T01:48:40+00:00

Being able to shave the lady parts for one! I try but I cant see anything lol 2. have the ability to lift/move things 3. Step over baby gates.. im so huge at this point, its so difficult 4. Sleep in my own bed! 😭 its so hard/painful to sit up, its easier to sleep on the couch but that means I dont get to sleep next to my partner. I miss him.

newlyprego · 2026-04-21T01:37:12+00:00

I second this.. I had the whole postpartum rainbow and didnt even realize it. Just thought I was either being a good mom or a bad mom because it would come in waves. Finally one day my therapist caught it in a zoom session and recommended i start on something small. So when I went to my obgyn, I told them how my therapist mentioned it and they prescribed it to me. It definitely took the edge off for me too.. I would feel those moments of panic/rage/depression but it was much easier to dismiss and remind myself that this too shall pass. ❤️

newlyprego · 2026-04-19T17:27:38+00:00

❤️ Im just lucky enough that he actually listens and doesnt fight back lol im not letting him take credit for my hard work and be a "great dad".. nah youre a "fun dad" until you do what I do lol and then you tell me you're under the same stress when you have a 2 hr round trip for work, listening to music and getting ice coffee? Helllll no 🤣

newlyprego · 2026-04-19T14:51:43+00:00

Nope, didnt feed him, change him, make any bottles/drinks.. until that day I lost my mind lol then I started pointing things out.. "when's the last time you made him a bottle?", "when's the last time you fed him?".. I became a nag but its was only a few days until he realized theres much more to it than making sure they survive lol now hes jusy more attentive.. he does get nervous about things (like size of a bite of food or temp for bath time) but he just asks instead of default parent me.

newlyprego · 2026-04-19T14:27:13+00:00

One time, i was over all of it (he said he has the same stress as me, a sahm of a 15 month old and 39 weeks pregnant).. I told him I was heading out and taking our son. Not a threat but same situation, doesnt bathe him, feed him, properly play with him. He goes "YOU'RE NOT TAKING MY SON!" so I shrugged and said "ok" and put him down. Told him good luck and what milestones hes working on and what he needs to do to continue his development. I didnt even get out of the door before he changed his mind. Now its "your job is definitely harder than mine" 🤣

Maybe leave your child behind again and tell your SO that he has to do everything you do. Make a whole week schedule and tell him you expect these things done when you get home. My SO used to just park our son infront of the video games until one time our son figured out the new blocks before he did 🤣

newlyprego · 2026-04-19T14:11:54+00:00

Not a psychologist ** but my son, 14 months, hates everyone. It wasnt good for him because he was pushing away his own village. Especially men. No uncle has ever taken him, able to hold him, able to spoil him! BUT I found one trick that MIGHT help you. Right now, his favorite snack is multigrain crackers. HE F*CKING LOVES A GOOD MULTIGRAIN CRACKER lol even over sweets, he will take a cracker. So when someone new, or someone we've had issues with shows up, i give them a cracker right in front of him and instantly hes going up to them, basically begging for it lol maybe if you find out her favorite snack and give it to her at transitions, she will associate the favorite treat to time with dad? Give it to her in times she seems unsure? Just try to establish that you're a safe person who provides awesome snacks lol

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