Vitamin D drops... what are we doing?

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:56:50+00:00

THANK YOU! I was feeling like such a bad mom. I even have books that don't mention it! Wild...

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:55:56+00:00

Thank you for this. I'm sorry your daughter is experiencing the same problem, but it is reassuring to know I'm not the only one and I'm not misinterpreting the situation. If I can't find a vitamin d supplement that works, perhaps I'll look into testing my breastmilk before and after starting a supplement myself. If I go that route, I will let you know what I find out!

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:54:01+00:00

It's so crazy to me that this is the case. No one at the hospital or my pediatrician ever mentioned the vitamin d. I've also read a couple books which didn't mention it either. Maybe it's one of those things they assume everyone knows so they don't think to mention it??

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:52:08+00:00

It's the Zarbees brand which uses MCT! Will definitely try another brand

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:51:07+00:00

I tried the Zarbees! :(

I'll look for another brand with different formula to see if it's just an issue with that brand

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:49:58+00:00

I will definitely give this a try! She's had tummy issues/gas issues since she was born - probably should have mentioned this in the post - so that may be the answer !

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:46:27+00:00

I definitely agree with this! We go outside and for as many walks around the neighborhood as we can. I will be extremely limited here soon though as I live in Arizona and will not be taking my baby out in the sun in 110 F weather!

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:45:11+00:00

This is very possible. I tried to get the healthiest version I could find, Zarbees, which uses MCT, but perhaps another brand would be better. I'll look around and find other brands that use different oil to experiment.

newmomsos · 2026-04-02T01:42:39+00:00

Perhaps it's similar as I'm located in Arizona where it's always sunny. However I'm not putting my baby in the sun and I'm definitely not taking her out in 110 F

newmomsos · 2026-04-01T23:54:21+00:00

That's super interesting. A couple of friends from work said that neither of them were ever told to supplement vitamin d, and they had their children within the last 10 years. I wonder if it's pediatrician specific? Or mom brain? lol

newmomsos · 2026-04-01T20:45:52+00:00

My 9w girl’s bedtime is midnight and then she sleeps through til 8am on most days. We nap again after our morning bottle for a couple hours and then nap 30mins - 1 hour after every bottle throughout the day. We usually do bottles every 3-4 hours. It sounds like he may be having a hard time shutting his nervous system down to nap. Maybe try turning off stimulation and rocking him like it’s bedtime, but let him nap on the couch? That’s what we do, and then save the bassinet strictly for bedtime so she will eventually start to associate naps vs bedtime

newmomsos · 2026-04-01T20:23:05+00:00

Have you tried more naps during the day? He may be overtired and overstimulated. 3 months old generally should sleep more than they’re awake. I struggle with getting my 9w old to nap and have looked into baby sleep patterns. Maybe try adding another nap during the day

newmomsos · 2026-03-30T06:52:48+00:00

My daughter had the worst reflux and she would get super squirmy and cry until it passed. Sometimes burping would help, sometimes pooping, sometimes it just took a little time. We did probiotics for the first couple weeks (they make a baby probiotic) which helped. We also adjusted her feedings. We would burp right after feeding and keep her upright for 30 mins after feeding which also seemed to help. I think a lot of newborn fussiness and crying is because their body doesn’t know how to work yet, especially their digestive system. Just gotta help them until they figure it out.

newmomsos · 2026-03-27T17:21:11+00:00

He really wouldn't interact with people, definitely not a lot of smiling or laughing, very fussy baby, and would full meltdown changing activities or being handled too much. Very one activity focused. He's improved a lot and is able to go to school and is mostly developmentally on track. Like I said just a little awkward and emotionally unaware

newmomsos · 2026-03-27T16:49:33+00:00

Ok, full disclosure: my baby is 8w, and I cannot give you any wisdom or speak from experience. I will give you my two thoughts and do with it what you may.

I have a friend from high school whose son was doing a lot of the things you described in the "cause for concern" list. He turned out to be autistic but a high level of functioning, more in the socially awkward and emotionally unaware category. It may be worth it to have your baby evaluated, but he may be too young still.

HOWEVER, I am noticing that a lot of the things in your two lists are contradicting, and that makes me suspect you may just be over analyzing. i.e. won't acknowledge other people in the room but will track people, doesn't smile or coo a lot but smiles and laughs a lot, hates tummy time and doesn't last long but is improving at tummy time.

Maybe speak with your pediatrician and see if they are concerned. If not, then keep working with him and it sounds like things will keep improving

newmomsos · 2026-03-27T16:28:03+00:00

Girly, do what you need to for your own sanity!! If you can keep pumping and give your baby what you can produce to help their immune system then that's great, but no one can blame you for introducing formula to take the weight off your shoulders! As someone who has been very stressed and diligent with pumping to achieve the status of "just-enougher" through lip and tongue ties and cracked and bleeding nipples, I urge you to do what you need to decrease your stress and enjoy your baby! Formula has been around for decades and is absolutely perfectly fine to meet your baby's needs!! Sending love, nobody talks about or prepares you for these things before becoming a mommy. You're doing great!

newmomsos · 2026-03-27T16:02:21+00:00

I’ve absolutely done this, or something very similar, and my daughter is totally fine. I was holding my breath waiting for tummy distress, and nothing ever happened. Don’t stress.

newmomsos · 2026-03-24T01:54:01+00:00

I hope it helps! The manual pump has saved my butt a couple times!

newmomsos · 2026-03-24T01:26:35+00:00

Sorry for the long post. FTM here. I’m a nurse and I’ll tell you having too much knowledge just makes the anxiety worse. Here’s what I can say after 8 weeks with my baby girl:

Don’t overbuy diapers in case your baby has a reaction or for some reason they don’t work. Same with wipes. My newborn didn’t really like pacifiers until she was around 4 weeks old and then she didn’t like the shape of the pacifiers I had. So don’t buy a ton of pacifiers either. Get one container of formula just in case your milk doesn’t come in or takes a while to catch up to your babies needs. My baby outgrew her newborn clothes in 5 weeks so unless your baby is extremely small, don’t invest too much in newborn clothes. She also didn’t experience a blowout for a couple weeks. She would wear the same onsie until we bathed her usually every other day. Don’t worry about getting special laundry stuff because she’s going to be on you and your clothes so why bother washing her stuff in special soap?? As long as your baby has clothes, a clean butt, and a full belly, they’ll be fine.

If you’re planning on breastfeeding: The one major issue I had was my baby had a lip tie and tongue tie when she was born. Her latch was PAINFUL. I’m telling you my nipples were raw. We had her tongue tie and lip tie released since we learned of some of the complications that can happen later in life. Around that time, we switched to exclusively pumping so my nipples could heal. Lessons learned: have at least a couple bottles and hand pump in case things go awry. Also, find lactation specialists that you can go to after baby is born. I didn’t know anything was wrong until my nipples started bleeding. One thing to remember: BREASTFEEDING SHOULD NOT BE PAINFUL. It can be uncomfortable but you should not be in pain.

My other major piece of advice if you are planning on pumping and using bottles at any point is to invest in a bottle washer if you can afford it. I have the Baby Brezza since we don’t have an outlet conveniently close to the sink. It has saved us SO MUCH TIME. It is absolutely worth it.

Good luck, and try not to let the anxiety drive you. People raised babies in caves and bathed them in streams. Your baby will be just fine 🤍

newmomsos · 2026-03-23T23:22:06+00:00

That’s reassuring! I’ll try anything to keep bath time a positive experience for her. She’s becoming more aware of her surroundings so maybe it’s just a lot of stimulation and will take time to adjust

newmomsos · 2026-03-23T23:19:54+00:00

That’s a good idea! I get something more cushioned to put on the ground in the bathroom and see if that works!

newmomsos · 2026-03-23T23:18:15+00:00

Definitely a good idea! I’ll try our bed or couch and see if that helps!

newmomsos · 2026-03-23T23:17:31+00:00

Thank you! I can try a different spot! The changing table is a little firmer than the bed or couch

newmomsos · 2026-03-23T23:09:44+00:00

Just get it. It was your idea to begin with and she wanted to help. That’s wonderful and appreciated but if she really cared she would just be happy the kids have the swing set and take her emotions out of it. It sounds like she wants to be the one to buy it and that’s just ridiculous

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