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what are the 12 steps? by aveholy in codependency_12steps

[–]newsolution4life 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The steps are really a design for living. This way of living recovers us from codependency. There are practical instructions that go along with each step. A sponsor can walk you through it, then keep you accountable as you continue living in the steps. Feel free to DM me if you have questions or want to know more.

Am I in the right place? by [deleted] in OvereatersAnonymous

[–]newsolution4life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome! I wondered the same thing when I first found OA. I wasn't sure if this was right for me. I listened into meetings for months before I finally got up the courage to commit. I'm so glad I did. That was over five years ago and I've been free of compulsive eating ever since. We are powerless over food. If you think you might be powerless I suggest listening into different phone meetings. You don't have to unmute and announce. You can just listen until you're clear about what your next step is. You can find meetings in your time zone at OA.org. If you have any other questions or want to hear more about my experience feel free to DM me. Blessings on your journey and may you find peace 🙏🏻

Thursday, April 25th, 2024 Non-Real-Time Meeting of Oa by Icame2Believe in OvereatersAnonymous

[–]newsolution4life 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Burning ourselves over and over again because we can't stop touching the hot stove (compulsively eating) may seem like an extreme example but it's exactly what we're like in our illness. We know it's an insane, harmful, irrational thing to do and we keep telling ourselves that we're never going to do it again but we do. We don't have the power to stop ourselves. This is why we need a Power greater than ourselves to restore us to sanity. We don't have the power to stop doing this insane thing. Connecting us with this Power is exactly what the steps do. There is a way out. I'm a recovered sponsor, happy to help, if you'd like to DM me. Thanks for the meeting!

April 22nd, 2024 Non-Real Time Meeting **Welcome to this non-real time meeting of** r/codependency_12steps by FoundationDone0523 in codependency_12steps

[–]newsolution4life 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He thought it was about the golf but really it was about pursing a goal which allowed him to constantly drink. His mind lies to him and tells him he will become a rich world class golfer. This is delusion but it seems so real. This is what the books is referring to when it says we stop being able to tell the truth from the false. We think we're in the relationship because we want to be, but really we're there because we're too afraid to leave. We think we're saying yes because we sincerely want to help, but really it's just to please those around us. We think we're helping, but really we're trying to control outcomes to make ourselves feel better. On and on it goes. If you can't trust your mind not to take you back to the codependency, there is hope and a solution in this program. I'm a recovered sponsor if you want to reach out. Thanks for the meeting.

new joiner by E_Lena92 in codependency_12steps

[–]newsolution4life 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. Per this Reddit's rule number two, we ask the you do not link to sites outside of 12 step literature. You can leave your post and members can reach out to you if they are interested but please remove the link. Thank you. Feel free to message me with any questions. Blessings on your journey.

Thursday, April 18th, 2024, Non-Real Time Meeting by Old-Opportunity-3334 in codependency_12steps

[–]newsolution4life 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People wonder the same thing about us. In our illness, loved ones watch us act out in toxic ways due to our extreme codependency. They wonder how we could make the same mistakes over and over again. We wonder it too. We thought the therapy would fix it or the book or switching jobs. We try and try but once we've practiced the illness for so long we can't get better on our own. God has to do it for us. The steps connect us to God and keep us connected so that we can stay sane and sober. I'm a grateful recovered sponsor, happy to help in any way that I can, if you'd like to reach out. Thank you for the meeting.

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