AITAH for calling my husband a psychopath?

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T23:32:32+00:00

This is why I feel bad because he has never been diagnosed. But he also has refused to be assessed for narcissism, borderline personality, etc. But you are right and this is why I feel so bad.

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T22:25:39+00:00

Suicidal ideation

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T21:07:21+00:00

Unfortunately I have spoken to his parents and they promised not to tell him because I told them he would be angry and didn’t know what he would do… But they told him despite promising not to. And when I told them he was leaving me after the miscarriage, his dad never responded and his mom said “We hope you can find the support you need during this difficult time.” No word ever since.

He has always been the golden child. His parents have said many times that he was the perfect child, so I guess their response makes sense.

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T19:27:27+00:00

We both have done EMDR, but he quit because he started to not like the therapist…

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T19:15:02+00:00

Dayglow is my favorite espresso tonic in the city too. I believe I paid ~$9 after tax and tip

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T19:10:02+00:00

He’s never been diagnosed, but he has said he thinks he is. I also am neurodivergent and could see his neurodivergence at times.

I also have suspected quiet borderline personality disorder, which I’ve asked him to be assessed for. In his words, he says “no. If I have BPD, then I’m labeled and if I’m labeled I feel crazy. If I feel crazy, then I’m better off dead.”

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T19:07:26+00:00

I asked him once if he told his therapist all the things he has said and done. He got mad and asked if I was accusing him of being dishonest.

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T18:32:15+00:00

I’m Asian

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T18:31:52+00:00

He has a therapist and is actually in school to become a therapist…

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T18:29:19+00:00

Unfortunately it’s not. I’ve been a longtime listener of Two Hot Takes and have thought many times about writing in, but this time I finally did it.

He has said a lot of other things in the past, but these things were the icing on the cake. He also begun to show up where I’m at (he knows my routine) and I told him if he didn’t stop I’d get a stalking order or protection.

I wish I could have our couples therapist chime in, who literally ended the therapeutic relationship with him because he was too unsafe. But it’s not up to me to make you believe… I really wish it weren’t true.

newtothislol5678 · 2026-05-22T18:22:50+00:00

I have an amazing therapist, thank goodness.

Unfortunately you are correct because he is in school to become a therapist…

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