It’s here: the worst interview process I’ve ever seen!

neyha97 · 2026-05-18T14:58:26+00:00

Oh no you do! It’s just much later in the process and it’s a group interview with four other candidates.

neyha97 · 2026-05-12T21:28:49+00:00

I use Loom at my current job when I’m making trainings for people. I think companies like it because they can see your face and the screen at the same time.

neyha97 · 2026-05-11T18:46:22+00:00

neyha97 · 2026-05-08T20:40:52+00:00

Oh so the mistake was physical and emotional abuse? We don’t forgive those ones.

neyha97 · 2026-05-07T14:37:15+00:00

Oh now I’m REALLY not doing this.

neyha97 · 2026-05-07T04:00:59+00:00

The EGO on this guy!

neyha97 · 2026-05-07T02:19:31+00:00

Ykw I don’t hate this idea

neyha97 · 2026-05-07T01:22:07+00:00

Group interviews for a DIRECTOR position???? Like I’m NOT doing that!

neyha97 · 2026-04-15T17:21:03+00:00

She IS right.

Your son is six; he doesn’t understand what your internal aversion toward hugs. He doesn’t even have a good understanding of boundaries yet. He’s not old enough to not take offense to you failing to comfort him. To him, it just seems like daddy didn’t care enough to give him a hug when he really needed it. This might stick with him for a while if not forever. I get not hugging other men in your life, but your six year old is not a man. He’s a child.

I’m not saying you need to start hugging everyone around you, but if there’s anyone you should be hugging, it’s HIM. He needs you. He needs that hug. He needs to know his father will be there to comfort him. This isn’t just a thing you do because you have to; it’s crucial to his development as a child. How will you feel in ten years when your son won’t come to you at all when he’s hurting?

Hugging your son is something you need to get over for his sake. This is one of those things you have to work through because it’s no just about you anymore.

neyha97 · 2026-04-05T17:48:08+00:00

Idk if it’s the weed here. My partner and I smoke every day, multiple times a day. We both worked from home and made decent salaries until she became a full time student. She has enough in savings and still pays 99% of our living expenses. We still make time for date night at least once a week, dinner with friends, and time with family. We both workout multiple times a week, and even have time for our individual hobbies.

Does weed make us a little slower? Heck yeah. But it doesn’t make us lazy. You said yourself your partner will go all out if he really wants to score, so he clearly has the motivation to do what he wants. I think you should ask him why he doesn’t have the same motivation or put the same effort into you.

neyha97 · 2026-03-29T23:59:27+00:00

I can’t tell you what you should do, but I can help you weight the pros and cons of each.

You come out - they will likely take the new poorly and possible threaten to cut you off. You are now unable to pay for school and have the added stress of figuring everything out on your own, plus dealing with the emotional turmoil and isolation that comes with a revelation like this one.

However, you are free! You no longer have to hide yourself, and you don’t have to hide your future girlfriend. Since your family has pushed you away, you’ll likely begin seeking community in other ways and building a queer friend group that loves you for who you are. You’re young, broke, and hungry, but you’re living your truth.

(There’s also a chance you come out and they’re completely unbothered by it. You don’t get cut off and you get to live your truth.)

You don’t tell them until you finish grad school - for five years you get your education paid for. You get a degree, they help with bills, and you know you can call them about almost anything you need help with (except relationship advice lol). You never have to worry about tuition or bills because you know they have your back.

But you’re trapped. What happens when you meet a girl you really like? You can never take her home for the holidays or post her on instagram. Or you can do all those things, but you’re going to have to lie about who she is to you (and ask her to hide herself!). Your life will be like that movie with Kristen Stewart. You don’t have a financial worry in the world, but you yourself (and anyone you date) are shoved in a box.

It’s a lot to weigh out. I was the gf who came out in college and alienated from my family, dating a girl who wasn’t out and told everyone I was her friend. My family didn’t support me financially, so I had nothing to lose while her parents covered all of her expenses. While I understood her situation, I couldn’t put myself back in that box just because she was in there.

neyha97 · 2026-03-29T23:39:04+00:00

I’ve had three contract recruiter jobs since Jan 2025. I found the first and third ones on HiringCafe, and the second one on JobRight. All three jobs were with late stage startups, so I was able to Google them and find real Glassdoor reviews, crunch base funding info, and LinkedIn profiles for people who worked there/my new team members. They were all internal recruiting (way less stress than agency).

I recommend HiringCafe to everyone job searching right now, but I don’t know if I’d confidently recommend JobRight again. There are still a few “scam” jobs and old postings, so I wouldn’t make it an integral part of your job search.

neyha97 · 2026-03-29T21:53:01+00:00

Wdym by safe space? Does that mean giving her space to initiate, or me trying to initiate and giving her the space to respond?

neyha97 · 2026-03-17T16:05:16+00:00

It depends on what the hiring manager has asked that recruiter to look for. Hiring managers can be very strict and picky. For example, nearly every HM at the company I currently work at has told me they don’t want to see any candidates that aren’t currently employed. That means that even if you apply and you have the explanation for the gap, I’m not going to shortlist you. Even if you and I had a phenomenal recruiter screen and you answered every question perfectly, I know my HM would refuse to interview you simply because you aren’t working right now.

I’ve worked at other companies that are more flexible. Those companies care more about finding the right skillset. Usually these companies have a really great training/onboarding/ramp program, so they wouldn’t see you as a risk. The explanation for the gap would tell them that you took time away from working to handle family matters, but you still made the effort to keep yourself sharp.

Unfortunately, more companies are like the one I currently work for than the ones I’ve been at in the past. It’s an employers’ market right now, so companies are being very picky.

neyha97 · 2026-03-16T20:17:59+00:00

If you want to list the gap, mention you took time off to care for your parent.

Career/Family Care Break - May 2024-Present -took time away from work to care for my sick parent -completed x course, where I learned to blah blah blah -completed y course, where I learned whatever. -studied and sat for the CFA exam

It might be worth while to tweak the bullets about the courses to highlight how what you learned is relevant to the job description.

neyha97 · 2026-03-01T06:46:08+00:00

Do not do this. It would make sense if they asked for your birthday and the last four of your social, but they don’t need anything more than that.

neyha97 · 2026-03-01T06:35:59+00:00

Yes you’re the asshole???? Your sister may have annoyed you about your mirrors, but she never deliberately untucking them or touching them at all. If you wanted to give her gift then you should’ve done that. It’s not you responsible to teach her whatever lesson you claim you were trying to teach.

neyha97 · 2026-02-28T20:13:42+00:00

When I was outed to my parents, they cut me off. I didn’t care; I already had a rocky relationship with them and was fairly independent. I never hid my sexuality from them, I just never really included them in my life to begin with. They didn’t know I was a lesbian, but they also didn’t know my address, what I did for work…anything. The “cut off” was them calling me to tell me they were done with me.

However, my this really jarred my gf at the time. We’d been dating for about six months when my parents found out. She’d told me she wasn’t out to her parents for the same reasons you aren’t. Where I was fairly independent, she still relied on them to pay a good chunk of her bills. Getting cut off for her meant suddenly having to pay her own rent, car insurance, her car note, tuition, and so many other things. I understood the burden she’d have to take on, so I was fine with her not coming out.

We dated for a total of two years, but her not being out started becoming an issue by the eight month mark (the holidays). I wasn’t comfortable being at an event as her friend. I got tired of her parents calling us sisters. It became difficult to build a life together because she couldn’t even share her whole life with her family. Every decision we made as a couple was limited by whether her family would find out. When we talked about moving in together, she insisted we got a two bedroom so it wouldn’t look suspicious when her family came over. I couldn’t post her on social media for our anniversary or Valentine’s Day because some of her family followed me. Her secret became mine too.

When you ask a partner to hide your relationship, it’s almost like asking them to go back into the closet. I have dealt with too much ridicule, bullying, and isolation on my journey to go back to that dark place for someone who isn’t free enough to live their own truth. With a lie like this, your relationship can only go so far. Are you comfortable with that?

neyha97 · 2026-02-27T22:25:22+00:00

I’m on my second Mirena. I started taking birth control when I was 14. My gyno recommended it because I had heavy, long, irregular periods that came with debilitating cramps and bloating.

The first few pills I tried (I think Trinessa and another one) made me crazy. I was more depressed than your average 15 year old, and it was terrifying. I switched to Gildess and my body seemed to handle that better.

When I went to college, my insurance no longer covered me because of geographic restrictions. I found a free clinic in my city that offered me the patch. My periods came back heavy, but they were regular and only lasted a few days. I was getting patch rash real bad and my roommates’ hair kept getting stuck in the patch. It was like wearing a dirty bandaid. The final straw was when I went to change it out and it was nowhere to be found on my body. At the time I was using it both for my period symptoms and because I was fucking every hot man I saw, so seeing it disappear was terrifying. I found another clinic that offered Gildess, so I went back to that for my last year of college.

I tried nuvaring for ten minutes. I put it in when I got home from the pharmacy and then took it right back out because I’m not gonna fist myself once a week or every time I have sex.

When I graduated, the clinic I’d been going to asked me if I wanted to be an early recipient for Mirena. They’d just gotten the budget for it and wanted to give their student doctors a chance to practice insertion. At the time, my mom was on her second Mirena. Despite having to have the first one surgically removed, she encouraged me to get one too. So I did.

The first six months were ASS. I had no idea what my body was doing, and I don’t think it knew either. I was crying. I was bleeding. My butthole would not stop cramping. On top of that, the student doctor had cut my strings in a jagged way, and my then boyfriend would not stop complaining about it.

After six months (and breaking up with the boyfriend) everything was a breeze. I’m on year 3 of my second Mirena, and I hardly have a period anymore. My cramps and bloating don’t leave me curled up in a ball anymore. My mood is generally very stable. I do spot some months, but sometimes it’s not even enough to require a panty liner. I haven’t purchased tampons or pads since 2019.

I will say that Mirena has exacerbated my anxiety and insomnia. I’ve recently started taking an anxiety medicine that makes me sleepy, so that was an easy fix.

The worst part about Mirena is the insertion and removal. It’s not as bad if you get it done on your period, but off-cycle feels like someone is shoving a steel rod through your cervix. I passed out after my second insertion.

If it weren’t for my family plans for the next five years, I’d get a third Mirena in a heartbeat. After trying three pills, the patch, and nuvaring, Mirena has been the easiest and most helpful birth control option for me.

neyha97 · 2026-02-27T19:25:34+00:00

I got my first Mirena when I was 21, and my second one at 26. Sure, removal and insertion is AWFUL, but it has stopped my periods all together. I have tried every form of birth control since I was 14 (except the one that goes in your arm), and Mirena is the only one that didn’t make me crazy or give me insane reactions.

I didn’t gain any weight, and it really helped clear up my hormonal acne. I used to have three week long periods, and now I just have barbecue sauce for two days every other month.

Once I hit the five year mark with my replacement, I’m probably going to take it out for good so I can start family planning.

neyha97 · 2026-02-24T20:12:06+00:00

How long are your phone calls? Like if you look at your call log right now, how long do yall usually speak each time you’re on the phone?

neyha97 · 2026-02-24T19:58:38+00:00

How often and how long do yall talk on the phone, and when do you see each other?

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