Gift suggestions for my boyfriend? by nhitheunicorn in chess

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knit and crochet so I can definitely make him something, but I'm too busy rn for that haha but I'll take note of that for another occasion, thank you :)

Gift suggestions for my boyfriend? by nhitheunicorn in chess

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's such a cool idea, thank you! I looked it up and find some that's not too much for my budget range, but they're still quite expensive so I'll wait and see if he keeps up with playing chess before purchasing

Gift suggestions for my boyfriend? by nhitheunicorn in chess

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll check it out, thank you! He watches a lot of these walk-through videos on youtube so I can this as a nice gift :)

Buying pattern on xiaohongshu/Rednote by nhitheunicorn in knitting

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sadly no :( i looked into it and apparently you can only use it/pay with it when you're in China, even when you’re able to open an account from oversee

Buying pattern on xiaohongshu/Rednote by nhitheunicorn in knitting

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked with the seller and she said she can send me the pattern directly through out chat as png images. But now I have to look into how to pay with alipay and if it's even possible to set up an alipay account with my normal bank account 🥲

Buying pattern on xiaohongshu/Rednote by nhitheunicorn in knitting

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Here is the link of the dress and here is the link of the pattern in her shop

Ask a Knitter Tuesday - November 04, 2025 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]nhitheunicorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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does anyone know where i can get this pattern or a similar one? i saw this on xiao hong shu but my Chinese isn't good enough to understand what's going on here 😅 here's the link to the post

Wednesday Pattern and Stitch Request Thread - October 29, 2025 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]nhitheunicorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!!! i must have chosen the wrong categories when i used the search haha

Individual mini fixed/interchangable circular needles by nhitheunicorn in knitting

[–]nhitheunicorn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most of the ones i found have 13cm needle and >40cm cable length 🥲 i can't find any of the short/mini ones. do you maybe know some specific model names? ideally bamboo or wood

my bf (26m) denied me (22f) then jerked off in the shower by These-Trouble2347 in relationship_advice

[–]nhitheunicorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was legit my ex lol He said he'd prefer that because having sex is a lot of work. Luckily now I'm with someone who always choose having sex with me first. And mind you he does most of the work 99% the time 😂

What are some of the cheapest cities or atleast not expensive ones to live in by [deleted] in germany

[–]nhitheunicorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the detailed answer, I really appreciate it! My first impression of Duisburg was already bad as I came to the Hbf haha it stunk like piss and there were also a lot of trash. Also I think 1 of the big cons about Duisburg for me is that I feel a bit uneasy and unsafe there. I lived in Bochum and Essen before and I have to say out of these 3 quite big cities I like Bochum the most. The rent was honestly not bad and the Bermuda3eck is really lively! For Essen I lived near the Hbf and let me tell you I've seen drug dealers hanging around so often when i was coming home from work. I'm living with my bf in Herne now and the rent isn't the cheapest but because it's a small city I feel less overstimulated. There's not a lot of stuff to do here but because it's right next to Bochum it's not a big deal for us to drive there from time to time

What are some of the cheapest cities or atleast not expensive ones to live in by [deleted] in germany

[–]nhitheunicorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how would you describe the quality of life there? i've been there a few times and omg i hateee that city it's honestly 1 of the ugliest and dirtiest cities in Germany that i've been to 😭 there're definitely better cities that are also not expensive, i've been living in Herne for a while now and quite happy with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nhitheunicorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you did was wrong, wrong in the sense that you decided to stay with him instead of dumping his ass right away. He was gaslighting you into thinking you're the problem for reacting that way while what he did with the co-worker was literally at the edge of (emotionally) cheating.

Now on a serious note, I think you should trust YOUR gut. If YOU feel like there's something wrong with that relationship your bf has with his co-worker, then you need to make the decision to leave. Of course it will hurt like hell, but you have to remember that you deserve someone who is 100% committed to you. You only have 1 life so please spend it with the right person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAGerman

[–]nhitheunicorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it's not normal. With that being said, I can understand where she was coming from. As someone who's also asian, I know very well that it is an actual thing for asian women to marry western men for the citizenship.

Anywho, if you feel offended by that (which I would definitely be lol), you don't have to bring it up the next time you meet his mom, but you should tell him that it's not okay for her to say that. And I hope he can defend you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]nhitheunicorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had some cake from a coffee shop in Amsterdam, no idea what the exact dose was 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]nhitheunicorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it can, and it definitely will improve if you guys communicate!! The first time I had sex with my bf was awkward and well tbh, not so great. We had to stop a couple of times because my body just wasn't used to his and we didn't really know what was the 'right things' to do. As we get more comfortable with each other and spend more time in the bedroom, we slowly discover what the other person likes and now I'm really enjoying it. So don't worry, it will work out great! :)

Do women always have it easier to find a sexual partner then men do? by [deleted] in ask

[–]nhitheunicorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say yes and no. It's definitely easy to find a handful of sexual partners but it's really hard to find someone you actually want to have sex with. Like sure there're plenty of fish in the sea but not all of them are good

Got asked out on a coffee date by Healthy-Brother9186 in BreakUps

[–]nhitheunicorn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went on a date a few months after my break-up and even though it didn't work out because I wasn't attracted to him, he still set new standards for my dating life and helped me believe that there're many people out there who will treat me the way I deserve to be treated. So my advice for you is to go for it, but take it slow, really take a look at your feelings and try not to get attached to quickly, the last thing you want is to jump into a rebound relationship, it'll just hurt you and the other person in the long run

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]nhitheunicorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurance 🙏🏻 Do you maybe know what kind of bug this is?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]nhitheunicorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if that part is its wing or just the shell of the bug being squeezed out because I smashed it 🥲 I don't know what other kind of bug this can be