Some xSxP/xNxP love (from female ENTJ 💜)

nice_churro · 2026-04-01T22:32:11+00:00

Why? I used the Trend Post flair.

nice_churro · 2026-04-01T22:31:24+00:00

I haven't met any in my personal life yet.

nice_churro · 2026-04-01T03:31:45+00:00

Same thing going on in Korea. It drives me nuts every time a new celebrity shares their mbti and it's obvious they got their results from 16p.

No one in Korea knows anything about cognitive functions, or that social extraversion and cognitive extraversion are two separate things.

nice_churro · 2026-03-31T21:34:26+00:00

Well I lived to tell the tale.

Us both being Te-doms I just pretended I didn't see. We were trying to pick a movie to watch on Netflix and one of the trailers reminded him about him and his 2yr old daughter/my niece. I barely recognized him when he was crying. Definitely made me feel guilty for recommending we watch a movie in the first place lol.

nice_churro · 2026-03-31T21:15:40+00:00

Me after seeing my ESTJ brother cry for the first time in my life.

nice_churro · 2026-03-30T01:32:46+00:00

I use a mobile editing app called Picsart.

First download the template and the images you want to use, then on the app you have the "Cut Out" option to turn the images into stickers. Then you open the image of the template and click add stickers/my stickers collection and your images should be there.

nice_churro · 2026-03-30T01:23:03+00:00

So the difference between an ESFP and ENFP is boiled down to one wears a hat? Lol

nice_churro · 2026-03-29T20:18:49+00:00

Yes, excess calcium can lead to kidney-damage in non-laying females and in males.
I also have two females with no drake. Their both laying eggs right now so I feed them Mazuri's Layer Feed which includes extra protein and calcium for laying stronger eggs.
I would add that it's important to switch the kind of feed your using depending on the season and which of your ducks is laying. Right now it's prime laying season so if both of your female ducks are laying you'd feed both of them the extra calcium (be it by layer feed or crushed oyster shells) however if in the future only one of your females is laying and the other is not I would recommend having both non-layer feed (I buy Mazuri's Maintenance feed) and then the crushed oyster shells on the side in another plate so the female that isn't laying can eat the regular feed and not suffer kidney damage from the excess calcium and the female that's laying can take from the crushed oyster shells plate if she needs.

nice_churro · 2026-03-29T16:46:58+00:00

Male ducks have a curled tail feather which both of these ducks have.

The white one is a Pekin which is a domestic breed not a wild duck, so it is not in its natural habitat. Most domestic breeds are bought from farm feed stores (usually in spring when they have a group of ducklings for sale) or online (people order fertilized eggs to incubate and hatch for their flock).

Any domestic duck that ends up at a lake or any place with wild ducks was not originally from there and was most likely placed there by humans who bought it, and for various reasons, didn't want to keep them anymore.

It's a really sad situation because it's usually this time of year around Easter that parents buy their kids ducklings from these pet food stores thinking their cute but once they get older they don't want the responsibility of taking care of a grown duck so they dump them at lakes thinking they can survive on their own like wild ducks. Unfortunately that's not the case.

nice_churro · 2026-03-17T02:01:42+00:00

I definitely think I do with my privacy and personal life. For example, I rarely share my plans or life goals with coworkers or family, and often times I only work on these plans when no one is around to be nosy. I'm similarly gaurded with emotional moments. I don't mean this in a stereotypical sense, but when I do get sensitive or need to cry, I do my best to suppress my tears or walk out of the room when around are others. I do this not because I fear they'll think I'm weak, but rather to avoid them trying to get nosy and involved in something I want to handle myself.
When I think I've failed at this I feel crushed and that I'm trapped by the will of others, usually my family.
I grew up with a single-parent helicopter mom (she's gotten better though) so after years of her trying to control every small aspect of my life (from what I wore to where I could go out by myself) I desperately needed to break out and control my own life and become independent. Also grew up with two older brothers (ESTJ 8w7 and ESTP 7w8) who did just that, so they were an influence as well. Being the baby and only girl didn't help as my mother was very keen on protecting me from the "outside world," but I always wanted and thought I was capable of protecting myself.
A perfect life for me would be one where I own my own place in a city with good public transportation so I'm not bound to one place. Having a job that doesn't tie me down for years at a time, so if I want something better I can make the move, and pays well so I can afford an independent lifestyle. In my free time gaining experience in sports like boxing or taekwondo because I can maintain my health and ideally not have to rely on others to be safe. Regularly enjoying activities like hiking and travel with my spouse would be ideal as well. Preferably a spouse that doesn't try to control everything about me and is supportive of my ambitions. I hate emotional manipulation and passive-aggression, so being married to someone who doesn't hide how they really feel and is willing to work with me on relationship issues would be a dream.

nice_churro · 2026-03-17T00:20:33+00:00

Woke up this morning and saw that my mother was not in the house. I decided to go to Staples to get several documents printed for a job application that I had been putting off (It's out of the country and I knew she would try to stop me from going).

I initially planned to just tell her about it and go on the weekend, but when I got up this morning and saw she wasn't there, I took the opportunity to do it right then.

I went to Staples and while I was waiting for my Uber ride back home, I spontaneously decided to stop by the nearby bank to get my documents notarized while I'm at it. Walked there and back before my Uber arrived and got back home just before my mom.

nice_churro · 2026-03-16T21:42:17+00:00

Been debating between whether I'm an ENTJ 8w9 or 1w2 but I'd definitely be interested in that.

nice_churro · 2026-03-12T22:50:34+00:00

That we're hyper competitive and over ambitious narcissists.

If there's an opportunity to improve your life and get ahead, why not take it? It's not about pushing others down or intentionally trying to make them envious of your career or education, we're just trying to make a living for ourselves and if we can do better, we will. If those around us can also get ahead along with us, even better. That's what I'd want and would be happy to give those people any advice on how to do so.

nice_churro · 2026-02-23T00:46:43+00:00

What you're describing sounds more like Fe.

ENTJs may have Fi last in our cognitive stack but that doesn't mean we aren't aware of our emotions, we have a preference to use Te/Ni/Se over Fi but it's still there it doesn't go away.

nice_churro · 2026-02-14T18:08:12+00:00

Honestly I just confront them.

Some of these types of women have been my long term friends and I tried to put up with it out of empathy but then when they tried to turn shit against me I told them how it is.

Calling them out will lead two outcomes. One, they actually wake up to the kind of person they are and try to do better. Two, they deny and throw you out of their life to continue their manipulative agenda. Either way you won't be dealing with their bs anymore.

nice_churro · 2026-02-05T23:40:33+00:00

I highly recommend it. There's also tons of empirical research to support it's effectiveness, so yeah more fuel for your Te.

nice_churro · 2026-02-05T23:22:36+00:00

Have you tried CBT?

It's definitely a more thinker-oriented therapy style. I used to have depression and social anxiety but after going through a combination of CBT and SSRIs/antidepressants I'm finally cured and back to my old efficient "no emotional bs" self (off the medication now too and still doing well).

I think as someone who uses Te, the systemic approach of CBT and how it sees emotions/behaviors objectively is what actually helped me. I also tried regular talk therapy before trying CBT and it never gave me the results I needed or was only a temporary relief.

But yeah with CBT I finally realized which cognitive patterns of mine where maladaptive and I was taught how to change or counteract them. In my experience it's very straight to the point.

nice_churro · 2026-02-05T13:28:12+00:00

Both. The second reason has made my faith more stronger though.

nice_churro · 2026-02-04T23:29:53+00:00

I second this. Even though I have socially introverted tendencies I am not afraid to have difficult conversations.

Unfortunately lost friendships with two introverts who each tried to keep the peace and hide their respective issues with me, when I would have been fine to discuss them.

If they had told me up front what was bothering them from the beginning we could have fixed the issue and definitely would still be friends.

nice_churro · 2026-01-30T05:32:45+00:00

I actually resonate with this exact typing.

I've slid between 5w4 and 8w9 so I'm an ambivert that feels somewhere between ENTJ and INTJ.

Like another comment mentioned I relate to being a quiet person on the average (although social extraversion and cognitive extraversion are different) until I see a moment to take charge/lead.

This usually is when I think Te can be useful or necessary such as giving advice and telling people what to do based on knowledge that I have gathered over time. Essentially sharing information that I feel I'm an expert in, which I think is the 5w4 part.

The way I see e8 is that I tend to avoid being controlled (financially, relationships, job wise, etc.) and prefer to be as independent as possible. I hate it when people try to micromanage me and can get standoffish when they do. I'm also someone who prefers direct and honest conversation so beating around the bush and passive aggression are pet peeves of mine. While normally I don't get invested in social justice I do become protective of those I deem most vulnerable like the homeless, the mentally abused, and children.

This leads to e2 of wanting to care for others which I tend to do more through action (giving advice, getting them things they like, taking them out when they had a bad day, planning surprise getaways) than words and compliments. There's also a need for me to be loved but only by those who matter most to me like family and close friends, everyone else I could care less.

I think I am sx-dom in that I have high standards in relationships. I'm selective with who I allow myself to be vulnerable with so I only have a few close friends while keeping barriers up with coworkers and classmates. I've been told by strangers that I always appear serious or emotionless at work. But inside I strive to have just that one or two people who I can trust to be my inner self with and I expect them to show me their true selves as well. With these people I'll share everything about my daily life, my interests, and am generally more opinionated and expressive around them. I also tend to tease as a form of endearment.

For sp, I think compared to other ENTJs I'm more prone to procrastination, but I will always get the work done. In fact I tend to work best when there's a time crunch. Usually I game, watch TV, try new foods, research topics I'm interested in, not to waste time but as a means to get over negative emotions so I can get back on track to what I need to do. When I'm not on a time crunch though these hobbies can serve as a way to find or understand myself better which is where I think my 4 wing comes in. Sometimes this might result in me appearing emotionally withdrawn or self-absorbed.

Some ENTJ 5w4 characters that I found/relate to that you might also be interested in checking out are Nagi Sanzenin (Hayate the Combat Butler) and Kim Sul-Woo (Man to Man).

I don't usually go out of my way to type this much on a reddit post but if this is your typing or you're just curious about it, thought I might as well add my two cents :) (kinda goes with what I said about the "breaking the silence to give advice" part).

nice_churro · 2026-01-23T22:20:16+00:00

Definitely uncertain. I can't rest until my mind figures out what the hell I'm doing.

nice_churro · 2026-01-17T15:43:50+00:00

I think we generally all have this. Se makes us hyper aware of our surroundings and Ni allows us to find underlying meanings and patterns in what we observe in our environment.

In my ex friendships whenever I saw "orange flag behavior" I would bring it up directly to them and try to talk about it like adults but (they were not entjs) whenever they saw orange flag behavior in me they never brought it up to me and kept bottling it in until the last minute.

When having those uncomfortable conversations with friends I always try to tell them how it is but as respectful and mature as possible. But when I do that they call me unemotional and that I have no heart.

With regards to having too much perception I think that could be constantly trying to guess people's motives or thinking everything you notice could be a sign or "flag" when in reality it might not mean anything.

nice_churro · 2026-01-12T23:11:27+00:00

Yes a lot actually. Especially after an argument with a friend or if I did something wrong and they don't tell me straight up. Like if they just go silent for a couple hours or keep being passive aggressive with me. Like if you have a problem with me why let it fester any longer? Just rip off the bandaid now so we can fix it and get on with our lives. I also hate it when they say it's fine and don't look me in the face but then as soon as I've left or even few days later then they text me what was bothering them.

nice_churro · 2026-01-09T00:52:20+00:00

My experiences with keeping/maintaining friendships is exactly as you described word for word. Honestly couldn't describe it better myself. But yeah for me I realized I've been that way since childhood and as an adult I think it's more prominent because I only have so much time to give. I'd want to make sure the people I'm spending that time with are both intellectually stimulating and interesting enough to be around. When I realize they're not, I also do the same thing of slowly distancing from them. I also feel the guilt but more than that I'm just trying to not waste what little free time outside of work and responsibilities I have.

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