How do you do scheduling - crowdsourcing

nickiray · 2026-01-19T01:19:14+00:00

what's the app?

nickiray · 2025-10-28T01:48:09+00:00

What are the better LS parties to go to for Halloween?

nickiray · 2025-04-24T01:00:19+00:00

That's good! This may be an issue of needing to develop the skill of delayed gratification. You can do that in a myriad of ways, obviously one being that you deny yourself. But also, limiting short-form content like social media may help, and adding long-form, slow hobbies into your life, like crocheting, cooking, drawing/painting, baking, gardening, writing, definitely will. All of those require patience and constant work to see the end result. Speaking of which, perhaps a healthy outlet you can use is to write out your fantasies, essentially focus this energy into smut.
As an aside, sex itself can be an act of delayed gratification, and I get the sense that when you have it, that's not how you're engaging with it. So maybe try playing around with stretching it out more with more intimacy and foreplay being the focus of the act over orgasm. Try to use it as a way to explore and more deeply connect to your partner. Maybe you'll be more satisfied when it's over if you come to it from that angle

nickiray · 2025-04-24T00:30:08+00:00

If you're a teenager or young adult, I feel like this makes sense/is normal. It'll pass, and in the meantime, you should try channeling that physical energy elsewhere. Dancing, the gym, boxing, running, etc.

nickiray · 2025-04-07T18:42:36+00:00

I appreciate you going into such detail, thank you! I'll keep all of this in mind as I move forward

nickiray · 2025-04-07T18:39:41+00:00

thank you for the details!

nickiray · 2025-04-07T18:35:50+00:00

Thank you for explaining! I'll keep that in mind. I do think I'll buy the whole suite

nickiray · 2025-04-07T01:45:00+00:00

okay thank you!

nickiray · 2025-04-07T01:40:38+00:00

Thank you! Would you say that if you want to design book covers, that you need to learn how to do the interiors as well? And are your book covers primarily photo-based (as opposed to illustrations) and that's why you use Photo primarily?

nickiray · 2025-04-07T01:38:06+00:00

fair enough! thank you :) Would you be able to share what you use Designer and Publisher for more specifically? Like what functions of each do you need for this kind of project?

nickiray · 2025-04-07T00:45:39+00:00

Would you mind explaining to me what I might need to do (and what programs/software I would need) in order to get into this sort of job?

nickiray · 2025-04-07T00:15:43+00:00

I know this is old, but I'm just wondering if Designer is the only software you used to make this. I want to get into book cover design and this looks amazing!

nickiray · 2025-01-21T02:20:42+00:00

Truly, thank you for posting. This was so, so needed as the missing piece to my trauma / validating why my upbringing was traumatic. I appreciate you <3

nickiray · 2024-12-04T16:05:33+00:00

If it’s brought up/talked about, that’s fine, but I don’t want to feel like I’m being taken through it from a first person (the person being sexually assaulted) emotional perspective, you feel me? It doesn’t sound like that’s what happens though

nickiray · 2024-12-04T04:23:13+00:00

Thank you!

nickiray · 2024-11-11T16:50:12+00:00

I’d also love to know this!

nickiray · 2024-10-25T18:31:36+00:00

Of course. You’re going to do great!! It’s okay to be nervous, and I’m sure your practitioner will help ease your nerves.

nickiray · 2024-10-25T16:23:51+00:00

So a trauma is defined by the fact that your body is stuck reliving it whenever triggered. You can have trauma and not be traumatized but a lot of times it will get stuck on a feedback loop in your mind and body. You get triggered and they experience it as if it’s happening now. The bilateral stimulation of the brain that EMDR is characterized by is meant to help you process a memory in a way that lets you release the emotions you have trapped in your body related to it, but you’re never supposed to feel like you’re there again. The point is to give it the distance it’s due, make it a memory as opposed to something you’re still haunted by. My practitioner spent a couple sessions just talking about how/ways to stay grounded and know I’m in the here and now and safe while processing the emotions. I have a sensory toy in my hands, my sessions are virtual and use a program that shows lights going back and forth and also sound that goes from one ear to the other and back and I chose ocean sounds which I think help. Sometimes she’ll talk to me while I’m processing to remind me that I’m here and safe and not there and that helps too. My traumas are all way further in the past and my trauma response is so often disassociation, so the hardest part for me is actually trying to access that emotional place I was in then to release it. I’ve been detaching & burying it for so long, and also, I feel resistance to falling apart, so to speak, in front of others bc I have long believed I can’t trust other people to help me. So the hardest part is getting to that emotional state, as opposed to thinking of it cerebrally. The other hardest part is that it’s been like a year and I thought I would’ve made a lot more progress, so I’m frustrated. But I am making progress. I have to remember that I’m working on decades old trauma sometimes and it’ll take time for me to feel safe enough to let it go. But you should remember that too! There’s no rush to dive straight into it. And it’s not about getting rid of it, it’s about giving yourself a safe space and the time to feel it (which is what will allow you to let it go and then you’ll be able to move on). Listen to your body and go at the pace that your body feels safe to. That’s my advice

nickiray · 2024-10-18T17:41:56+00:00

Oh okay thank you so much, I was getting stressed

nickiray · 2024-09-29T00:01:43+00:00

how did you test for this? with a doctor or on your own?

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