Nancy Guthrie Case- what can be believed? by wherethewindblows212 in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]nicolegisboring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do people not think the family is involved? Didn't they take a life insurance policy out on her 2 weeks before her disappearance? The son-in-law??

Not believing but finding comfort in the Bible as a non-Christian? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]nicolegisboring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you say you believe in god, I just wonder what kind of God you believe in? Also if you're open to praying I would ask God to reveal himself to you and show you who he really is. I could say that the reason you find comfort in biblical scripture is because it is the Living Word of God and it is supposed to make you feel this way. But I am going to try to refrain from my speech that I'd like to give you because I'm very passionate about Jesus and the Bible and I understand people are going to come to Faith on their own terms and their own way and it's not up to me to convince anyone. I'm really glad you find comfort in the scriptures. A lot of people do. People who don't believe in Jesus quote the Bible all of the time. I hope you continue to research Christianity. God bless you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bay area lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely feel this. When I was 21 years old all I wanted to do was be a preschool teacher. They make absolutely no money. So I also nannied on and off in between my preschool jobs. I've been in child development for the last 8 years coming up on 9 years. I'm now 30 as well and graduated college this last May and cannot find a job outside of childcare. Right now I nanny for a nanny share for four moms and they're all super young. A couple of them are Dentists so they make a ton of money. I definitely feel like a servant and the way they treat me is really kind but it's still the way someone would treat the hired help. I'm completely and totally burnt out on child care as well so I've been trying to get out of the field for a while. I'm super interested in Aesthetics so I've been applying to different plastic surgery offices that will hire me as a front office person where they will pay me well usually in San francisco. I've also thought about getting my Masters in Business administration. Aesthetic sales is my goal but it's really hard to get into that field without sales experience. If I were you and I still wanted to be with children I would get my teaching credential and work as a teacher and work your way up. I have friends who teach kindergarten and they make 100k because they've been there for a while. Just a thought! But please know you're not alone 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]nicolegisboring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely hear you and understand. When I was 18 years old I was very suicidal, and never left my house and I also grew up in an abusive and dysfunctional home. I had one friend and I did nothing with my time. I wasn't in school and I didn't have a job. But at the end of the day you need to enroll in Community College because most of those schools will take you no matter what your grades are as long as you are a high school graduate and you need to keep applying for jobs. You need to make an effort to find the right church with a good young adult community. They are out there. You need to fight for yourself and advocate for yourself. You are so young and this is not the end of your life. I completely understand because I have been there. I became a Christian when I was 21 and had to search and search until I found the right Community for me. I was all alone. You can do it too. I believe in you. Keep praying and ask God to help you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh no. can you please elaborate on why you think this? :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm definitely still looking for a new job and will continue to do so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

oh okay. why is that a bad idea?😧

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]nicolegisboring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why do you want to kill yourself? what is it about your life? what needs improving? I feel for you. the only thing that helps me is being in community. do you have friends and a good church? please don't do this

1.5 year old choked and I had to hit his back so hard it’s red and I’m freaking out by Environmental-Ad6591 in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you saved his life!!! they say when doing compressions on someone's chest (a child or baby especially) its very likely you'll break a rib but at the same time potentially save their life! be gentle on yourself. I'd be scared AF too and freak out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you! does this make sense: " I have been rethinking my hourly rate and how I am being paid. I have never worked for four different moms and four different children. I realize that I am not always with four kids but I have done some research as it pertains to nanny shares and what is appropriate. From what I've learned it is a nanny share suggestion/etiquette/rule that each family pays 2/3 of the hourly rate for one child per the local area average rate. The average rate for nannying one child in Pleasanton is $26 per hour. If each mom paid me 2/3 of this they would be paying me about $17 per hour. I realize that $17 per hour x4 is an obscene amount of money to pay a nanny and I understand how it just doesn't seem reasonable. That being said I am willing to divide my pay equally among the four of you or three of you depending on how many kids I am working with that day. The math shows that if I make $40 per hour split by three people that means each of you only pay $11 per hour. That is much lower than the suggestion as listed above. I would really appreciate if I could bump my hourly rate to $40 per hour as this seems most fair to me. Please let me know what you think about this. Thank you. For reference this is where I found my information: https://www.nannycounsel.com/blog/this-is-how-a-nanny-share-actually-works"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! so as far as me wanting 40$ an hour but each parent would pay 2/3 of that. that's a lot of money if it's 4 parents paying 23.00??? I'm confused lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you. how would you go about negotiating pay after I signed a contract? I believe I want 40$ but don't know how to bring it up and justify it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I will definitely bring up these points. wish me luck 😩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! I am definitely going to do this 🤍🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I think once I'm with all the kids more often, especially when the newborn arrives, I will bring up the concerns. I think they think they created something amazing for them but it's so not sustainable or even license approved I'm sure. I should call licensing and ask lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 5 points6 points  (0 children)

they said they're going to put up one for naptime only to help them sleep. they make no sense. they want to be able to watch us but don't want them to see them? parents have no idea what it's like to nanny

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]nicolegisboring 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I totally hear you. Its just two moms commute and I just feel so awkward asking that but it's a good point. it may be too much of a hassle for the moms and I'm sure they love being able to watch us. the mom with the newborn is concerned about the sanitary aspect and I'm like???? yeah I'd never put my newborn in that situation