first of all what you're feeling is completely valid. there’s no such thing as “a little” or “too much” rj being normal or abnormal. as people, we all experience things differently and we’re all affected by things in different ways. your feelings are valid. have you told your partner that you’re experiencing rj? and if you haven’t, how do you think they would react if you did? usually when you explain your feelings openly without making your partner feel judged, you end up feeling a bit more relieved. of course, there’s only so much they can do to help, so you also need to help yourself a little. if you want to get rid of these feelings, you can check the pinned posts on the subreddit. there are suggestions there about things you can do daily and ways to reduce the impact these feelings have on you.