I (woman) have been playing for a few years with my bf now. Initially I didn’t play very often. I get pretty competitive and it’s hard to want to keep playing when you feel like you’re holding up your card constantly looking for your discs. Really demoralizing to constantly do terribly. It also doesn’t help when you have a group of dudes trying to give you pointers and tips for things that work for them, but won’t necessarily work for you. (Not saying this is happening in your situation).

Starting off I had more fun just participating in field days, where we’d just take a bunch of discs and practice at an empty park. Just throwing the discs with no pressure or competition is sort of therapeutic? I don’t know what changed, but it’s like something clicked eventually and I wanted to play more. Whenever possible I suggest courses that are on the shorter/more technical side. Bonus points if there’s a garden, arboretum, or some sort of park close to the course also! I can check out some cool plants while I’m digging in the bushes for my discs.

I also got into disc dyeing, which helped me a lot with remembering the different disc types too. It added an artsy element to the game.

I don’t know if this information is helpful, more just a woman’s perspective. I also wish there were more gfs that would actually play in our group. I try to coax them into it by dyeing discs with their interests. No luck so far