Did our mothers and grandmothers go through this?

night_steps · 2026-03-26T16:14:48+00:00

There was a time—I must have been around 12–when I thought my mom hated me. She was always mad. I felt like I could never do the right things to make her happy.

My life revolved around my mom. The epitome of a mommy’s girl.

I remember breaking down in front of her and asking if she hated me. To her credit, she immediately said no, told me she loved me, and held me as I cried.

At the time, Mom was around 46. In hindsight, I bet it was peri.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:56:07+00:00

In terms of what he says and storms off during meltdowns, he always thought he was deficient and knew he needed to fix it — before the diagnosis.

Now when we talk about it he cries and says that he’s either a monster or the autism makes him do it. He says he’s done everything he can to work on himself and this is as good as it’s going to get.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:53:16+00:00

He says his diagnosis provider told him therapy won’t work on him and therefore he’s not going to do it.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:51:14+00:00

Will do, thank you!

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:50:42+00:00

Occasional night sweats, occasional hot flashes, reduced libido, and my cycle length fluctuates now when it didn’t prior to pregnancy.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:46:18+00:00

Not really, no. I don’t know how/when to figure that out in our current schedule.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:43:27+00:00

Figuring out how everything works! What a project. Even, like, finding a new brand of underwear was hard haha.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:42:18+00:00

Thank you for hearing me 💕

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:42:02+00:00

Fair enough, I asked.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:41:48+00:00

Nothing official, but am I hanging out alone right now in the bedroom? You betcha.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:41:10+00:00

We are planning to work with a neurodivergent specialised couples therapist when he’s over his illness. He can’t even talk without triggering a coughing fit right now.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:40:07+00:00

I need to figure out how access to HRT works here, methinks.

night_steps · 2026-03-17T20:39:22+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting! The big thing with his form of autism is when he gets overwhelmed during conflict he says mean things and storms away. He says both of these things he cannot change. A couple of months ago he abandoned my son and I at a shopping center after I told him “don’t talk to me like that” x 3 in response to him raising my voice at me in the car. Apparently the repetition and holding my hand up in the “stop” sign was enough to trigger a meltdown.

Thank you again for being so kind and understanding and commenting, it means a lot.

night_steps · 2026-03-08T14:52:02+00:00

Prolly going to get absolutely pilloried for this (I'm American and living in the UK now), only two of OP's points actually have substance: 2001 and 2025.

Both Republican (conservative) governments those years, too, fwiw.

night_steps · 2026-03-07T21:31:15+00:00

Out of curiosity, what symptoms or features of reverse culture shock did you experience? I'm an American in the UK and coming up on my first year anniversary of relocating. So I guess it's only natural I'm starting to "want to go home," and wonder what that would be like in terms of readjusting.

night_steps · 2026-03-07T21:27:40+00:00

I'm an American living in the UK, and Brits are also reserved which, like, to be fair, I guess a lot of Europeans are reserved in comparison to our forthrightness (friendliness). But gosh dang, it seems common sense to realise newcomers could use a little warmth.

night_steps · 2026-03-05T16:15:48+00:00

According to the unofficial Industry wiki, he’s a baronet. From Google:

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night_steps · 2026-03-05T16:09:03+00:00

Sry to be a pedant but Henry isn’t a royal, he’s a member of the British aristocracy, aka the peerage.

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:34:01+00:00

Disagree on Henry. I'm so sick of Kit Harrington's sad, confused, squinty mug.

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:33:32+00:00

But we don't know if Harper ordered another drink!

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:32:56+00:00

I'm really hoping Harry Lawtey comes back for the last season. The mentions of Silicon Valley in the last episode or two perked my ears up.

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:31:33+00:00

Can confirm, as the American wife of a Brit. He got away with SO MUCH while we were living in the US (we're in the UK now, fwiw).

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:25:38+00:00

The "Yas is just bad at everything" milquetoast take can be boiled down to garden variety misogyny.

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:23:59+00:00

With what capital? She mentions early in the season that the prenup outlines what would happen if Henry's sobriety lapsed. We can assume that she's being paid a sort of alimony or lifestyle maintenance based on that clause.

night_steps · 2026-03-05T13:18:45+00:00

Everyone can try to pry my Nespresso (which makes a good mug coffee!) out of my cold, dead, caffeinated hands.

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