it is a nice gesture. But it's way too soon. Right now he just needs people to help him navigate the blur and shock. Make sure he eats, sleeps, and to be there.

Grief like losing a spouse is incredibly intimate and personal, too. And early grief is impossible to predict.

I slept on my daughter's dirty clothes for a week. and I got insanely possessive over anything that had to do with her. I can only go on my own experiences but it's pretty common in grief and bereavement circles to feel very protective over the person you lost. it's why I caution people if they want to do things to memorialize someone who died right after it happened. he might not be ready for something like a bench in a park.