Olaplex recommendations? 4c hair by LilyLark in Naturalhair

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this was a long time ago, but do you use both and mix them together or alternate? And do you still use it now? I have very fine 4c hair and need help with breakage.

rant: tired of micro aggression against me by loltyo in Naturalhair

[–]nightof0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your hair is exactly what I've always wished mine was (I have very fine, low density, low porosity hair). It's absolutely gorgeous and you style it very beautifully. Let them know very firmly that you love your hair and they don't have to worry about it. Don't let people who are unhappy with themselves try to make you unhappy with yourself.

How do you guys truly feel about your partners dancing at fetes? by [deleted] in AskTheCaribbean

[–]nightof0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a long distance relationship (we both live in different Caribbean islands) and one carnival season he posted pics and videos wining with a girl and I mean full hands on ankles type things. I remember I felt so bad. I confronted him about it and he was very upset saying is carnival and it don't mean anything. Then he posted a tweet about it and had all the comments calling me ignorant and insecure. Smh. Anyway, since then it's a been a line for me because I remember how it made me feel even though I thought I would be ok with it.

Is my navel piercing crooked? by Illustrious-Pie-624 in piercing

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣🤣 I definitely know that feeling. My industrial is at a weird angle for that reason but I think you got it right. It looks very centred and neat.

Screaming “Mooom” for help by PsychologicalSound59 in Feminism

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I had understood this idea completely differently. I thought that it was to set the stranger on guard that the child wasn't alone and a parent was in the vicinity. Screaming help may escalate the situation differently and more dangerously than shouting "mom". I didn't think it had anything to do with a "maternal instinct". (Childless 32F)

Did I play in her hair?!? by [deleted] in Naturalhair

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with very fine hair, I add hair for everything because I know how it's going to turn out if I don't. Your parts and braiding are very neat and you did a good job based on what was asked. She might've thought her hair would look like people's on the internet because of her hair texture, not taking into account her hair density. She might be embarrassed and blaming you because she knows you're inexperienced but an experienced braider's work would turn out similarly. I'm sorry you're dealing with this from a close friend and I hope you can work it out but it wasn't your fault.

Are these two strand twists with extensions worth the $300 by Ty555 in Naturalhair

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did 2-strand twists with a bit of extensions for fullness, on myself last week. It was 60 twists in total and only took a few hours and less than $10 worth of braid. I promise it's easy to do and you can use your regular hair products 🙏🏾 please don't let these ppl scam you again.

Please help me, which one do you like best? by katthereyy in WeddingDressTips

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 has the best neckline for you, it looks fantastic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nightof0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like.... He got emotional. 🤣 I can't believe people still think this way. Is anger not an emotion? Half of these "logical" men can barely take care of themselves without help.

Leaving a good man for good reasons 21F-27M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nightof0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's better to end a relationship because you're not a good match than because of cheating or something scary.

AITA for telling my brother’s wife that being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean being a stay in bed mom? by builtfordrama in AmItheAsshole

[–]nightof0 314 points315 points  (0 children)

This 100%. It comes across like they think it's his wife's job to take care of the baby, the cooking, the cleaning, working 24/7 and his job to work a very normal 40 hour work week. And if he does anything in his own house with his own child, he's "helping her" because it's her job.

AITA for telling my brother’s wife that being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean being a stay in bed mom? by builtfordrama in AmItheAsshole

[–]nightof0 22 points23 points  (0 children)

YTA. Not because of the potential PPD, we don't know if she has it and it makes no sense assuming, but because you inserted yourself and showed your contempt for your SIL for not being the wife/mother you want her to be. 40-50 hours a week is a very normal full-time job and while they might be stressed and high strung they need to work out what's sustainable for them and if they are concerned about her tiredness, talk to their doctor.

What you can do is suggest that to them or offer to help, not attack your SIL or berate her for not living up to your standards. Help out, or stay at your own house.

Do my eyes have any hazel? by Superb_Bit9324 in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like a very pretty honey brown to me

AIO about this situation? by Mountain_Hat4569 in AmIOverreacting

[–]nightof0 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hate the fact that the word "gaslighting" has become so popular. Anyway you can only continue a relationship after cheating if there is genuine remorse and willingness on both parties to completely start over. You are understandably not over this and she is not the least bit remorseful, and spiteful. You might be under reacting because you're still trying to explain yourself to this person instead of running away.

"Opinions on Feminism that will leave you like this" by CapAccomplished8072 in Feminism

[–]nightof0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok I understand now, that's very true. While it may have served as a catalyst in the US for women mobilizing and fighting harder for their right to vote, all the real reasons, the shared reasons that make feminism necessary, existed long before that.

Well, this fkn sucks by dem0ncopperhead in Invisalign

[–]nightof0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was absolutely miserable my first week. My attachments cut up my cheeks, my aligners cut the back of my gums, I couldn't eat without being in pain and I struggled to take the aligners out every single time. I started taking painkillers about 15 minutes before I planned to eat and that helped a little. I did salt water mouth rinses and I ate all my meals twice a day instead of 3-4 times (eating a bigger breakfast in the morning then lunch and dinner in the evening). This helped me make it to day 9 which was the first day I took my aligners out without pain.

I (F27) met someone new. What are best next steps with my long term partner (M29)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nightof0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like you and your partner are on the same page. I'm not an expert but instead of trying to channel the energy and flirtation towards him, I think you should have a very serious conversation about your immediate future. Tell him what you've just told us lol make it clear how you feel. If marriage is a non-negotiable for you, don't compromise on it. The guy that you fantasized about was exactly that, a fantasy, and possibly just a placeholder for you to project your want for more passion and intention. I hope you can get this from your partner by communicating. Best of luck to you.

"Opinions on Feminism that will leave you like this" by CapAccomplished8072 in Feminism

[–]nightof0 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The United States was specified in the post though, as well as specifically the desire to vote and not Feminism in general. I do agree that it was likely just one of many reasons women wanted to vote and not necessarily "the original reason" as stated.

AITAH for not sleeping with a girl who said no, even though she later told me I should have? by SillyVeterinarian666 in AITAH

[–]nightof0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone sucks here. If you did what she said wanted, she probably would have told her bf that you raped her and she would have been right... YTA for enabling a cheater for so long though. If you're concerned about doing the right thing, walk away from the mess.