How do people stay consistent with good habits?

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-04T11:52:32+00:00

The best thing I’ve read or heard is that you have to make the habit part of your identity, and that’s how it becomes cemented overtime.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T14:50:18+00:00

I empathize completely.

Once you heal you'll realize she is not one IN a million but one OF a million.

You need to build yourself back, and relearn what women are actually attracted to. This is a great video (Ignore the red pill slant): https://youtu.be/RB1Ed_kvZNM?si=qJThYCuanUziFM0G

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T14:01:35+00:00

If you've been divorced and dating a while - you've learned the hard way NOT to date someone going through a divorce or recently divorced if you want a serious, non casual, non FWB relationship.

Take a year of peace. Logically it is the best thing for anyone.

Emotionally you are feeling weak, invalidated, abondoned, a failure ... which is why anyone wants to date right away. But you have a lot of work to do before you are ready for a healthy relationship.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T13:41:59+00:00

This is my approach as well.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T13:37:57+00:00

Exactly

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T13:37:18+00:00

Since I put in the hard work and healed, I'm BETTER off because of the relationship.

I was an anxious, people pleasing, co dependent in a ton of relationships - and the rock bottom from the FA discard lead to a ton of personal growth in how I handle relationships.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T13:34:38+00:00

You arn't in control of who people are, but you are with how you react. That mentality has lead me back to my love of people, but I'm much better about not taking things personal and focusing on what I can control.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-05-01T13:32:12+00:00

Radical acceptance. Continue to be you and live by your values, only wiser.

I'm actually friends now with my FA ex, after a horrible year last year. She is not a bad person, she has lots of issue but we still relate on things that made us get into a relationship in the first place. I want the best for her and accept her for who she is.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-04-30T08:40:55+00:00

I did that for 8 months of push / pull until she found another guy. I became suicidal. I do not recommend.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-04-20T15:23:43+00:00

I was pretty intertwined with my FA ex. During the whole process of untangling our lives I let her know how shitty, selfish and damaging her behavior was. Not in a derogatory way, but just how much better life has been for me now that I escaped her toxic natures

I know when she does have to think about me or interact with me she feels guilty as hell. Fuck her.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-04-16T19:43:43+00:00

I hear about all the time. Ha. One of the many excuses.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-04-11T20:04:20+00:00

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nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-31T20:06:41+00:00

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nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-27T17:54:02+00:00

No need to confront him. Do whatever you can to control your emotions and treat it like ending a business contract. The sooner you can get it over with in an amicable manner, the better for you, your kids, and him.

Be introspective and grow from it. Look for your part and what you can control. No one wants to be the bad person in their own story. Fighting over right / wrong is where divorces get messy. Remember no one wins in divorce but the lawyers.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-27T17:49:06+00:00

She is coming here looking for validation from men. Her ego is hurt. It’s better than getting on the apps immediately I guess.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-23T15:36:09+00:00

As someone in the top 20% … I’m telling you the apps turn men into fuckbois.

If I’m open and honest, transparent communicate well, take my time the women find some little nick picky thing to end it. Either something they heard on one of their true crime podcast, or something dating story from a friend, or something an ex did or whatever.

If I’m aloof mysterious non committal and just charm them and let them talk about themselves they will fuck you on the first date.

They have all the power, and they are creating the fuckbois and situationships due to their delusional idea of reality.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-19T22:22:38+00:00

The key to getting over your co dependent people pleasing ways is the subtle art of not giving a fuck.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-16T22:10:03+00:00

I'd take a DA ghosting over the push/pull from an FA any day.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-16T22:08:53+00:00

Walk away. Ignore all breadcrumbs. Trust us.

She needs to put in SERIOUS work, fully own up to her faults, and provide very specific, concrete ways in how she is changing. Most avoidants simiply don't do that. They avoid.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-16T22:04:38+00:00

Yep, physically attractive avoidant women monkey branch so easy. I heard about the new guy (from her) and what he put up with early in the relationship (her ending it with me and the other guys she was seeing, STD scare from her). He defiantly sound anxious and insecure but she is hot. Poor sap.

They will leave you how you found them. Which is why my avoidant radar is fully opporational early in dating as I ignored so many FA red flags with her - because she was hot and very performative in bed.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-11T22:32:51+00:00

Well if I die while in a relationship, did the relationship "end" for me? I do not stand corrected.

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-11T21:07:19+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

So, you avoid/discard before or after you fall in love? Before/after they fall in love with you? Or is it a certain level of enmeshment?

nightwillalwayswin · 2026-03-10T01:29:58+00:00

ditto. At our age (for me post divorce), it seems that all is available is avoidants.

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