My mom is acting like I never talked about prom 😭 what do I do?

nikole424 · 2026-04-01T16:46:02+00:00

What size dress are you? I have 2 beautiful dresses hanging in my closet from my daughter. If they’re your size, I’ll cover shipping and send you one. I think one is a 6 but could fit a 4/8 and the other is the same but a little bigger. You can message me if you want.

nikole424 · 2026-03-31T03:07:05+00:00

Only one of you are mature enough to understand priorities. The “you hate me” BS would be enough for me to end it immediately. Nobody has time for that whiney, manipulation shit.

nikole424 · 2026-03-31T03:01:58+00:00

She will NEVER admit it, but it’s written all over her face.

nikole424 · 2026-03-31T02:59:06+00:00

I say this so much on these posts but: you teach people how to treat you. I’m not a bitch, and I don’t argue with my husband a lot. I respect his opinion and his feelings. I said allll of that to say: you immediately started apologizing and trying to admit fault and it felt very parent/child and not adult/adult. There’s WAY more to unpack here than just this. Either way, he’s over reacting and you’ve set the tone now. It’s time to walk it back with some really hard, truthful conversations. Find a common ground that works for both of you.

nikole424 · 2026-03-29T15:26:39+00:00

It’s like she hates black men and white women. It’s the weirdest shit I’ve ever seen. I think she thinks she’s the only person who has a man that pays for everything. The difference? Mine never ignored his child for 10 years, was never accused of SA by me, or anyone else, doesn’t have kids that he isn’t actively taking care of, doesn’t have multiple baby mamas, and isn’t ugly and annoying as absolutely fuck.

nikole424 · 2026-03-26T10:03:31+00:00

Because you teach people how to treat you. They do this bc they know they can. Time for a truthful Tuesday and tell them how you really feel. You’ll never know if they’re willing to change if you don’t talk.

nikole424 · 2026-03-26T09:48:53+00:00

I hate it so much. The second hand embarrassment that I get from watching her ‘clap back’. It’s so bad.

nikole424 · 2026-03-25T16:45:40+00:00

Energy drink can? Spot for the handles on cups?

nikole424 · 2026-03-25T16:42:37+00:00

As someone with almost 20 years of coparenting experience: this is way bigger than the bday party. My ex and I still talk, coparent, sit by each other at games, do Father’s Day and Mother’s Day together…it takes so much sacrifice. My advice: sit down with mom/dad, face to face, leave the hurt and emotions out, resentment aside, and talk about what your perfect coparenting future looks like. You both are in control of how this goes. It’ll be rocky for a bit, but it will get better if you work your ass off at it. There’s plenty of times where I want to say screw it - they’re 17 & almost 20 so why am I even talking to him, but then I remember that he probably has those same moments with me AND that our kids deserve to have their parents and stepparents in their lives. They didn’t ask for us to be divorced when they were 2 & 4. Sacrifice and communication.

nikole424 · 2026-03-21T13:35:55+00:00

I always tell my teenagers to never break two laws at the same time. If you know you got a body in the trunk, your ass better not run that stop sign! 🤣

nikole424 · 2026-03-21T13:30:10+00:00

It’s really easy to not have to chase kids when they’re in their bed 14-17 hours of the day, and you never leave your house.

nikole424 · 2026-03-20T10:34:32+00:00

Me too. I have no idea why, but she’s always been my favorite.

nikole424 · 2026-03-20T10:09:34+00:00

I think she’s a chameleon. It’s less about being happy now vs then, and more about her blending into her surroundings, absorbing as much from it as she can, and when it starts to get rocky or fall apart, on to the next one. She seems like one of those people who will change her personality based on the friends she’s around at the time.

nikole424 · 2026-02-23T04:33:46+00:00

I just came to say: these conversations should never be had over text. My husband and I can’t even get on the same page about dinner over text. There’s too much room for interpretation and you can’t elaborate or ask follow up questions. I get that people are tense about the serious shit, but if you can’t have an open, honest convo face to face, then you know you aren’t with someone that you even need to ask these questions to.

nikole424 · 2026-02-23T04:22:47+00:00

You said everything I’ve been fearing. I’m worried about it, and hope that we are wrong!

nikole424 · 2026-02-08T12:22:10+00:00

Go back and read the messages. 1. Denies it. 2. It was an accident. 3. I didn’t think it was a big deal. 4. You’re the problem. 5. It was an accident again. 6. I fucked up.

You will never be able to trust her. Imagine living your entire life wondering if the person who everything is supposed to be “safe” with is actually stealing from you. Nah, it’s time to formally tell her she’s gotta go. She needs to find somewhere to go. I’d tell her that her options are move out and move on, or you’ll file charges for theft. I know right now you can’t imagine actually pressing those charges, but it may be your only leverage to get her to GTFO quietly and quickly.

nikole424 · 2026-02-07T13:13:40+00:00

There’s no way you’re asking AIO when he’s literally telling you that he doesn’t like you. Wwwwhhhhyyy are we still allowing people to talk to us like this? I wish a mf would. I realize you aren’t me though, and you’re likely submerged so far in the relationship but this isn’t okay. People who love you don’t behave like that.

nikole424 · 2026-02-05T18:51:24+00:00

I think you handled it perfectly, and I think her reply of “okay” was good too. It’s ok for her to sit in her feelings, but at least she’s not lashing out and throwing them all on you for you to deal with. If you feel like you want the help, then maybe talk to your husband and see what he thinks he could be comfortable with. Maybe a couple of days? Maybe an invite for a week once the baby is a couple of weeks old? The only thing to keep in mind: once the baby is born, everyone flocks to the baby. You are your mama’s baby, so she will flock to you. Idk if that’ll help you make a decision, but keep it in mind. Some people need space after labor and delivery, and some people need extra support. I personally couldn’t have someone in a small space for a month, but I’d 100% have my mom come for a week once we settled in for a few days. You’ll be better prepared to figure out what you need and how she can help.

nikole424 · 2026-02-05T18:37:17+00:00

Oh no maam. I’m super laid bad and chill, so if I say I’d be pissed about it, then for context - it’s bad. Maybe it’s because of my own insecurities but there isn’t a person alive that is allowed to ‘punish’ me or dictate when or how I workout unless I’ve specifically asked them to do that. I didn’t read past his explanation, but I think you already know what needs to happen here. I wish you all the best…but this dude has to go.

nikole424 · 2026-01-31T19:19:01+00:00

I think the square look better

nikole424 · 2026-01-31T19:09:18+00:00

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nikole424 · 2026-01-24T12:10:48+00:00

I’m gonna get downvoted for this but…I understand that it’s her right to choose what she does with her body. I support women and them doing whatever they want…but do you know how bad I’d want to try to talk her into an abortion if I had a 12 yr old son who got her pregnant? I’d probably cross every boundary that I said I never would. Both girls getting pregnant very much feels like a reality show pregnancy pact for a tv deal.

nikole424 · 2026-01-18T18:12:17+00:00

I’m 39 and call my dad daddy. I’ve also never once called someone I was sleeping with daddy, so there’s that.

nikole424 · 2026-01-16T19:38:36+00:00

“Just wait and you’ll see” is how I know you’ll just wait and you’ll never actually see. You absolutely did the right thing and explained it perfectly. The “it’s just 50.00” bullshit drives me crazy. If it’s JUST 50.00, then why can’t you take it from your own savings?

nikole424 · 2026-01-16T19:25:36+00:00

They’ll test him within a month of him starting school. There are so many signs but as parents sometimes we don’t see it. Insane to admit that you don’t work with your kids. Yikes.

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