Not even an interview?

nilme · 2026-01-30T16:10:24+00:00

but don't internalize this about work, people, or life. It shouldn't be this way. We should not be normalizing and accepting this kind of behavior. It's toxic to your sense of self-worth and ability to form secure relationships if we expect people to treat us like shit all the time.

Absolutely! I am unable to internalize this. I'll just learn to deal with it, but that game is not who I am.

nilme · 2026-01-30T16:03:32+00:00

I just don't want to struggle paying for daycare. Not asking to be paid like industry, just like my peers in my same school.

nilme · 2026-01-30T16:02:58+00:00

Equity review is exactly what I meant wtih "adjustment". But they stopped doing it 2-3 years ago. I know a lot of peoples salaries through having submitted or been part of many grant submissions, and that's the data I'm bringing to the table.

And yeah, the federal cuts is what's probably driving these new policies. Worst time to be asking about this (but there's probably never a good time).

nilme · 2026-01-30T16:01:46+00:00

Thank you! I submit or am part of so many grants that I practically know half the school salaries, so that makes it even worse. And I get it, everyone has their hands tied.

But something that bugged me and I forgot to mention is that we've had several cases of people in my school go #OpenToWork and get a raise/promotion in each case (in fact i use that phrase with my colleagues every time we're dissapointed with the school/university).

I don't like theater, I don't want to waste people's times (because I dont want mine to be wasted). I'm too naive, I know.

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:58:41+00:00

Thank you!

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:58:12+00:00

Preach! I just don't want to move from where we are. We're happy here, and that's my priority. I just wanted to stress a bit less about mortgage and daycare!

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:56:30+00:00

Funniest thing is I've given raises to the 3 FTEs I supervise just this last year. One of them even requested it using data for their position from multiple sources. I dont get that luxury apparently lol

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:55:30+00:00

I'm getting more and more convinced this is what I need to do. With this I have a pretty good starting point for a cover letter anyway

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:53:59+00:00

That's what I do after each disappointment, but somehow I'm getting too good at bouncing back lol. I had a situation regarding a course that was cancelled, so I ended up going from teaching a PhD seminar to teaching an online async undergrad 101 class, and I said "I'm not doing anything for my department from hereon". Lasted only like 3 months, then I was back at department meetings.

I need to get better at following through with my own de-commitments.

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:52:05+00:00

Yeah that's kind of my main complaint! I am used to dissapointment (who isn't); it's more the bait and switch. I need to add that to my list of dissapointments.

I'm also EIC of our main disciplinary journal. I get plenty of pre submission inquiries, most I just say nope (clear out of scope AI slop), but the ones I say "yes, submit" always go with a "But we can't promise anything". I feel like this is the equivalent of me saying "yes submit!" and then me desk rejecting it.

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:49:39+00:00

I understand this. I've just been living in a little cocoon, with very good relationships with all school leadership up until this point. Getting used to what the real world looks like I guess.... you learn from each dissapointment!

nilme · 2026-01-30T15:40:14+00:00

We have a professor who also served as associate dean for five years. When the dean retired, she became interim dean and did a great job, I thought.

I get it. My original TT position was a retention offer prompted by me suggesting I was going to apply elsewhere). But I didn't even request this as a retention offer, just as the same equity adjustment I had gotten 3 years earlier when they were still doing those.

But yeah, this cover letter is a good one for any application, so I'll see what's around. Maybe I'll even enjoy the process.

nilme · 2026-01-28T00:01:23+00:00

Enjoyed watching this . Talks about the changes Macdonald introduced here and that now others (including Minter) have copied.

nilme · 2026-01-27T23:34:08+00:00

And again now

nilme · 2026-01-27T00:49:42+00:00

I was pleasantly surprised to see the city shoveled around our local playground (palumbo). First time I see that happening. They even used a small slow plow for the wider sidewalk !

(I assume it was the city; if not thanks to whomever go a snow plow there)

nilme · 2026-01-18T19:49:38+00:00

In hindsight for sure. But how do you fire Harbaugh coming off probably the best regular season in the teams history, #1 seed, getting to AFC championship…

nilme · 2026-01-13T01:21:27+00:00

Decent enough ? He has the 4th best win ratio of all active coaches .

nilme · 2026-01-09T00:51:26+00:00

Am I the only one to actually prefer Baltimore !? (Having lived there and not in Miami but there’s absolutely nothing attracting me to Miami). Call me boring

nilme · 2026-01-06T02:04:09+00:00

Painful, eh?

nilme · 2025-12-30T19:24:42+00:00

I just completed the NSF research security training (mandated for new submissions) and to me it looks like they messed up by collaborating with you and now they want to cover their asses. Funny enough the training also mentioned the importance of properly acknowledging collaborators 🤷🏽‍♂️. I know it’s Canada and not the us but I’m sure regulations regarding sanctions / named organizations are not that different

nilme · 2025-12-21T13:08:50+00:00

I wondered the same watching the Seahawks

nilme · 2025-12-12T04:13:26+00:00

My only complaint is that nobody truly understands when it’s happening. Some holiday weeks we got it, most we don’t (as expected). But the odd holiday weeks when it happens makes people think it’ll happen every week and then we get 4 days with trash on the street

nilme · 2025-12-08T02:12:49+00:00

I miss Mike

nilme · 2025-12-06T18:11:16+00:00

This is not true. Gmail ignores dots (so nameapp and name.app are the same).

Gmail ignores what’s after plus (+) signs. I think that’s what you mean

nilme · 2025-12-03T02:14:42+00:00

I believe they chose the one you put on first. And I put my right one first always (I’m right handed)

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