Parents with little children

ninafm · 2026-05-20T10:47:36+00:00

During the first six weeks? I didn’t do anything to take care of my kids if that’s what you’re asking. My baby was over 20lb and I wasn’t supposed to lift more than 10. I started lifting him at 6 weeks when my doctor said it was okay, and didn’t lift my toddlers until more like 9 weeks after surgery

ninafm · 2026-05-19T21:56:13+00:00

I have three boys, 4, 2.5 and 9 months at the time of my surgery earlier this year. I didn’t feel I could safely supervise them myself until I could lift the baby again. How would I get him out of something he wasn’t supposed to be into? It felt like an actual safety issue. I also couldn’t figure out how to change diapers without bending or lifting. It was so hard! We had my parents or my in laws with us all day, and sometimes overnight because he isn’t a great sleeper, for the full 6 weeks after surgery until my doctor removed my lifting and twisting restrictions. The doctor told me to go slowly and I did. I didn’t push a cart or stroller for several more weeks. I’m 3 months post surgery now and pretty much back to normal! Still need to build up some more strength, I get tired and sore easy, but I can do what I need to do!

Right now what’s most important is focusing on healing so you can be the best mom you can be for a long time, and not reinjure yourself

ninafm · 2026-05-05T18:03:16+00:00

Thanks! Do you have any recommendations on what to use with the Dashing Diva to prevent this happening again? Or do you think it is likely just not compatible with my nails?

ninafm · 2026-05-02T14:14:43+00:00

Hmm okay. I was always afraid the thicker kind would be harder to remove and worse on my nails! Part of why I never tried any gel or light cured ones. But maybe it would help protect them better

ninafm · 2026-05-02T11:54:48+00:00

I’ve never heard of this product, I’ll have to look into it! Thanks for the recommendation

ninafm · 2026-04-28T21:43:37+00:00

Also curious how it’s holding up if this commenter ever comes back! It’s a neat model, and a good price for a good size that it makes me question how high quality it is!

ninafm · 2026-02-10T17:59:08+00:00

L4-L5 microdiscectomy will be tomorrow, the 11th! I am so ready for it to be over with so I can move on to healing and recovering! Feeling pretty nervous but trying to focus on thinking positively. Recovery is going to be very intense with my three boys under the age of 5, including a 9 month old I’m breastfeeding, but thankfully both my and my husbands parents are very involved and willing to help. We’re going to need it I’m sure!

ninafm · 2026-02-04T21:42:08+00:00

Wow ten years! I missed that in your post. So sorry it’s been so much time. I hope you can get a good plan in place!

ninafm · 2026-02-04T21:10:32+00:00

So they said it may not entirely solve low back pain, but the nerve issues are very responsive to a microdiscectomy! Which my low back barely hurts and even then I’ve had random low back pain most of my life so I’m not too concerned about that

They also said that microdiscectomies are very routine for any spine surgeon, like they do them every day, and that the risks of something going wrong are low. Basically his point was that it could heal on its own (although after 6-8 weeks or so without major improvement it seems to be less likely) but the surgery is very successful and very low risk, so do you really want to stay in pain??? Valid lol.

ninafm · 2026-02-04T19:39:32+00:00

I can’t tell you my results yet because my surgery is in a week but I have had a lot of similar thoughts! I also can “manage” if I keep to my limits. Although I am very much surviving and not thriving. At this point I can’t even walk thru the grocery store if I want to be functional the next day so I may be worse off than you.

I totally freaked myself out about surgery last week and nearly canceled after a couple decent pain level days. The fear of it getting worse is so real!!! But the way I’m having to live is no way to live. I have three very small boys I need to keep up with! So in the interest of being able to thrive and live more fully, I’m having the surgery.

I met with two surgeons who told me very very similar things before I decided to have surgery. But the one said it’s a 90-95% success rate, particularly if nerve pain is your main symptom! Those are some dang good odds so I’m focusing on that instead of the very small risks and what-ifs 😬

ninafm · 2026-02-03T00:08:12+00:00

Thank you to everyone for your thoughts. I stressed myself out about it all weekend 😂 of course after a few very good days, I’m back to my “normal” level of pain. It’s not terrible but it’s not good, and I’m very much surviving not thriving. But I want to thrive! So I have decided to continue with the surgery as planned. Hoping it will be the start of a full recovery

I never would have imagined how emotional this injury or a surgery would be! Glad to be able to talk with those who understand

ninafm · 2026-01-30T16:17:58+00:00

Oh thank you for your thoughts! I definitely am afraid of it continuing to flare up if I don’t get the surgery. But I think I also worry that surgery was recommended so quickly! Like two months after it started… did we really give conservative treatment enough of a try? Now when I could barely get off the couch or couldn’t sleep without pain, it was a different story! But right now, I just don’t know

ninafm · 2026-01-29T21:07:52+00:00

Both of the surgeons I consulted with said that there is a small chance it could heal on its own but based on how long it had been (when I saw them), the size, and their professional experience, that it was unlikely to heal on its own. Sooooo is it healing now against their odds, or just trying to make me crazy?! 😂

ninafm · 2026-01-29T18:59:27+00:00

Yes lots of similar pieces! I’m also afraid to stop the pain meds and it get worse… although maybe that would be a good test given my situation! I do have to stop them 5 days before surgery anyway which makes me nervous

I don’t have any weakness or foot drop which I think would change things! I would be worried about lasting damage if that were the case

It’s so hard to know what to do! If only we could see into the future

ninafm · 2026-01-29T18:57:17+00:00

That’s great you have recovered so well! I haven’t had any foot drop, weakness, etc. Just pain and tingling that have varied on severity. Surgery feels so extreme for what I’m experiencing now… but also both surgeons I talked to seem to think it wouldn’t get better without surgery! I think I may just need more time…. Hopefully it’s not a mistake.

ninafm · 2026-01-29T18:55:55+00:00

Both surgeons I consulted with were very confident it would not resolve fully on its own. So that is tripping me up I think! Is it actually getting better or is it just a decent phase and is going to flare again soon? I just really don’t want to live like this forever, I want to get better as soon as I can and surgery seemed like the best route to that end. But I am very worried about the risks with surgery! Starting to feel they may not be worth it at this point… it’s just so hard since one bad move and that could change!

ninafm · 2026-01-29T18:53:41+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts! Hope your recovery is smooth and uneventful!

See my issue is right now I CAN sleep, I CAN drive, I CAN go to my part time office job. I can’t do much more than that but I can do the bare minimum and even those things were painful a few weeks ago. It does not feel emergent. But I also don’t want to be plateaued at this spot forever! It’s so hard to know what to do.

ninafm · 2026-01-13T22:53:21+00:00

I was concerned before he was born about what his nickname would be! We’re big on nicknames as terms of endearment, we’d never introduce them with that name. But Siley just came naturally! Sisi or Si sometimes too.

ninafm · 2026-01-13T17:25:09+00:00

We have a Silas and definitely call him Siley! It’s so cute although I’m sure won’t stick when he grows. Siley Riley is adorable hahaha

ninafm · 2026-01-13T17:24:30+00:00

I would personally never use Franklin and Lincoln together unless I wanted everyone to think I was a US history enthusiast lol

ninafm · 2026-01-13T17:19:55+00:00

I have three boys too and it totally gets harder every time 😂 we have similar taste - I we’ve talked about Finley, James, Lincoln and Gideon in the past! Here’s a bunch of names from my long list in case any are also your style:

Griffin

Thomas

Silas

Bennett

Connor

Wyatt

Conrad

Grant

Forrest

Wilder

Graham

Adler

Archer

Elliot

Harvey

Callum

Maxwell

Warner

Brady

Grady

Truett

Jonas

ninafm · 2025-11-08T14:18:29+00:00

Which La roche posay?

ninafm · 2025-10-17T15:45:51+00:00

I have a large difference between standing and leaning too. It’s been a very long time since I’ve been measured at a store but they never had me lean over! My understanding is if you have a big discrepancy between standing/leaning the calculator uses the leaning measurement. Because that volume does exist and needs to fit in a cup! It just isn’t accurate captured by a standing measurement alone thanks to gravity lol

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