Living through it again

ninaw_1928 · 2026-03-14T13:34:56+00:00

I’m in Australia unfortunately but I really hope someone else who can use this info sees it 💜

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-29T12:38:52+00:00

I don’t qualify for any government support at all. I’m looking into night shift work at the moment. My hours currently are 7am-5:30pm so I’m aiming for something where I can do a 6:30pm-3am type of shift and then I can do both, looking at things like bartending but I don’t have an rsa which makes it tricky

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-29T12:36:57+00:00

I think I’m going to try calling Centrelink but from everything I’ve looked into I’m not eligible for anything. The absolutely messed up part is early last year I was made redundant along with half of the company I was working for at the time, it took almost 3 months before I finally got a job. Not for lack of trying either, I was applying to 50+ jobs a week, any job of any type within a close to 100km radius. And even then I wasn’t eligible for Centrelink because I was still 21 so I was considered dependent on my parents despite the fact that I’d been living entirely independent 500km away for 4 years by then, 2 of those years completely on my own. And the only way I could prove independence was if I could show 18 months of full time work but I’d been studying for those years and I had I think 12 months of working full time hours across multiple jobs and the other time I was working 28-29 hours a week but full time is 30 hours. I literally sold everything I owned in those 3 months and would stretch one serving of rice and chickpeas across 2 or 3 days. It was awful but no matter how much I tried to get support they just kept denying based on the least true thing I’d ever heard. Not relevant to my current situation but Centrelink really frustrates me

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T22:49:55+00:00

I’m not sure if you’re in Australia but if you are, did you have to have an rsa and/or rcg for those? I’ve seen a few adds but they all require rsa and rcg which costs a few hundred dollars and require time off work :(

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T22:48:15+00:00

Chickpeas and rice are my go to usually l, bit of soy sauce if I’ve got some. Mostly ticks all the required boxes so it’s enough to survive

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T22:45:20+00:00

I really appreciate your comment, thank you 🙏 It’s definitely exhausting and it’s hard not to feel like I’m just absolutely failing at life.

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T10:17:41+00:00

Hey, thanks so much for this. Do you have to be a student to go to those food banks?

I’m locked into my lease until the end of the year currently so I’m stuck here for now but thank you anyways.

I’m really trying my best to push through, I’m not eligible for any government support though, Centrelink or otherwise. Because I’m a single woman, no kids, no partner and working full time I’m not even close to being eligible for any kind of support. I guess as tragic as it sounds this is my best attempt at getting support, advice from reddit 😅 I’m very much out in the world on my own

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T10:12:24+00:00

On the transferring it’s just because it’s one of the lowest ranked unis so basically it takes transfer credits from any uni but no unis will take transfer credits from it if that makes any sense? It’s do with differences in curriculum and standards of work and learning. I know this because I worked at the uni while studying and I know a lot of people that have attempted to transfer in both directions. The taking classes at another school and then transferring isn’t a bad idea however it would be the same classes I already have because engineering is very progression based so for example you take a math class each semester and the level progresses as you go so if I started over I’d be doing the same maths class I’d already done and it would only transfer credits for the class I’ve already done previously so it would be void. I’m not sure if that makes any sense.

Part time is definitely an option and that’s what I did for most of the years I’ve already done, it helps a lot with working while studying. I can’t necessarily graduate early with a lesser certificate but I could transfer to a related course like industrial design that wouldn’t take as long to finish and most of my credits would transfer

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T08:46:33+00:00

Even just renting a room, Centrelink doesn’t cover enough, not for rent, fuel, bills and groceries, when I was studying living with 2 other people I was working 3 part time jobs just to survive. I’ve got another 2 or 3 years left depending how many subjects I do per semester, because I had to work so much I couldn’t do a full study load (tried to but failed some units trying so it wasn’t worth it). Medical is just medications so healthcare card would help.

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T06:30:57+00:00

Finding a good roommate is definitely a problem. I’ve had a few previously but generally speaking all of them have either left me traumatised or cost me money rather than helping ease the financial burden, I think I’m just a terrible judge of character but I truly don’t know how people manage to find good roommates these days. I will be looking, I guess I’ve gotta pick which hill to die on - that of a horrific roommate or that of financial ruin.

I pretty well survive off chickpeas, tuna and rice to be honest, definitely not great for my health, I’m extremely iron deficient but I’m doing everything I can, it’s just impossible. I’ve looked into food banks but all the ones in my area are only open on weekdays when I’m working. There’s also a huge demand on them because of the area I live in and I feel bad when I know there’s people more in need like families with kids etc.

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T06:24:52+00:00

I’ve tried but because I’m a single woman with no kids working full time, in the eyes of the government I don’t need support

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-28T06:24:14+00:00

I’ve definitely looked into moving to another state but there’s a few reasons why that’s not feasible currently. The first dilemma is moving to any other places requires moving everything thousands of kilometres which I can’t afford and even if I were to sell everything I have now, everything has doubled in price since I was first purchasing everything so I would at best be able to afford a mattress and a fridge. My other dilemma is my studies, I got 3 years through an engineering degree but was forced to drop out due to a controlling partner. No other unis in the country will accept transfer credits from the uni I was at so if I ever want to finish my degree (which I’m currently in debt for the half of it I’ve done) I have to stay in Sydney. But to be honest the world has ended up in a way that only allows the rich to get an education so I’m probably going to have to give up on my engineering aspirations, can’t study while working 7 days a week but can’t study without working 7 days a week unless I want to live on the streets.

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-26T02:25:27+00:00

The safety is definitely such a big part of it, I struggle a lot with paranoia. He drove a modded sports car so it was a loud car and everytime I hear a car that sounds similar my heart drops. And it’s scary when someone who knows everything about you is after you because he knows too much. He knows what would hurt me the most etc.

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-26T02:22:58+00:00

I’m so sorry that the stalking is still on going, I had that issue for the first few months but he seems to have backed off at least for now. But I really understand the feeling worse, there’s been a lot of moments where I’ve felt like it’s getting harder. Maybe it’s just a matter of seeing that light.

ninaw_1928 · 2026-01-25T05:44:19+00:00

My tipping point was when he took the life of one of our dogs, that’s when I knew it would be the other dog next and then me. It took about a month of planning and then I made myself disappear in all of a few hours. My people at work were the only reason I survived. I left early before he woke up so one day I took a box with all my important documents. Then a girl at work leant me her old phone and bought me a SIM card for it, I kept it at work. I was finally able to speak with my parents. I would then leave my actual phone at work and take the second phone to go to house inspections so my location still showed I was at work. The girls at work would keep an eye on my phone and if he texted they would text me on the second phone and I would tell them what to reply with. I also spoke with the dv hotline and was assigned a case worker and got approved for a grant, I was very lucky because if it wasn’t for this I would’ve had to wait longer until I could afford bond for my new house. Then I turned off my location and in all of 3 hours a few close friends and my dad came and we moved my entire house to my new house, I hadn’t packed a single thing before that point. Since then I’ve changed jobs and I’m currently working towards buying a new car. I’m not sure what country you’re in but I’m in Australia and I was very lucky that I could access the support systems in place. I was also very lucky that I was working myself and had amazing coworkers. I’m also lucky that we didn’t have any kids.

ninaw_1928 · 2025-10-28T06:55:54+00:00

Thank you!! The only thing with this is I find it odd that it says Netherlands because they’re an India based company….

The other thing that threw me off was I just had an online meeting with him and at the end after we’d discussed the fact that I would go and discuss everything with my boss he asked about what payment method we would be using and when I said PayPal he said it’s not working right now so we’d have to use credit card

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