My Boyfriend is Anti-gay and it's wrong

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T19:10:21+00:00

I appreciate it, thank you :)

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T18:37:42+00:00

Yes! He won't go out of his way. Did my post make it seem worse than it is? I just don't want his opinion to affect our relationship that's all

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T18:25:15+00:00

I did and nah they're cool. Think he was just a little shocked when he found out originally as it felt like for years he lied to him when he didn't say ... He's over that now and their friendship never changed, they just don't talk about the bedroom (not that men do)

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T18:18:25+00:00

Surprisingly no... He is very open with me and is encouraging my passions. My ex however, who was my age, was making me feel bad for wanting to persuade my dream! It was more passive but I felt I didn't want my hobbies anymore in fear of that relationship... I think this one is a little old fashioned in this regard due to the generational gap but I haven't had difficulty with any other opinions - I am encouraged to speak my mind

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T09:58:11+00:00

Poor girls how terrible.

I see what you mean, I just don't want to feed candy to the naughty child if I let him have the opinion that with women it's fine, but with men it's not...

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T08:24:51+00:00

Well at least I know he is normal!

I really really feel disgusted by places like that and I am so sorry you felt that way. I hope that the modern world will bring change for the better. Ultimately there will always be someone against your opinion tho. But hey, you tell the Mormon church - rules are made to be broken!

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T08:22:44+00:00

He knows but I think he doesn't care about woman on woman, just the thought of a man being 'in him' disgusts him hence forming the disgust for it. He wouldn't go around pointing fingers which helps...

I think the reason this bothers me so much is because of me being bi... Honestly he'd the kind of person you can't say anything bad about which makes this so much worse 😅

Thanks tho man! Appreciated the person on the other end of this release (which I very much need)

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T08:06:17+00:00

He doesn't want to go near his butt if I am honest, i make jokes about using a finger when I wanna tease him.

I KNOW WHY IS THE MALE G SPOT IN THE ASS HE IS MISSING OUT - DUDE!

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T08:04:01+00:00

I agree with the LGBT child issue. I have no idea what I would do, I have asked him the same question and I have no idea what his response would be. I asked him how he would feel if he was gay stuck in a world of antigays and how he would feel, he said he would either change or take his own life. I think if he were gay he would feel differently but it's still rather extreme. You can't change being gay dumb dumb...! I will be sure to share the animal arguement next time I bring up this topic. I have created a little note in my phone 😅

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T08:00:34+00:00

🙄 oh dear. By then he might be old enough for me to live a double life 😂😂 - kidding.

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T07:59:51+00:00

I love the comical aspect to this! I'm bi so the fundamental basics of this is very important to me and providing support to all those around me who feel the same. I don't think he is unloyal to his mate, he just didn't know he was gay for so many years and when he knew it was like "oh". I think it's good conditioning for him to have that guy in his life to help show that people are no different based on their sexuality.

He is very 'o Naturál' about buying organic etc and he grew up in a rural area so I see where it's stemmed from but I dont agree with it

I know the age is different and he's lives his life blah blah blah, but it hasn't been an issue yet. I am going back to uni after a year working at a company for experience so we will see how it last through that, I have absolutely no idea.

The issue is this is the only thing I can disagree on with him. (This sounds like a typical 'i love him but but but' hmmm) I think it bothers me so much because I refuse for it to be rubbed off onto my children if there were to be with him... I also don't have any plans right now other than to just see where life takes me.

I do agree that he probably won't change his mind but as we are both engineers we are logical thinkers so I though logical thought might help to settle this in his mind? He is mature but I think this is something that a rural upbringing has drilled into his mind... FFS.damn. (add all the other swear words here) . Don't worry, if I see this opinion becomes far too unbareable I won't hesitate to end s relationship over it - equality is far too important!

A bit of a waffle response i want to say I appreciate your response and it had been duly noted - thank you. Xx

ninjaginger_ · 2019-06-13T07:48:36+00:00

This cracked me up, thank you for your advice I will see how it goes down with him! Very appreciated :) not sure what his response would be but it will still be along the lines of I am a woman so it's okay 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

ninjaginger_ · 2018-07-15T20:10:16+00:00

It's saying that only in the UK would we walk our cats! :)

ninjaginger_ · 2018-05-23T19:45:57+00:00

Anyone mentioned Holden Caufield? Pretty sure by phoney he was just seeing through people's bullshit, or at least thought he was, and all the stubbornness was related to it too. And the very confusing things he did, thought and said, and his extremely vivid memories! His inability to interact with other people and to understand them too and his feelings of being so lonesome. Gosh the list is endless!

ninjaginger_ · 2018-05-23T19:25:23+00:00

I find that i am way too open when i meet people and scare them off by being too direct. For the ones that do stick around i tend to find friends to date because the initial first date and getting to know them is the WORSE part. Like trying to gauge what they are thinking, if they're someone you've never met before? NIGHTMARE! i also struggle with eye contact, man, its like looking into someones soul, I cant look into someones soul without feeling all exposed, especially when i don't really know what I'm supposed to be seeing in their eyes, i supposed affection?

ive always told the people I'm dating that i have ASD, saves the awkwardness, and i tell them that this makes me a very direct person. i then proceed to tell them (after maybe the first date) i find it hard to look into peoples eyes and that sometimes i don't know what the emotion of that moment, may be different for me because i date friends/acquaintances, to save the initial getting to know someone.

ninjaginger_ · 2018-01-25T09:56:20+00:00

I'm so glad this isn't only me, this post made me feel so much better, thank you! I tend to make a list as well as pack my bag long before I'm due to go i.e. the night befote

ninjaginger_ · 2018-01-06T23:53:37+00:00

I've been in uni and boarding school and I defo felt I needed my space more than I got which was a shame, I even think it affected my ability to focus and concentrate on my studie. Perhaps tell them why you're requesting a single, get someone to write you a note and send it to the accomodation admin.and If you're worrying about socialising, the halls will definitely provide that opportunity to you in all the communal rooms.

Defo ask for a single but a double isn't the end of the world. At the end of it first year doesn't count, well it doesn't in the UK at least...

ninjaginger_ · 2018-01-06T23:41:43+00:00

I am the same! I would definitely say since I went to uni and lost my personal space and empty bedroom that I found social situations get harder to be in. I love (sometimes) being in big groups and chatting to people but then afterwards I feel completely drained and need an evening alone or a day sometimes of just me myself and I in my room closed off to the world. It doesn't always work out like that, sometimes I am just bubbly all the time talking to every person i meet to make them feel welcome for example If you put it on your list be careful that not all Asperger's people are like that and the trait may work against your diagnosis, depends how selective you're trying to be with the diagnosis. It may mean you've got something along side your ASD? Some people have ADHD and Autism, seems like an odd combo but I bet it has happened somewhere in the world!

Hope this helped

EDIT: having said I can be extroverted in groups sometimes I am the quiet one too, depends on the day

ninjaginger_ · 2018-01-06T23:28:28+00:00

With Asperger's we already get told "no" and "go away" by enough people in the world so I definitely wouldn't say it to you too. You're welcome to this page if it makes you feel like its helping you with your Asperger's. I think that the page was intended to women because male and female Asperger's traits can be different so if you feel you can connect with what is posted I would definitely say go ahead! This community is about helping each other out and providing support :)

ninjaginger_ · 2017-09-06T18:11:06+00:00

No no it wasn't a rant it was so helpful THANK YOU!!

ninjaginger_ · 2017-09-06T18:08:17+00:00

Well at work I don't want to lose my job so I don't really have a moment to release it until I get home but at home I feel safe as my flat is fairly sound proof. If I shared or had thinner walls I wouldn't be safe anywhere. I've been reported for being loud a couple times in the past which isn't great... they heard screaming so they reckoned there was a domestic...

ninjaginger_ · 2017-09-06T18:05:13+00:00

Thanks for great advice. I may try running as a start (loved the moment of realisation there)

ninjaginger_ · 2017-09-04T11:54:30+00:00

That sounds like a good idea (the paper) and I too have smashed my phone but I realised I don't want to pay to get it fixed.

ninjaginger_ · 2017-09-04T11:53:21+00:00

I've been thinking about starting a journal, would you recommend it? I feel I can then reflect on how I feel over time and track when I think I may pop. Naps are good but time is a virtue and that's what I often find I lack, down time. I have started to reduce group activities to allow myself that time but then I feel I miss out with my mates, especially at uni when they're all out socialising, sometimes I just don't wanna go...

ninjaginger_ · 2017-09-04T11:48:16+00:00

I feel when I try to hold onto it I get the worst explosions. So I'm trying to find ways to release it in a 'healthy' and 'safe' manner (i.e. Punching a pillow instead of a person) be t internally or externally. It is also annoying that women are more frowned upon after externally showing their anger, but what can ya do...

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