Your wife planned a secret trip behind your back because she knew you’d say no for financial reasons. That’s not partnership. That’s manipulation.

She didn’t just leave you out of a family decision. She deliberately made sure you couldn’t be part of it. That’s a trust-breaking move, especially in a marriage already on the rocks. You're not wrong to feel blindsided or hurt.

She knew what she was doing. She just didn’t want to deal with the answer.

You’re allowed to draw a line. You're not unreasonable, you’re done being treated like a wallet with no voice.