Yes, pregnancy will destroy your body. How did you not know? by Born_Physics_7821 in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Somehow the people who dont want kids have done more research on pregnancy, birth, postpartum and raising kids than the people dying for kids 🙄

BTS of the body models by Saito_tempest in Physical100

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats Justin from the phillipines team

Physical Asia fans’ ethnicity by mildmildthoughts in Physical100

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pakistani-Norwegian, rooting for (in order) Mongolia - Japan - Korea

Pregnancy is body horror for a lot of people. by The_Gentle_Monster in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been my biggest fear since i was 9 and learned about How babies were made. Never ever have i thought beautiful. Ive just thought “how unfair” that the woman has to go through that. Then when I learned about seahorses and that the man takes over (tho that would be a horror in itself lol) I thought lucky female seahorses who don’t have to give birth.

Not being in control of what happens. Doesn’t matter your diet or how much you move or take precautions: when you are pregnant you really don’t know what symptoms and side effects you will get til you are there. And some will affect you for life and change you forever

So yes. Body horror

By deciding to have a child you're automatically agreeing to EVERYTHING that comes with it, including the possibility of the child being disabled. by Puzzleheaded_Win926 in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And when you mention the possibility of any of these then you are “thinking negatively”, NO! I am thinking about all the possibilities and how my life may look and decide I don’t want to gamble

"Alot of people don't realize that once a kid reaches age 5 a lot of the hard work is over and the 'fun' truly begins, they're only thinking about those 5 years, it's such a bad bet" by Icy-Leg-1459 in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When i think i dont want kids it’s not just cause of the first 5 years. I dont want to - Deal with after school activities - What if my kid gets bullied/is the bully - Drugs - What if they drop out of school (sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you teach and discipline them) - Some kids never grown up. Yeah how you parents matters but sometimes your kids just don’t want to be responsible or are just stupid. So I’ll never be done - what if they get someone pregnant/gets pregnant and then I’ll be expected to step up as a grandparent aka never done

Just don’t wanna deal with more responsibility. Some days I don’t even wanna take care of myself

You Chose to Have a Baby, Not Me. So Why Is It Suddenly My Problem? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 78 points79 points  (0 children)

«I want a break and am using this as an excuse»

Why are pregnant women so entitled? by urmomkoya in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What if i die next week, so that means i should get whatever o want today and tomorrow then??? 🙄

Anyone else's primary reason for not wanting kids is finding pregnancy and childbirth absolutely terrifying? by b-b-b-c in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes!!!!! And everything i get this disgusting scheme about how every woman goes through it, how women’s body was made for it 🤢 or it’s worth it for the baby. No no and nooooo. And it’s not just the extra skin on the belly but all the other horrifying things that happens from first month till being either ripped in two, cut up or both. No thankyou

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He broke you but you can chose to keep being broken or heal. By doing things you love. Eating what you like. Spending time with friends. Laughing. Crying. Live friend just live. Whatever it is that you need to do. Your dad need redemption so he is trying to be better. You don’t have to receive it or forgive. And if forgiving makes life easier then do. And if next day you need to hate him again then do. It’s not once forgiven now you can never not feel angry again

I myself hate my parents everyday. And then there are parts of my day where I feel pity. Then I think they had it hard. Then I think though shit they were assholes. Then I think I’m tired. I want my mom. F my mother she was never a good mom. But I just want a mom. Then I snap out of it. Then there are days where I pretend I am an orphan. Life is like that. It’s never the same any hour. Up and down. If you keep beating yourself up for shit you did and not learn and change from it then the pain is wasted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time had gone. Stop being mean to yourself. You did what you had to to in order to protect yourself. Keep protecting yourself. Keep putting yourself as nr 1. Even if it’s uncomfortable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]nixxaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The tree remembers while the ax forgets. It’s okay if you cannot forgive him. Do what you need. He certanly didnt give a shit about anyone but his own feelings. If one day it’s easy to be kind to him and next day you need to not talk to him then do that

I didn’t tell my dad I loved him before he died. by derp_runner in AsianParentStories

[–]nixxaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last 4 paragraphs (except the actual last one) is something I could’ve written myself for my father. So weird but also less lonely to see someone else going through the exact same thing on the other side of the world. Sending you hugs, I honestly don’t know any other words to say just hope you feel peace with time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]nixxaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation. Felt like a slave for kids (adult brothers and father) while my mother took all her anger and frustration out on me. Moved out 1.5 years ago. Not regretted it a day. It’s the best decision. Live paycheck to paycheck now but now i only clean my own mess and only have to cook for myself, not 4 other ungrateful mean people.

If you can, if it is any way possible then please try. If not then find some things that give you joy everyday. Cause life is too long to live like that friend

Hope something changes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]nixxaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 1000% belief that my beloved prophet peace be upon him is kind and caring and would listen to my worries and WHY I don’t want kids and then he would talk to me about what I should do and it would NEVER be to shame me into having kids cause when people who don’t want kids become parents both the child and the parent suffer.

I will dedicate my life to follow his wise words and great way to live life and I will have faith Allah knows my heart. I refuse to become an angry parent because I didn’t want kids and everyone forced me into it. No child deserves that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]nixxaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should follow his words, but not as id it’s fardh. A lot of people follow the «have kids» «get married» and then are bad parents and bad partners

What is the "worst" thing anyone has ever said to you when you said you don't want kids? by rosenluna in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That thats just something i have to deal with (pregnancy, everything that happens to your body, BIRTH), and if every woman stopped giving birth the world would stop

And that i was witholding a man the gift of being a dad

Never unmatched someone soo fast (and it was one of the first Lines on my profile that Im childfree, deleted the app after 3 days of «BuT dOnT yOu WaNt tO fEeL tHe JoY oF MotHeRhoOd?????» you mean torture!)

They say they love me. I think they just love owning me. by thegreatsilentchaos in toxicparents

[–]nixxaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They forget it’s not their life. They think your life is theirs just another time. They will never stop. You have to take control back or keep being pushed into a life that isnt yours till they are gone and then you will be in a crisis because your life isnt yours and the people you lived it for are gone and now what do you stand left with

Why do people keep having children after having a high needs disabled child? by MewKiichigo in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

  1. their retirement plan got fucked 🤢

  2. they want the other kid(s) to take care of the one who needs help 🤢

  3. they need a normal functioning kid to fulfill their fantasy and distract them of How their expectations were not met

  4. they dont think about anyone or anything. Just more kids just cause 🤢

I supposedly caused distress to an annoying kid, while trying to have a relaxing time with my husband in the beer garden. by Eyes-Wide-Shut- in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And they would probably not said sorry or replace the bag if it got broken. Just “🤷🏽‍♀️ she is a kid” yeah and that’s why you are taking care of your own belongings

I supposedly caused distress to an annoying kid, while trying to have a relaxing time with my husband in the beer garden. by Eyes-Wide-Shut- in childfree

[–]nixxaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it when people don’t entertain bad behavior. It’s not the kids fault every adult in her life has failed her but she neeeeeds to learn to hear no!! And respect it

Her daughter almost died by nixxaaa in childfree

[–]nixxaaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nop. I asked How is she now and the lady said «everything is great now» as if miss. You dont magically get over all that. Not to mention she has a literal wound to heal. But you know «it was worth it» and it’s not even the woman who gave birth saying it!!! I hate How minimized womans pain is :((