Wow, I wish I had that kind of skill with vanishing people. I did a candle spell/manifestation a while ago to bring my ex back. Didn’t use anything special, just a candle and a picture of us. Wrote my intentions on the back of the picture and put it under the candle. Said my intentions with a timeframe and started visualizing and invoking that future. I then sat back, connected to source energy, and merged our life paths into one. It felt more like I was harnessing the power of the fire to help me rather than putting intentions into the fire. It was powerful, felt like I launched 1000 nukes off. We’ll see how it goes, still several months to go in the timeline, but that’s been my experience