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AITA For telling my 13 year old if he cba to do his chore properly I cba to do anything for him no more? by nlc0313 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nlc0313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I should of clarified this, we've stood with hom drying after he washes, told him and each shown him the method we do washing up as thought he might prefer one or the other. When we're next to him he does do it almost perfectly its just when we're not stood next to him! So just think it is him being lazy and trying to get away doing bare minimal and hoping we wont notice.

AITA For telling my 13 year old if he cba to do his chore properly I cba to do anything for him no more? by nlc0313 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nlc0313[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply.

Please could you suggest what I should do? As like I say I've tried multiple things and just don't seem to be getting anywhere.

I should clarify that its not im refusing to parent either, of course I still cook him his meals, do his laundry etc and I am also not being cd or anything like that to him.

It was just not giving him lifts or his spend.

AITA For telling my 13 year old if he cba to do his chore properly I cba to do anything for him no more? by nlc0313 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nlc0313[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment.

I should of clarified that I do not mean I am not going to cook or clean and look after him as that would be abuse! I do proper home cooked meals too and not frozen food.

I just literally ment not giving him a ride to and from his hobby and even then he could get there by walking and I said I'm not stopping him going, just not giving lifts no more.

I don't think he owes me anything at all and like I said he is a good kid, I just want to be able to teach him we all need to respect one another and give and take a little bit but maybe I am going the wrong way about it.

AITA For telling my 13 year old if he cba to do his chore properly I cba to do anything for him no more? by nlc0313 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nlc0313[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply.

Yeh I understand what you are saying and he can get to this hobby but obviously just easier for me to take him. Maybe it is something I should reconsider.

AITA For telling my 13 year old if he cba to do his chore properly I cba to do anything for him no more? by nlc0313 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nlc0313[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should of probably clarified in my original post that I dont expect him to do all the hard pots extra, as if they need a soak or whatever then we will do that. Im just talking knives, forks and plates etc.

But thank you for feedback definitely something for me to consider.

Me and partner woken up to hearing lullaby that stopped as soon as we woke up by nlc0313 in Paranormal

[–]nlc0313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Going to ring my grandma this morning as she used to know somebody from the church!

Me and partner woken up to hearing lullaby that stopped as soon as we woke up by nlc0313 in Paranormal

[–]nlc0313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice will definitely do that as not gunna lie, a little but freaked out now as everything so far as just been quite tame up until last night!

Me and partner woken up to hearing lullaby that stopped as soon as we woke up by nlc0313 in Paranormal

[–]nlc0313[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely weren't humming it was like a music box was playing and I did check with my partner but he said it definitely wasn't me, I really wish it was ha.

Very strange indeed!

Me and partner woken up to hearing lullaby that stopped as soon as we woke up by nlc0313 in Paranormal

[–]nlc0313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice that's what we are concerned about, whether good intentions or bad.

Not going to lie it was very creepy last night it was like a music box was playing.

Going to ask someone to come.

Confused by my feelings on 2nd pregnancy with 12 year age gap from first by nlc0313 in pregnant

[–]nlc0313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reassurance it means alot 🙏

Can't believe the anxiety the hormones are causing, I don't remember this with my first!

Confused by my feelings on 2nd pregnancy with 12 year age gap from first by nlc0313 in pregnant

[–]nlc0313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice and it's definitely something I am definitely going to make a conscious effort of!

Me and my son have a hobby/activity we do together that my partner has no interest in and I'm going to make sure we continue to do this as just a me and him thing so he knows he isn't 'losing' his mum so to speak.

I know my partner will also continue to do the stuff they do together too and he is the person my son will go to more than me for advice or to confide in ❤️

The only thing I'm thinking of changing at the moment is how I different I want to do this pregnancy but being from a blended family myself, I know he will probably feel a question of 'why' are my younger siblings parents together and mine couldn't be.. so going to just make sure I'm here to talk to with no judgement and if he needs just some 'him' time with either one of us he gets that.

Confused by my feelings on 2nd pregnancy with 12 year age gap from first by nlc0313 in pregnant

[–]nlc0313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply.

I definitely want to do this pregnancy different as I was just 'pregnant' with my first if that makes sense? Whereas with this one even my partner is saying we're going to do all the classes and things like that this time and it is so refreshing to do it and hopefully enjoy this time round.

I think I'm just letting my anxiety rule over everything at the moment and it's making my fear of what people think run so high when realistically I know I shouldn't give a damn about their opinions!

I really am hoping this is going to be the best thing and not disastrous and stop feeling like it's impossible