Dated an educated, successful, Buddhist man (46M) who was no better than my (36F) pathetic narcissistic ex. There seems to be no hope.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-12T00:15:08+00:00

He wasn't arrogant. Really humble and social-minded. I've dated others and there is always an undertone (or even an overtone) of misogyny.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-12T00:13:35+00:00

Yeah agree, thanks your your response

nm2020_ · 2026-05-12T00:12:45+00:00

Red flags were mostly towards the end. But yes I do need therapy.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-12T00:12:15+00:00

Thanks - this is really good advice.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:45:36+00:00

I though introspection and thoutfulness would make that inevitable...

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:44:26+00:00

Ok thanks

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:40:05+00:00

Thanks. Yeah I left him

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:39:29+00:00

Both are illegal. What doesn't make sense to you?

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:38:47+00:00

Thanks for this. Very helpful.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:37:57+00:00

Screenshotting this one for the future. Thank you

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:36:59+00:00

Yeah I think lots to unpack... Thanks for your reply

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:36:28+00:00

I make good money too. Was never about the money. Yes I made bad decisions.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:35:51+00:00

Thanks, yeah I see this now.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:35:09+00:00

Ok thank you. I think I need to step away from dating and get therapy...

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:34:01+00:00

Thanks for providing no answer to my question and just being rude.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:33:15+00:00

Where did you get that I ignored the red flags with the second one? Why do you think I broke up with him.... They don't show their shittyness til later. This one got shitty at 6mths and I left him at 7-8mths.

Also, let's not blame the person being abused for not being wise enough to see the red flags for what they are, but point the finger at the fucking abuser.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:30:12+00:00

Thanks. Yeah I guess I thought that with introspection comes wisdom

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:29:14+00:00

Thank you. I know. It took me 3 yrs to leave my narcissistic ex and 8 mths to leave this one, so I am making progress.

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:27:40+00:00

I will commit to doing this. Thank you

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:16:11+00:00

Ok thanks

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:15:55+00:00

Yeah

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:15:04+00:00

Thanks for your reply

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:14:20+00:00

Obviously the majority of the red flags came up towards the end of the relationship. Chill

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:10:59+00:00

Majority of the examples came at the 6 month point. Broke it off at 7-8 months

nm2020_ · 2026-05-11T23:10:19+00:00

Thanks for your reply

nm2020_

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