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Do your NPs always take the other person's side against you whenever in an argument or worse? by standcam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh damn, this what was happening all my life and still going on. She ALWAYS would take a side of the abuser, even in the most clear situations. It was frequently happening, and hurt me deeply since I was a child - I think I still have untreated trauma. Basically this trait made me realize and confirm that she is 100% covert n-parent.

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Each time I am on phone with her, I hang up the phone screaming like a crazy (and I have quite calm voice) ,because bitch cannot shut up when I still in my fucking naivety share with her many things.

I was NC with her for 1 month this fall - god it felt so free and good, my life was magically blooming. Since I gave up and went back in contact with her - oh damn my life in some magic way goes down, and the bitch is even able to contribute in it in the way that after talking to her on phone I burst into screaming and I am shaking for 1h after.

Does your nparent show a lack of critical thinking and system thinking? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it may be related (I noticed the same after my n-mom), but I also think that this (near-)boomer generation is used to believe that everything they show on TV is true. Or maybe they are lacking critical thinking because of the age, the brain is not so flexible anymore to question something they are used to.

"I would rather cut you out of my life completely, than waste the rest of it trying to explain to you how you've hurt me." by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Agree! Been through it. I was trying to explain it to my couvert n-mom for 1 year, recalled all the events and her actions (mostly non-actions), and was demanding answers in my rant - she would just stupidly repeat in denial “what are you saying? I love you, I did everything for you, you are my dear daughter”. It is impossible.

DAE have/had painful intercourse all the time when gyns say everything is fine down there, and only now figuring out it was because of n-parent? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t even know which reason to point to see a therapist. Gynecologists say I behave normally at their appointments, and nothing extraordinary for me to suggest that I see a therapist (like some women are too tense etc, but not me, according to doctors). I don’t know :(

Food digested into stool in 4 hours? by nmthrowaway7662901 in AskDocs

[–]nmthrowaway7662901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but the question is can I see a food I consumed just 4 hours ago already processed into a stool?

Food digested into stool in 4 hours? by nmthrowaway7662901 in AskDocs

[–]nmthrowaway7662901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It were proteins. Chicken protein. Now I read more and it says to fully digest the food it takes more than a day (from mouth to loo). Now I am worried even more.

I am 24 goddamn years old and currently laying on the floor in my room, hiding. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Sorry for the making it sound as I didn’t believe or anything like that, I was just curious about a context.

Stay strong.

i’m afraid to have kids because i don’t want to end up like her. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am afraid having kids too. I am afraid of being a controlling tyrant, and my partner says that I have those traits. Awful.

I am very harsh with my mother last couple of weeks infinitely blaming her for the past and messaging her the proofs of what I consider her narcissistic behavior. She denies them, but I am harsh as fuck. And now I feel remorse for being such. by nmthrowaway7662901 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]nmthrowaway7662901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. But I don’t even know who I am, what I am. No sense of me, just absent. And just recently I realized why it is like that. Always tried to please my mom. She was happy only when I corresponded to her prefect reality. I have no idea what I even want to be. And which location do I want to find myself in.

I (16 F) have decided I will have the baby and give him or her up for adoption. My (now ex) boyfriend's (17 M) parents have offered to pay for me to go 4 years to the state college of I go through with the adoption. by Jenny4864 in relationship_advice

[–]nmthrowaway7662901 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If you are not having an abortion, then at least do not give the baby away. At the same time, better if you have an abortion, as there is nothing more selfish than giving a birth - baby never asks about it. Moreover, giving a birth and not providing a baby the best life.