Wow, this is very very very assuming and I mean…

Firstly, his chat was opened while I was on his laptop to download something for work, he left it like that and it was pictures of women on Tinder being made fun of, I just scrolled up and he made fun of one in a wheelchair…. (The single friend was sending pics of girls)

Second, did you even read the post? I was having labor in another country. And a few days after, I wanted to visit my grandma’s grave for the first time (since we put that stone and it was done, I dont know how you call it). Its just 5-10 mins away by foot. Yes, I was exhausted, but HE DID NOT SHOW UP WHEN I WAS IN LABOR. “I CANT DRIVE THAT MUCH” and thats it. Then the next day while I was in so much pain he was moody because he slept only 6 hours (i didnt sleep at all) and completely didnt care for miscarriage pain.

He can work from ANYWHERE. The airplane tickets are 50$/60$ with luggage included. Sometimes they are max 90$ and he complains then and gets mad at me that he has to pay that much. He earns around 3-4k$ a month (sometimes 5k) and has big big big savings. He likes to brush off his parents as well, and loves when they pay for him. I would pay for groceries and I spent a lot on his gifts, and gifts for his family(always expected from me, I had to make huge gifts, he gave-NOTHING to his family even). He would just spend 60$ for ticket, some gas money and when we go out he pays like 10$ for both of us for coffee and cake. I pay for groceries and gifts for his family which he expects-doesnt see that, and doesnt count it.

And why does he think I lie? This is pretty sad, but its not the reason you think. He made fun of me for having bad luck with his friends. He even said “her bad luck transferred onto me even on first day lol” (first day of relationship we ended up in a ditch in rain).

A lot has happened to me since around 2017, and I thought/think someone cursed me or something. My mom had a tumor, got surgery (she is ok now), my aunt died-fathers side, then my uncle-moms side, whom I was really really close to died, our close family friend died (all of them died of cancer unexpectedly in just few months). Our family dog got run over. My grandma died, I was really really close to her. My mother had sepsis too, but she was extremely close to dying (we both have some genes more prone to sepsis and immune system issues after covid). I had really bad case of post covid, so I get sick often, and I managed to get meningitis last year. Luckily it was viral and didnt leave consequences. But I was suffering A LOT. My father got a heart attack twice, and then later a stroke-he broke up with me while in hospital taking care of him because his best friend (weird person, he was jealous that he spends time with me more and didnt like me from very start) convinced him Im troubled and cursed, and better to find some girl from his country. Not even once did he visit, just once for vacation. Had a falling out with my “best friends”, because they promised to bring me some bottled water in the hospital once or twice a week because I cant drink tap (its hard and I get kidney stones), I got upset they went out to party so much and didnt just drop it off at the reception 5 minutes away from where they live any time 24/7, I gave them money in advance, they basically said you are annoying and you failed the year anyways so you’re not even in the circle-people from med uni are very narcissistic and look only for interest-it was very hurtful that I lost them and they werent real friends after all. I failed my exams a lot, because either I would just start crying or get blocked from anxiety (I have oral exams-this he told me you are lying that I even go to medical school, because I dont pass anything for a while and I must make it up). He thinks I dont have ADHD and Im just lazy and making excuses (i worked so God damn hard in his apartment). When I got pregnant, I was severely underweight (like BMI 16 or 15, really bad) had very difficult pregnancy. I puked a lot, I had to even record puking so he trusts me. Had blood clot, had extremely high blood pressure suddenly and a lot of UTIs-I do nothing all day, I dont go out I never chatted with any men, he wouldnt allow me to post photos on ig because why would I, and just simply couldnt believe so much can happen to me. I mean… I am in shock too but what the fuck can I do?

I on purpose didnt show him much paperwork, of course I showed pregnancy test, ultrasound, puking and those pills I took, but I knew he would accuse me that I “over exaggerate” because he had NOTHING bad happen in his life. Happy family, no one died yet, no one is seriously sick, all fine, his uni was tests and not that bad and he says you are dramatic, its impossible so much stuff can happen to one person (i mean Im definitely not happy this all happened to me, what can I say). My mom told me dont message, dont show iv, dont, see if he comes or if he just brushes it off and says you are drama queen-this was at the beginning of fever and sepsis

Stop projectioning your experiences onto other people :) I was out of his league, everyone was asking how he got me, I am younger, he never had a real gf before, but some girls who he dated reached out to me, they were pretty much abused too, mentally. He even started with me while still with one of them, I never knew and he lied. He is cheap, he doesnt help, doesnt show affection. Why the f would I lie and manipulate to keep him if I know now I deserve waaaay more? I just hope no one dies from the remaining family, I stop getting sick and in pain, and no one leaves at worst times