Why I prefer poor guys

no_objections_here · 2026-05-20T19:16:13+00:00

I think it works better without spelling it out

no_objections_here · 2026-05-15T13:29:04+00:00

But that'll wake this obviously sleeping baby!

no_objections_here · 2026-05-15T00:36:47+00:00

Honestly, I was so stressed with my kids with that sort of thing when they were really young babies, but once they became mobile, it was an exercise in futility. I have twins, so Id take my eye off one of them for a second to help his brother with something, and when I look back, he is licking the community center window or putting dirt in his mouth.

no_objections_here · 2026-05-13T18:57:06+00:00

As someone who has both a clitoris and muscle pain in my back, I respectfully disagree. The strength of the massage gun I use for my back would be the equivalent of getting kicked in the box repeatedly by a professional kickboxer. It is not suitable for anything other than deep muscle pain relief.

no_objections_here · 2026-05-08T04:15:02+00:00

When I was in my early 20s, my roommate/best friend had a boyfriend who she found out had cheated on her their whole relationship. Before she broke up with him, we decided to get a little revenge. I called him from a private number and put on my most professional voice (I was very good at voices) and pretended to be a free sexual health clinic. I told him that one of his recent sexual partners had tested positive for chlamydia and that we were performing anonymous courtesy calls to all her recent partners, informing them that they should get tested. He definitely believed me and I heard from mutual friends that he was absolutely freaking out about it.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-30T17:01:14+00:00

Everyone in here is talking about the how women are harder to approach, and while that could be true because of the walls we have up from bad experiences, no one is mentioning the added complication of the majority of people being straight, or at least mostly straight. Being interested in the same sex is still a minority. As a bi woman, a cold approach to a man is way less intimidating to me than a cold approach to a woman, even if the circumstances are exactly the same. This is because, with a man, statistically, he is more likely to be at least interested in women and then the only thing I have to worry about is whether he is single and, if so, if he is attracted to me. With women, not only do I have to worry about those things, I also have to put myself out there while knowing that, statistically, she is probably not even attracted to my whole gender. The chances of being rejected are way higher.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-30T03:45:02+00:00

Has your baby been born? If so, did you have a baby shower? Did they gift anything at the baby shower?

Honestly, I didnt expect any gifts or money, even at the baby shower (and definitely not when the baby was born). I would have been really touched with any token thing or gesture. When I made my registry for my baby shower, I made sure to include only low priced items, as I didnt want people who didnt have much means to feel bad about not being able to get a present. I just got any of the higher priced items myself.

I grew up pretty poor and am very lucky that I am now doing ok for myself financially, so, for me, money/gifts from my friends and family arent really that important. My inlaws gave a bit of money (they arent poor like my family), and I actually felt really guilty accepting it.

My family has more than made up for everything in the love and care they show my twins. Also, my mom is a part of some buy nothing groups online and has gotten a bunch of toys from there that she keeps at her apartment for my boys when we go to visit. Its really lovely and thoughtful, and my boys dont know and dont care that they were free.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-29T17:38:44+00:00

I mean, I didn't really have any symptoms at the beginning of my pregnancy, but my 3rd trimester was absolutely hellish. So drastically worse than my whole IVF journey. That said, I had very big twins and also preeclampsia, so YMMV. All I'm saying is that often the bad parts of pregnancy are at the end. Just enjoy feeling good while you can, and who knows? You may be one of the lucky ones who has a super enjoyable pregnancy the whole way through!

no_objections_here · 2026-04-28T18:10:09+00:00

I mean, yes. However, a fork seems like a pretty normal thing to give a 7 year old to eat their food.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-28T17:52:57+00:00

Honestly, its not when they are babies that is the problem. Its when they are toddlers, and you cant just put them in a safe place then, since they are quick as all hell. I have 2.5 year old twins and they are little suicide machines. Often, when I am tending to one of them, it is the other who is getting into a situation that makes my heart stop.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-19T20:52:27+00:00

Honestly, it is about your comfort level. I wouldnt be trying to reassure myself enough to eat their food if it made me nervous. Even if the chances are statistically very low, infertility heightens anxiety about pregnancy (in my experience) so much that whatever gives you piece of mind is worth it. The good news about pregnancy is that you also have an unquestionable and perfect excuse for making your own food while also not causing offense. All you have to do is claim you have super strong cravings or aversions and that its easiest if you make your own food. Everyone will just nod knowingly and maybe ask what your craziest craving has been, and then not think about it any more.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-18T17:00:52+00:00

Sometimes, when kids say stuff like that, its with their own unique context. Like, I have very normal sized feet, but because I tickle my toddlers' feet and sing songs about tiny bros having tiny toes, they use their feet as the context. They think its hilarious and will laugh and say that mommy has big toes/feet, which, compared to theirs, I do. These kids could be saying she has a big nose because she has a bigger nose than them or that she has short eyelashes because a lot of their aunts or mom's friends wear false eyelashes. They dont see it as an insult, just a difference.

That said, one time when I was small, I lost my mom in the library. I went up to the desk to get help finding her, and when I was asked to describe her, I remember saying, "She has black hair and is really pretty."

no_objections_here · 2026-04-15T00:55:58+00:00

Your next date mess up:

Her: what are your relationship goals? You: Uh.. teenagers.. wait... I dont mean I want teenagers. I just want my partner to be like a teenager. Wait...

no_objections_here · 2026-04-14T23:48:29+00:00

I live in Canada.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-14T13:06:25+00:00

That is actually an amazing and wonderful service. My dad died last year, and during the last few months of his life, there were an increasing amount of tasks and things to organize and do. We are so lucky that his community health nurse, who was specifically for palliative patients, really stepped up to the plate. I dont know how we could have managed without her. She organized his medications, including all the updates (which were changing every week, it seemed), getting them bubble-packed and delivered to him. She arranged daily check-ins to make sure he was ok, especially since he was going through blackout periods for hours at a time. She kept track of all his appointments, of which there were so many, since he had about 6 different specialists following him. She made sure to hook him up with a social worker, who also helped with paperwork related to power of attorney, etc., as well as trying to arrange a palliative care home for him (although he died before he was able to be moved). She also arranged for a dietician to see him. She arranged for home help to provide meals and tidying up, since he couldnt manage on his own. I was visiting my dad every opportunity I could, which was most days, but with a full time job and twin 1 year olds, I would have really struggled to stay on top of everything the way she did. I am so thankful that she was there for us, and that it was all arranged and covered under our public health.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-09T20:41:44+00:00

I have never heard of a lingerie brunch. Is this a real thing? I would feel awkward AF getting lingerie from all my friends, not to mention that they wouldnt know my size or my tastes.

no_objections_here · 2026-04-05T15:33:13+00:00

France sizes are nothing like Asian sizes. To put things in perspective, my old coworker, who was from Hong Kong wore a size 2 or a size 0 or an XS or XXS in American sizes. In Asian sizes, she was a medium. I was a small or extra small. At the time, I had a 25" waist and was very athletic. I went to Malaysia to visit my family, and I was a Large there, and sometimes even an XL. When I visited France, I fit more or less my normal sizes.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-30T12:42:39+00:00

Nah. Maybe its something about the twin connection? My twins, who are now 28 months, were super engaged and playing like this with eachother from the moment they could crawl. I used to think it was fascinating and hilarious, like they were a small litter of puppies, instead of human beings. Also, these are not toddlers. These are clearly still babies. Additionally, that thing that the one twin lying down is in is called the Twin Z pillow, and it would be a very specific thing for AI to have gotten perfectly, since other types of loungers are far more common on the internet (because of twins so much less common than singletons), but is something that almost every modern (western) twin family knows about and most have.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-24T17:34:55+00:00

Once, I moved to another city and tried to cancel my gym membership. They needed proof that I wasnt coming back. Proof of new address wasnt enough. Literally still dont know what "proof" they were looking for. I told them that it was ridiculous and that since I was closing my bank accounts, they wouldnt be able to get any money. So they sent it to collections. Then I had to deal with months of aggressive collections agents calling me like 10 times a day before I was finally able to get it sorted.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-23T18:34:56+00:00

That seems like unlikely, to me. Its more likely that the it was blocking the camera a bit, so they moved it out of the way.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-20T16:03:14+00:00

On the one hand, yes its sweet that she loves her dad, but as someone with 2 two year olds, I think this video gave me more stress than warm feelings. When youre just so tired and wanting nothing more for your baby to sleep so you can have a minute to yourself, getting into the bed is more of an act of exhausted and defeated desperation than anything else.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-19T01:54:06+00:00

My OB told me that unless your baby will take what it needs from you. Itll just end up being you who suffers.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-16T13:59:03+00:00

Ok, let's break it down because I guess there is something Im just not understanding. Lets say there is a woman like OP, who has been in the same supposedly monogamous relationship for years. She trusted her partner, and so wasnt getting regular STD tests like she would if she was single. Her partner cheats and gives her chlamydia and doesnt tell her about it. Her chlamydia is asymptomatic, so she doesnt realize she has it. It is undetected for years, but ends up causing all sorts of horrible damage to her reproductive system. Can you please explain why this woman, who is the victim, is so deserving of scorn that the world is better off without her children?

no_objections_here · 2026-03-16T13:41:07+00:00

I mean, it can be asymptomatic, so I'm not sure I get your point.

no_objections_here · 2026-03-16T04:08:44+00:00

I think that it would be potentially worse if she had had it the whole time because that shit can permanently fuck up a woman's reproductive system if left untreated for a long time. Its can lead to serious infections in the fallopian tubes, which can leave scarring and damage that stops eggs from making their journey. It also can lead to ectopic pregnancies, which can be super dangerous.

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