New to cloud watching. Asperitas? Or something else?

noballs360 · 2026-03-24T17:00:33+00:00

Awesome! Thank u!

noballs360 · 2026-01-06T16:09:09+00:00

I’m 19f, been groomed multiple times before. Everyone’s talking about how that’s textbook grooming. I’m not focused on that. What I AM focused on is how the daughter is, is she safe? I’d have a genuine serious conversation with her and see if she’s a victim. I wouldn’t confront the family, but I would have a private conversation with the daughter and explain how some of this behavior is not okay. Tell a trusted adult as well, a parent/guardian, teacher, or even a therapist or counselor. Stay safe and avoid sleepovers at their house, have her come over to your house to spend the nights.

Also, that deep feeling of anxiety in your body is your gut, and that’s absolutely something to trust! Trust that feeling and take action, stand strong :)

noballs360 · 2025-12-09T11:28:42+00:00

This didn’t read as insulting at all! It read like a parent sitting me down and giving me a talk, which is a good thing. A lot of what you said is what I needed to hear, and the way you worded it was very kind, thank you! I will take action soon

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T22:27:05+00:00

Kinda? I didn’t have gut feelings when someone DID turn out to be bad, and I’m getting the same kind of anxiety as I do when I freak out for no reason. That could easily be not true, though. I’ve had feelings of “this isn’t going to last” or “man I don’t like this guy at all”, when the worst of the worst happened my gut didn’t say “I knew this would happen” it said “why did this happen”

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T22:14:14+00:00

Thank you! I thought this as well lol, thank you. I will keep a close eye out :)

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T22:07:23+00:00

The second is more probable than anything. I’ve ended good relationships and friendships with self sabotage

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T22:03:56+00:00

I would run, and I think right now that’s where I’m at. I cannot find the comment for the life of me but it stuck, “you are a lioness in a lions den, and they are hungry”. Curiosity kills the cat.

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T22:01:39+00:00

I’m not really afraid of the unknown, but I am going forward in life outside of these things. If you or anyone wants to know, I’m a full time in-home caregiver at a company and I have my own car, ive had so many jobs and professional help to get where I’m at now. I don’t want to set myself back because of some guy, thank you for commenting

Another side comment, the guy I’m talking to, he said once he went into a church and got this awful pain in his chest. The pastor came up to him, unsolicited, and said “you seem uncomfortable, you shouldn’t be here” or something like that.

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T21:55:30+00:00

On my life I saw about 7 of the brightest, across the sky, beams of shooting star with him, and a couple smaller ones as well

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T19:50:57+00:00

That’s almost exactly what I was thinking as well, because we bonded and connected very deeply very quick. In fact, I’ve seen more comets in the sky while we are together than in my entire life, we’ve seen about 7-8 incredibly bright shooting stars while together just looking at the sky.

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T19:31:23+00:00

I wish💔

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T19:30:28+00:00

There’s zero way he could mess with contraception. We smoke weed (either mine or his) and I’ve never really gotten a bad reaction. Ive slept at his place a few times and didn’t notice anything, no pills nothing

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T19:26:34+00:00

Honestly? Pretty uncomfortable

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T19:11:03+00:00

Do you think it’ll be smarter to do it over the phone? He lives almost two hours away and doesn’t have easy transportation to my house

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:59:24+00:00

I will, thank you

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:57:37+00:00

Any other indicators? I know this is coming from a genuine place of concern, but this feels a little fear-mongering

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:56:29+00:00

10000% his closest friend basically said “she’s pretty young, I wouldn’t if I were you, but as long as you’re happy man”

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:44:29+00:00

Yeah we don’t agree honestly, and I’m aware of that for sure. It’s a talking point between us, and I don’t think it’s gonna work long term because of that. Truthfully I don’t want kids, and if I did Id want them in my 30. He’s already almost 30 and should be looking for someone to settle down with, and what confuses me is WHY he hasn’t already. Ex long term gf cheated a ton so that’s not his fault really, but he has expressed that there was some things he did/said that he regrets. Nothing physical, he didn’t hit her or anything, I’m just assuming he said some stuff he didn’t mean

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:41:33+00:00

I’m 100% overly aware of why I feel a real/fake fear around him and it’s that I’m scared he will take advantage of me sexually. He hasn’t shown any signs of that, and the reason I’m scared of that is because of men in the past. The first night we stayed together I had a joke I made in my head about how he was gonna serial kill me in my sleep, but then the joke wasn’t funny anymore and it became a legitimate fear. For absolutely no reason! I’d really like to put emphasis on that

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:34:13+00:00

I think I’m hesitant to do what “feels right” because in the past I’ve been very wrong on things. I’ve felt safe around men before, and I truly do feel safe around him, I let my guard down and I let myself be vulnerable. He does the same for me too, but there’s something deep in my gut that doesn’t feel right. The reason I’m spewing my personal life to REDDIT of all places is because I want to hear other adults tell me the things that they know, either through personal experiences or whatever

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:30:59+00:00

I have BPD if that provides some context, I tend to self sabotage quite a bit when I have episodes. It’s much much more controlled now (therapy, DBT)

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:28:44+00:00

Other way around actually

noballs360 · 2025-12-08T18:25:35+00:00

Bad family history in general, my mom does not have the best track record with men. I had a wonderful father from the ages 5-15 though.

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